Is Delayed Ejaculation Damaging Your Relationship?

Delayed ejaculation is one of those sexual health issues that couples really need to discuss. Also referred to as impaired ejaculation, delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis (or ejaculate). Sometimes, delayed ejaculation can really impact your sexual wellbeing, making it impossible for you to ejaculate at all. While this problem can affect your wellness temporarily, it can also be a lifelong problem, which is why you and your partner need to take steps to deal with this issue.

 

If you experience delayed ejaculation, this may be because you have an underlying chronic health condition, you’ve recently had surgery or you’re on some sort of medication. Other causes of delayed ejaculation include substance abuse and mental health concerns, such as depression, anxiety or stress. Often, delayed ejaculation is due to a combination of physical and psychological concerns. It’s important to understand the cause of your delayed ejaculation because this will determine the type of treatment you receive. That said, it’s perfectly normal to have delayed ejaculation at some point in your life. The only time you need to be concerned is if the problem is ongoing or causes stress for you or your partner – again, this is where communication is crucial.

 

Physical causes of delayed ejaculation include:

• Birth defects that affect your reproductive system


• Injury to the pelvic nerves that control your ability to orgasm


• Certain infections


• Prostate surgery, including transurethral resection of the prostate (TURP) or prostate removal


• Heart disease


• Prostate infection or urinary tract infection


• Neurological diseases, including diabetic neuropathy, stroke or nerve damage to your spinal cord


• Hormone-related conditions, including low thyroid hormone (hypothyroidism) or low testosterone

 

Psychological causes of delayed ejaculation include:

• Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions


• Relationship problems. This may be due to stress, poor communication or other concerns


• Anxiety about your sexual performance


• Cultural or religious taboos


• Differences between the reality of sex with your partner and your sexual fantasies

 

But what exactly do you go through with delayed ejaculation? Some men with the condition find that it takes at least 30 minutes of sexual stimulation to have an orgasm and ejaculation, while others suffer from anejaculation, or the inability to ejaculate at all. More often than not, when you have delayed ejaculation it means you can’t reach orgasm during sexual intercourse, but will be able to ejaculate through oral or manual stimulation of the penis. Some men find that masturbation is the only thing that helps them ejaculate. It’s important to understand the symptoms of delayed ejaculation as this will help you determine which type of the condition you have:

 

1. Lifelong vs. acquired: Acquired delayed ejaculation occurs after a period of normal sexual functioning, while lifelong delayed ejaculation is present from the time you reach reaches sexual maturity.

 

2. Generalized vs. situational: When you have generalized delayed ejaculation, the condition isn’t limited to certain sex partners or certain kinds of stimulation. Situational delayed ejaculation, on the other hand, occurs only under certain circumstances.

 

It’s important to find the category in which your delayed ejaculation falls, as this will help in diagnosing an underlying cause, and determining what might be the most effective treatment. You should go to see your GP as and when delayed ejaculation becomes an issue for you or your partner, you have another known health problem that may be linked to delayed ejaculation, you take medications that could be causing the problem, or you have other symptoms along with delayed ejaculation that may or may not seem related.

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10 Things Women Should Know About Sex

Some people think they know it all about sex. They think they’ve been around the block a few times and that nothing is new to them. For some people this is probably true, but for most, there are plenty of things that we are fooling ourselves about. This is especially true for women. For women, sex has always been a little more complicated than it is for men, this is because men have traditionally be viewed as the more highly sexed of the genders – always up for it and raring to go, while women would rather do other things. Of course, these kinds of clichés are no use to us in the modern world. So let’s take a look at the top 10 things that women need to know about sex.

1. It’s worth remembering that he doesn’t care if you’ve shaved – you don’t need to get self-conscious about it, he’s not thinking about it.


2. Your man likes the cuddling part too! It’s often thought that men only enjoy the rough aspects of sex; but it’s completely not the case. Men get a lot out of the loving, sensual side too. During sex both men and women release a lot of oxytocin, which is a hormone that promotes feelings of intimacy. That means men love to cuddle just as much as women do after sex.


3. Size does matter (sort of) but width is far more important than length. It’s not actually especially important either way, because most of the sexual stimulation that you receive comes around the entrance of the vagina and the clitoris.


4. Women masturbate a lot. Many people think that masturbation is limited only to men or that men masturbate more often than women. This isn’t necessarily true and it has been shown that women do masturbate a lot.


5. Variety is one of the most important things about sex. It’s always a good idea to try to mix things up as often as possible and not get stuck in a rut.


6. Porn can be a very useful tool. Women get just as turned on by porn as men do, so it’s worth taking the time to watch some porn with your partner. It is something that you can genuinely enjoy together.


7. Faking it is pointless. You might think it’s a good idea to fake your sexual stimulation, but this will only lead to your partner thinking they’re doing a good job of turning you on and then doing the same thing again next time. It’s a much better idea to tell them what it is that you like so they can do that for you instead.


8. Sex is better with your socks on. Having cold feet can really be a major turn off when having sex – research has shown that couples without socks on only achieved orgasm around 50% of the time in a cool room, while when they put sucks on, it was up to 80%.


9. It’s never too late to start having sex again. If you’ve found that your relationship is in a rut, it can seem like you only ever have sex a couple of times and it’s always the same thing. So instead of thinking like that, just go ahead and have sex spontaneously. It really is never too late to be spontaneous.


10. Nobody can make you orgasm like you can – so don’t expect to. Touching yourself will always be the quickest and most effective way to orgasm every time. Don’t put too much pressure on your partner.

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