There are certain expert moves you can pull to make your man want you more, but they aren’t always from the sexual health experts you’d expect. We’ve spoken to sculptors, stylists and marriage coaches for their top sex moves.
1. The Sculptor: According to artist and sculptor Pablo Solomon, there’s a reason why so many world-famous portraits focus on a nude woman’s back. ‘A slight curve of the spine is visually mind-blowing,’ he says. ‘The more you’re aware of your movements, the more present you are in your body.’ To make the most of your sculpture-worthy curves, sexual wellness expert Anna Davies suggests, ‘Allow your guy to put on your necklace as you bend forward slightly, exaggerate your movements as you pick your purse up off of the floor, and shrug off your jacket so he can see your bare shoulder…Give him a bit of a show — and know he’ll be dying for more once you head home.’
2. The Marriage Coach: Marriage and family coach John Wilder details, ‘I always tell my patients to eliminate the word “no” from their vocabulary with each other, unless their partner is requesting something demeaning, abusive, or illegal. The word “no” conveys the idea that your partner’s attitudes and desires aren’t important to you. When you say “yes,” you set up an open environment where your partner will respond in kind to your requests.’
3. The Wardrobe Stylist: On date night, keep it simple with nude heels to elongate your legs, a v-neck top because the v lengthens your neck, and anything that accentuates your curves, says Chicago-based wardrobe stylist Hannah Asbaugh. ‘Men want to see the shape of your body, confidence, and natural beauty,’ she explains. ‘I always recommend clients belt the smallest part of the waist to automatically achieve a flattering hourglass shape.’
4. The Gym Rat: Fitness enthusiast Shari Alexander, a communication specialist from Los Angeles, claims that a buff stranger always compliments her when she hits the weights. She asserts, ‘Every time I do chin-ups at the gym, a ripped guy always ends up stopping by my spot and telling me how badass it is that a girl is doing that.’ Davies advises, ‘Make it work with your guy by letting him sneak a peek at your arm-toning routine — or tell him you’ll take the grocery bags from the car to the house this time.’
5. The Former Playboy Model: Stephanie Adams, a former Playboy model and Miss November 1992, recalls, ‘I had a hard time after I had a baby, because I couldn’t lose the weight easily. But then I realised: I suddenly had full breasts and a curvier bottom. I decided to make the most of them, dressing in clothes that were flattering and comfortable, and walking proudly, instead of trying to hide.’ After all, it’s a lot easier to enjoy your curves than work tirelessly to change them.
6. The Boudoir Photographer: You might feel like it’s overdoing it to stick on the false eyelashes, sky-high heels and red lipstick – but, for Natalie Kita, a photographer and makeup artist at boudoir photography studio Get Shot Naked, that’s the whole point. ‘We get so stuck in a routine and in seeing ourselves in the same way that it can feel disconcerting or out of character to dress up,’ she admits. ‘But remember that what looks over-the-top in the bathroom mirror will be jaw-dropping when you’re meeting your husband at a candlelit lounge for a drink.’
7. The Erotica Author: If you’re not so good at dirty talk, let him fill in the blanks. Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor of Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples, suggests, ‘Start a sentence — or a text — with “remember the time when we…”. His mind will fill in the rest.
