The Four Female Orgasms: Which One Will You Try Having Next?

You know that women can have orgasms, but did you know that you can have different ones? According to a recent study published in the journal NeuroQuantology, there are four distinct types of female orgasm; clitoral, vaginal, blended, or multiple – so which one will you try having tonight?

 

1. Clitoral Orgasm: Sari Cooper, a certified sex therapist in New York City and a columnist for Psychology Today, points out that if your partner touches, caresses, or massages other parts of your genitals before heading for the clitoris, you’ll have a more pleasurable orgasm than if he homes straight in on that hot spot. Copper advises, ‘Have him make big circles with his fingers that include the shaft, labia, and upper part of the clitoral hood.’ To increase your chances of having a clitoral orgasm, sexual health and wellness expert Faye Brennan recommends, ‘Try having him use a fingertip vibrator like the Hello Touch Wearable Fingertip Vibrator ($65, jimmyjane.com). The more vocal you are about the speed, intensity, and pressure you prefer, the better the end result will be.’

 

2. Vaginal Orgasm: Brennan notes, ‘Though there is still some debate as to whether the G-spot exists, 30% of women claim they can have a big O from having the famous erogenous zone stimulated through penetration alone. First, locate the hot zone. On a solo night, explore the front wall of your vagina with your finger until you feel an area that’s rippled and spongy in texture. Touching it directly should feel pretty darn good. Then, during intercourse, have your man target his thrusting there. Try lying on your sides while facing each other, with your legs intertwined comfortably—think of two pairs of crisscrossed scissors. Keep your parts aligned and make sure his rubs against the front wall of your vagina.’ Michael Alvear, author of Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat, adds that changing positions after 15 minutes or so ‘reduces the chance of your man “closing the deal” too soon and helps your body experience new and fresh sensations.’

 

3. Blended Orgasm: By combining the clitoral and vaginal orgasm, ‘You’re getting the best of both worlds,’ says Cynthia Lief Ruberg, a certified sex therapist in Columbus, Ohio. ‘A blended orgasm is easier if the woman becomes very aroused before she has intercourse.’ So make sure you go full-throttle with the foreplay. When it comes to intercourse, Brennan comments, ‘The girl-on-top position is popular for a reason—it’s perfect for the double-whammy finish. But you can also try sitting on your partner’s lap facing away from him (he can stimulate your clitoris while you control the thrusting). Or, for a twist on missionary, have your guy inch his body up so your hips are aligned, and tilt your pelvis upward so that the base of his penis is on your clitoris but the rest of him is inside you.’

 

4. Multiple Orgasms: ‘Multiple orgasms happen one right after the next, not at different times in one session (although those are great too),’ Brennan explains. ‘Starting in foreplay, have your guy get you to your first clitoral climax using his hands or mouth (or a vibrator). Immediately afterward, he should continue to stimulate your C-spot in a slower manner for about 30 seconds, and then resume a normal pace to get you to a repeat performance.’ Amy Levine, a sex coach in New York City and founder of IgniteYourPleasure.com, notes, ‘He’s playing with your level of arousal from a heightened orgasmic state by giving your erogenous area a rest, as it may be overly sensitive to stimulation, and then increasing arousal again.’

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Moregasms: How to Climax Over and Oh-Oh-Over Again

You can never have too much of a good thing, especially if that thing involves your sexual health. For some women, achieving one orgasm during sex can be tricky, but we’re here to tell you that you can experience more than one climax in a single sack session! According to Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, co-author of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman, ‘The average woman is built to come again and again.’ So that means mastering the first peak isn’t the end of the climb; you can achieve higher heights. Dr. Abrams explains, ‘Women don’t require a refractory period like men do, so we’re able to stay aroused for longer and have an orgasm a second and third time with little effort.’ So how can you boost your sexual wellbeing and have more orgasms?

 

1. Don’t Be Single-Minded: Dr. Abrams advises, ‘After you’ve gotten there for the first time, rather than switching off mentally and sexually — which is what you do when you assume you’ve reached the finale — you need to remain expectant and open to further arousal. ‘It’s all about knowing that your body is fully capable, even built, to experience deeper, longer, and more frequent orgasms…One of the biggest misconceptions women have about multiple orgasms is that they happen by chance or that they’re some sort of fluke, but like anything else, they require a little effort and planning that you don’t get from on-the-fly quickies…Tell him that tonight you want to feel the slow burn. And to get that, you really want to draw out foreplay, and you have a few ideas for the main event too.’

 

2. Get Sexercising: Beverly Whipple, PhD, co-author of The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality, asserts that, to have multiple orgasms, you need strong PC or Kegel muscles. Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription, adds, ‘Since your orgasm is essentially an intense contraction of your PC and pelvic floor muscles, strengthening them increases blood flow to the area and enables you to experience a deeper pleasure sensation and a repeated series of pulses.’ Kegel exercises can help you to get more PC, so stop putting them off and just do them! Then, the moment you feel that first contraction of orgasm, ‘don’t let it slip away,’ says Dr. Abrams. ‘Keep pumping your muscles in small bursts to draw out the wave and create momentum for the next series of orgasmic contractions.’

 

3. Max Out Foreplay: ‘For most women, clitoral stimulation from oral sex is the easiest way for them to climax,’ notes Dr. Abrams. ‘And having your guy help you get there before intercourse means that your body will be geared up to come again and respond to the added vaginal stimulation during sex, rather than still struggling to orgasm for the first time.’ Make sure he takes it slow. Dr. Abrams points out, ‘If you’re aroused slowly, then you’ll stay aroused for longer, and unlike manual stimulation, his tongue is flexible, soft and strong — the perfect tool for making that happen.’ Let your partner tease you with his tongue, pull away for a few seconds, and then dive back in. Dr. Abrams explains, ‘Oral teasing techniques prime the body to expect that after each peak of sensation, another one is coming. And it remembers that lesson when you orgasm — after one, it’ll stay in that prepped state for more stimulation, putting you on the track to come again.’

 

4. Take a Mini Time-Out: Whipple details, ‘After an orgasm, a lot of nerve pathways have been stimulated, and there’s been a tremendous surge in blood flow. So it’s completely natural for some women to want to take a break from stimulation in those moments immediately following.’ Dr. Abrams advises, ‘Give the vaginal area a break for a minute, and have your partner suck your fingers, kiss you or caress your breasts. The stroking in other regions will keep your nerves and sensual energy on high alert while your nether regions cool off just enough to take his caresses all over again.’

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