In a busy, modern world, with many people juggling fast-paced careers, turbulent lifestyles, families, friends and many more besides, the thing to suffer is often your sexual health. You may find that you simply have no time for sex, and it seems like the last thing on your priority list.
In these modern times, however, when sexuality, sexual wellness and wellbeing and all associated issues are discussed more openly, it is surprising to find that sex is so low down the priority list for so many women.
The main causes of lack of desire are generally tiredness, lack of intimacy in the relationship, lack of communication, getting older, changes in lifestyle, physical or hormonal changes associated with childbirth or the menopause, or even the effects of contraception.
Many researchers have attempted to make sense of female sexual desire in order to better explain why fewer and fewer women are enjoying a good, healthy libido. Some say that it is because the physiological changes in the body causes a mental lack of desire to have sex, and some say it is the other way around. Whatever way you look at it, however, it represents a serious problem.
In women – more so than in men – there is a strong link between the body and the mind. If women don’t feel physically attractive then it doesn’t matter what the reality is. Similarly, if women feel confident and sexy, it doesn’t matter whether that is in reality the case. It’s all about how they feel, and therefore it’s impossible to cure sexual desire with some kind of female equivalent of Viagra, to ‘pep’ a physical part of them up again. Lack of sexual desire has to be treated on all levels – mental, emotional, psychological and physical, to really get to the root of the problem, in order to solve it.
