Moving into an assisted living facility is a huge change for a loved one, as well as for family members. However, there are some things you can do so the switch is as hassle-free as possible for everyone. There’s no foolproof way to help someone you love adopt to a new living environment, but the tips below can make the process much less stressful.
Recognize When the Time Is Right
There are often many strong and very personal emotions associated with determining whether now is the appropriate time for your loved one to move into an assisted living facility. However, for the safety of your loved one, plus your own peace of mind, it’s important to learn some of the telltale signs that strongly suggest it’s time to get help.
For example, if you notice your loved one starts displaying aggression that gets worse as the day progresses, he or she may be displaying a symptom called sundowning. It can be extremely taxing for caregivers. Also, if you feel your loved one is no longer safe in his or her own home and you cannot adequately offer the necessary assistance, it’s time to think about approaching an assisted living facility.
Have Open Conversations
Elderly loved ones can become embarrassed or bitter if they feel their wishes are not being respected during the transition process. Take time to listen to fears and concerns, as well as any specifics they have about how they’d like to live.
When loved ones feel you’re respecting their freedom of choice, they’ll be less likely to get defensive. At the heart of your conversations, try to convey you’re concerned about his or her well-being and are responding out of love.
Do Your Research
It’s often best to choose a facility that offers a wide range of assisted living options for clients. Whereas you may have initially decided residential assisted living is the best option for the one you love, it might become clear that for now, a supervised environment during daytime hours is actually a better choice.
The Internet is a great way to start searching for a facility, but you should also take time to do in-person tours when possible. Asking trusted friends for recommendations about elderly living options is a great avenue to pursue, too.
Figure Out Financing
Many well-meaning family members of elderly loved ones decide to move them into very upscale facilities that are ultimately too pricey. If a person is residing at an assisted living facility but then runs out of funding options, he or she will likely have to move. That could be extremely stressful and overwhelming. To avoid that possibility, talk honestly about budgeting, and err on the side of caution.
Be Respectful
Whether you are at the point where you’re helping a loved one move into a new place or are still surveying the options, remember that anxiety and uncertainty are common emotions during any major life change. If you can make it clear you want to be respectful and supportive, loved ones will be more likely to confide in you.
Transitioning to assisted living is not a straightforward decision, nor should it be one made in haste. The suggestions above should make it easier to be sensitive to your loved one’s desire for as much independence as possible, while also being mindful of health and safety concerns.
