Revealed: The Truth About Whether Penis Size Matters

It’s the biggest question in the world of sexual wellness and wellbeing: does size matter? Men and women are often very curious about what the right or average penis size is, with men in particular being fixated on the idea that their penis may be inadequate. Men often worry that women will form opinions of them based on the size of their penis. The media has not helped with this problem as it constantly shows men in porn movies that have above-average sized members. There is also a large number of treatments and remedies available that claim to lengthen the penis, and this leads men to believe that it must be an important issue.

 

Most men see their penis as their prized possession. Boys sexually identify themselves by the fact that they have a penis and therefore having a penis becomes closely linked to their self esteem. From an early age, boys discover that they have a penis and develop a lifelong fascination with it. The media then reinforces the idea that penises equal power, masculinity, and sexual prowess.

 

The average penis size is around three and a half inches long when it is flaccid and about six inches long when erect, according to self-reported data from men. Researchers found that when they did their own measurements, however, the data revealed penises to be smaller than the self-reported figures indicated.

 

In actual fact, figures show that the real data could be a penis length of 5.3 inches when erect and much smaller when flaccid.

 

Women are also much less concerned with penis size than men seem to think. In porn films, women exaggerate their responses to the length of penises, but in real life women report that they feel very content with the penis sizes that they encounter.

 

Whilst more than half of the men surveyed said they were unhappy with their penis size, around 85 percent of women said that they were happy with the penis size of their partner.

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Does Sex Have to Last a Long Time to Be Any Good?

Through books, movies and word of mouth, we are conditioned to believe that for a sexual experience to be fulfilling, it has to last a long time. This idea can actually be damaging to your wellbeing and wellness, through self-esteem, as you feel that if your sex sessions aren’t lasting for hours then something is missing from your relationship. Men can also feel huge pressure to make sure that things don’t end too quickly, when in reality they should be allowed to ‘let go’ some time.

 

All over the media, the idea that everyone wants sex to last all night is perpetuated, and yet this is actually contrary to research, which indicates that over 40 percent of women have faked an orgasm in the past, purely to ‘get it over with’. The best sex is really not the sex that goes on for as long as possible, and it in no way reflects the ultimate expression of sexual intimacy or lovemaking.

 

Men fear that their masculinity will be measured against how long they can last in bed. They feel that if they can keep going for ages it will prove his sexual prowess and satisfy his partner.

 

In reality, it doesn’t matter how long sex lasts, really, it’s all about quality and not quantity. If men are not doing the right things in the right places then it doesn’t matter how long it lasts, it will be uncomfortable or just plain boring for their partner. Intercourse is only pleasurable for a woman if she has adequate clitoral stimulation, and if this does not happen then it does not matter how long the act goes on for, it will still not be a pleasurable experience for her.

 

Most of the nerve endings are actually on the outer area of the vagina, not the inner area, so the idea that prolonged penetrative sex is more pleasurable is completely misleading.

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Random Acts of Kindness: Better Wellness for All Involved

You wouldn’t normally write a love letter to a complete stranger, but when an anxious and depressed Hannah Brencher graduated from college and moved to New York City, that’s exactly what she did. She explained, ‘What I noticed was that my sadness and loneliness got backburnered. I found something that allowed me to take the focus off of myself.’

Hannah has left letters for strangers on trains, in libraries and cafes, and even hidden them around the United Nations building. The letter says, “You and I don’t know one another… I wish you would know on a daily basis: that you are lovely. That you are worthy. That those hands of yours were made for mighty, mighty things…You are probably sitting here with this letter in your hands thinking, you cannot know that… you don’t know me… But I know all the things I thought I never deserved.’

It continues, ‘I know how very hard it once was to love myself and value myself and even find myself worth the reflection in the mirror. And so I know I am not alone in needing a boost some days, in needing to know that I matter to someone somewhere. You matter to me. In a way I cannot explain, you matter to me. And you, you are a marvel… you and all the parts of you. Love, A girl just trying to find her way.’

Hannah’s More Love Letters campaign is part of a growing number of organisations shouting about the beneficial emotional wellness effects that random acts of kindness have for givers as well as receivers. It may sound a bit new-age, but this is backed up by scientific research. According to a new study published in the journal Emotion, if your wellbeing is affected by social anxiety, performing acts of kindness may help.

Dr Lynn Alden, the study’s leader, comments, ‘I think it has be done in such a way that the individual has a sense of autonomy. They are performing the act because they want to and not because it’s required by the group.’ However, David Goodfellow, one of the founding members of the Kindness Offensive, a group which has organised give-away events and encouraged kind acts since 2008, says, ‘It’s practically impossible to do an act of kindness without feeling good about yourself. If you can make someone’s day a little bit better it will actually make your day a little bit better.’

 

Random Acts of Kindness: Better Wellness for All Involved

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