Some would say it’s a teenage rite of passage and most adults can remember the first time they had their heart broken. But although as adults we can look back on the experience with perspective and wisdom, it’s not so easy for a teenager who is going through the misery of a break up for the first time.
It can be hard to see your teenager suffering the despair and despondency of heartbreak. Here are some ways you can help:
Forget the Clichés
No-one who’s just been dumped wants to hear “there’s plenty more fish in the sea” or “you’ll get over it”. Although as adults we know this is true, for the teen going through heartbreak they don’t believe that they will ever love again and indeed don’t want to love again. By telling them that things aren’t that bad, they will just think that you don’t understand their feelings.
Be Available
Even if all they do is lock themselves in their bedroom, it will be reassuring for your teenager to know that you are there if they do need to talk. Cook their favourite dishes, let them watch a funny movie, or just let them cry on your shoulder, if that’s what they want.
Respect Their Privacy
You might be tempted to encourage your child to take part in family activities to take their mind off things but sometimes all they want is to lie on their bed or talk to their friends. If this is the case, let them get on with it. Just make sure they know you are there when they are ready to come out of their room.
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