If you’ve ever seen When Harry Met Sally, you’ll know how easy it is for a woman to fake an orgasm – but did you know that it’s a tactic women take on a regular basis? In fact, 64% of women have pretended their sexual wellness was better than it was, and actually faked an orgasm. When you rock your partner’s world, it can be a major boost to your sense of sexual health and wellbeing, but, statistically speaking, it’s likely that you’re not rocking it as hard as you think you are. All the screaming, thrashing and “Oh, gods” could have all been an attempt just to get it over with quickly, so how do you know if you’ve ever even given her an orgasm?
There are actual signs of an orgasm that your partner simply cannot fake, all you need to be able to do is spot them. A real man can tell if a woman is faking it, and he won’t be satisfied until his partner is too. Therefore, it’s well worth knowing the biological signs of the female orgasms. However, before we continue, it’s worth noting that if you’re not seeing these telltale signs, it’s likely that you’ve got as much explaining to do as she does. Chances are that your partner is faking it so that she doesn’t hurt your feelings, so if the signs below aren’t live and kicking in the bedroom, it might be time for a frank discussion about how you can really please her for a change.
1. Her Walls Contract: Just as your little friend gets stiff when he’s aroused, the walls of your partner’s vagina will begin to tighten when she’s really feeling it. You’ll be able to tell if your finger or something else is in there. If the walls noticeably contract for a few seconds before relaxing again, it means the moment is right for you to really bring her all the way.
2. Her Eyes Change: While the missionary position may seem a little tired, it does have one unique advantage; eye contact. When you’re right up in each other’s faces being all romantic, you can take a look at her eyes as she experiences the fiery peak of the heat of the moment. While it’s possible that you might not have the presence of mind to focus on this detail, you can tell if she’s having a real orgasm because her eyes will become unfocused momentarily.
3. Her Skin Changes: After an orgasm, most women experience a “sex flush” on their skin. No, that’s not some term used in strip poker; it means that your partner’s skin reddens slightly due to her amped-up blood flow. After you collapse onto the bed next to her, take a look at her skin. If it’s still as exquisitely pale as ever, the odds are that you weren’t doing it for her the way she was doing it for you.
4. Her Breathing Changes: Slow and steady may be the way to beat a hare, but a steady breathing rate is a sure-fire sign that she’s not winning that race any time soon. If you’re really pleasing your partner, her breathing will become spastic and short in the last few moments of lead-up. Otherwise, she might be having a pleasant time – but that’s it.
5. Her Body Gets Tense: You may be thinking that sex is meant to relax you all over, rather than tense you up, but this is actually a very good thing. Temporarily, your partner’s body will get tense and, rest assured, this tension is no bad thing. If your partner is having an orgasm, her muscles will be contracting, which means her body will temporarily turn rigid as the pleasure courses through her.
