It is not uncommon for a sexual relationship to diminish with time. It’s fairly common knowledge that the active sex life that most couples experience when they first get together is not sustained as the relationship progresses. A recent study into sexual wellness and wellbeing has also confirmed that this is the case. A recent article was published in New York Magazine, looking at information from 15 different couples who have stopped having sex and trying to understand the reasons behind it.
What the article doesn’t address, however, is what people should do when the sex goes out of their relationship. If you are in this position, you probably want some helpful advice about how to get things back on track, and, fortunately, there are some important things that you need to bear in mind.
First of all, try not to take it personally. It’s very easy, of course, to feel that your partner simply doesn’t find you attractive, but this is generally not the case, and there can be numerous other reasons for a lack of sexual intimacy.
You must also talk about it with your partner. It’s a very difficult subject to talk about and you may even fear what your partner is going to say about the situation, but not addressing the issue is one of the main reasons that situations like this get prolonged. It may not seem particularly sexy, but having a discussion about how to improve things in the bedroom can do wonders in the long run, too.
Bear in mind, too, that it is a complete fallacy that men want more sex with women. People are all different, and enjoy varying libidos.
If you are the one putting the kibosh on sex in your marriage, try to honestly examine the reasons why. It’s ok to be tired from time to time (or quite often) but if tiredness is leading to complete lack of sex in your marriage then you have to prioritise sorting it out.
