Do you get on well with your brothers and sisters now that you’re grown up? Or are simmering sibling tensions from your childhood preventing you from having a loving relationship?
While many adults have great relationships with their brothers and sisters, there are just as many who do not get on. Often childhood jealousies, arguments and rivalry can leave resentment long into adulthood.
However a brother or sister can provide a great source of support and friendship so it’s worth fixing any unresolved issues so that you can enjoy a fulfilling relationship with your adult siblings.
Aside from the usual childhood quarrels, there can sometimes be more serious issues from your past that need addressing. Perhaps there is a specific incident, or series of events that led to you falling out with your sibling. The first step is to talk to your brother or sister about what went wrong. Quite often you find that two people view a past event very differently and hearing the story from the other person’s point of view can sometimes be very revealing.
It’s also important not to blame one another for your parent’s actions. Perhaps you’ve never forgiven your parents for favouring one child above the others. Although you may still be upset – don’t take your anger out on the wrong person.
When you have a brother or sister it’s easy to take them for granted because unlike a friend, you know they’ll always be there. But it’s important to put effort into sibling relationships. Make time to see one another regularly – and not just at family gatherings. And don’t hold a grudge – even if you feel like the wronged party, be the one that gets in touch or says ‘I’m sorry’ first.
