Five Sexy Scenarios to Add to Your Sexual Bucket List

You probably have a bucket list of things you want to do in your life – but what about your sexual wellness to-dos? According to sex and relationship expert Emily Morse, ‘Actually writing something down gets you to mentally commit to it.’ So get out your pen and paper and start jotting down all the things you’ve always wanted to try. To help get you started, we’ve come up with a sexual bucket list of our own.

 

1. The Lift Up: Sexual health and wellness expert Faye Brennan instructs, ‘Bend over and put your hands on the ground and your butt in the air (think downward-facing dog). Have your guy stand behind you in a wide stance with his hands on your hips. Once he’s inside you, control the motion by going up and down on your toes and pushing your backside into his groin.’ Why should this be on your sexual bucket list? Lisa Sweet, author of 365 Sex Thrills, explains, ‘This puts you in total control of the action. The angle will offer G-spot stimulation, and he can also slide his hands around to give your clitoris some TLC.’

 

2. Post-Workout Sex: Brennan details, ‘Research in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women enjoyed a 150% increase in genital arousal after a 20-minute cardio session—but it faded after about 30 minutes.’ So jump in the shower with your man as soon as you get home, and put your back against the shower wall while you raise a leg. Sweet notes, ‘He can hold your knee in the crook of his elbow—it will open you up and direct the pressure against your clitoris.’ A little tip: having him make small circles with his hips instead of thrusting can help prevent him wiping out.

 

3. Watch Erotic Movies Together: ‘Resist the urge to riffle through Netflix and instead pop in an erotic movie that caters to both of your libidos,’ suggests Brennan. ‘A study published in the International Journal of Impotence Research found that men preferred more graphic sex scenes while women got excited by erotic story lines.’ Kat Van Kirk, PhD, a clinical sexologist and relationship therapist, recommends Intimate Encounters  as ‘It shows couples in intimate situations, but there’s plenty of explicit sex for guys to appreciate.’ However, if you don’t like the idea of full-on porn, try a mainstream movie with intense sex scenes, like Blue Valentine or Wild Orchid.

 

4. Take Sex Ed for Adults: You go to classes to learn how to do yoga or improve your cooking skills, so why not learn a little more about sex? Master Jeff, co-host of the Experience Channel’s No Vanilla Web series, recommends such classes. He points out, ‘For instance, you can learn to give each other a sexy massage.’ Look out for sexy retailers in your area to see if they offer any workshops. After all, it’s never a bad thing to get a little bit of instruction in these areas — especially if you’re trying them for the first time!

 

5. No-Thrust Sex: Rachael Ross, MD, PhD, sexologist and family-medicine physician on The Doctors, details, ‘Basically, he enters you and there’s a lot of kissing, caressing, and touching—without any pelvic thrusting… your vagina will start to rhythmically contract.’ Brennan adds, ‘This slow-burn technique, used in tantric sex, is still erotic enough to give you an orgasm…and it reconnects you as a couple, reminding you that sex is about more than pounding away and going to sleep.’ Plus, without all that exhausting thrusting, you can make this tantric experience last for hours.

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Why Should You to Treat Your Diet Like Your Relationships?

in a man can help you to finally find your prince – and the same can be said for your diet. After all, the way to weight loss wellness is through a harmonious relationship with food, while that love-hate thing you have going on can be detrimental to your wellbeing.

 

Registered dietician Cynthia Sass, MPH, RD, author of the New York Times best seller is S.A.S.S! Yourself Slim: Conquer Cravings, Drop Pounds and Lose Inches, urges, ‘I encourage you to create your list, one that includes what you really need from an eating plan, as well as attributes you’re certain just don’t work for you. I’ve seen this exercise help clients finally stop the vicious cycle of starting another diet that fizzles out after a few weeks or gaining back fifteen pounds after losing 10. In fact, this upfront tactic is actually one of the most effective ways to lose weight for good, because it will help you find an approach you can stick with, which in my experience is the most important ingredient for success.’

 

So how do you create this list? On one side of a sheet a paper, write down the characteristics that are vital for your eating strategy. According to Sass, ‘Some of my clients will list things like: must include foods I enjoy; must be easy to follow; and must allow for splurges and dining out.’ On the other side of the paper, jot down any of the things you’ve tried in the past and thought “never again.” What eating techniques have just made you feel overwhelmed, tired, hungry, irritable, or basically like throwing in the towel? ‘On this side of the page, I frequently see things like: too complicated; too boring; not flexible; too repetitive,’ says Sass.

 

While it’s unlikely to find the perfect diet plan to fit this list, you can use it as a tool to evaluate the weight loss programmes that you come across. ‘I once had a client who was considering starting a diet that only allowed one type of fruit,’ Sass remembers. ‘She was enticed, because a co-worker following the programme appeared to be shrinking by the day. But this client loved fruit, and in the past, she eventually gave up on any diet that deprived her of foods she knew she couldn’t live without. And by giving up, I mean she binged on forbidden foods, and wound up right back where she started.’

 

Sass continues, ‘We talked about the fact that she probably would lose weight on this plan, but in her gut, she knew that shunning winter grapes, spring cherries, summer melons, and fall pears (all no-nos) was going to make her resentful enough to eventually dump the diet, and fall right back into the old habits that led to her 40 pound weight gain. To break the cycle, she had to find a strategy that would not only help her shed pounds, but also allow her keep the weight off, because it felt good enough to stick with. In other words, much like dating, if you can’t see yourself in the relationship six months from now, it’s probably not going to work, and in both love and weight loss, stick-with-it-ness is ultimately what matters most.’

 

So if you’ve been unlucky in dieting, why not try the list approach? It’s far better to work out the pros and cons of a diet plan before you waste your time, money and energy on something that just won’t work. Get wise to your “must-haves” and “never-agains” and do dieting your way.

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What Makes a Company Excel at Creating Work-Life Balance?

The leader of any successful company will tell you that a work-life balance is good for corporate wellness; a reputation of putting employee wellbeing first increases morale, yields superior work and attracts the best talent in the market. Recently, job site Indeed.com released a list of the top 25 companies nationwide in terms of work-life balance, and director of recruiting Mark Steinerd explained, ‘Proper work-life balance makes employees feel appreciated, which in turn makes them more productive and more likely to stay with the company for an extended period of time… This list showcases those companies that, according to previous or current employees, got it right.’

 

Companies who made the list often infused balance into the work day itself, through creative managerial practices. Desk time is often the epitome of work day drudgery, and so Farhad Chowdhury, the chief executive officer of the application development firm Fifth Tribe, works with collaborators over an intensive four-mile hike rather than a conference room. The physical challenge is a great team-building exercise, and the collaborating element promotes thinking outside the box by removing professionals from the box itself. Chowdhury noted, ‘That’s why I try to do this with everyone with whom I interact professionally.’

 

Flex time also rated high on Indeed.com’s list of companies. As an employee at Wegmans explained, ‘Because I am a college student, my schedule can sometimes be all over the place. Thankfully Wegmans is more than happy to work around my school and personal schedule and make a work schedule that I can easily adhere to. For the two years I have worked at Wegmans, I have not regretted one minute of it!’ Most of us would rather work to live, rather than live to work, which means we place higher value on picking our kids up from school, attending a class or going to an important family event, than putting in the nine to five. During his 2010 TEDTalk Why Work Doesn’t Happen at Work, Jason Fried, co-founder of the Web application firm 37signals, explained a flexible professional atmosphere allows the long, uninterrupted thought required for great (and even good) work to manifest.

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