For centuries, we’ve used people’s sexual practices as a way of determining their character. Sexuality and masculinity have been connected for years, and there’s no escaping that. But it’s not just having sex that counts, but also how we have sex. Amongst men, there is a lot of variety in how the male gender prefers sex – slow, rough, fast, soft…the list goes on. Regardless of their sexual preference, the way we have sex says more about us than we think; it determines how men are seen and how they see themselves. Sex is an important aspect of any relationship, whether that’s a lasting or fleeting one. And the roles we play within those relationships say a lot about our character. Here is a guide to what sexual positions really mean for men, and what they say about the roles they play within the their own relationships.
Doggy Style
For many people, this preference comes from a real disdain for women and the chance to dominate at any turn. It’s commonly associated with a deep insecurity from many rejections when you were younger, leading to take the opportunity to demean women when you get the chance. Naturally, this isn’t everyone’s view of doggy style, but it’s commonly thought (particularly by women) that there’s little intimacy and romance associated with this sexual position.
Missionary
Men who like missionary sex like to play is safe and don’t like to take too many chances. It’s a classic position that’s consistent, reliable and enables you to play by the rules. It doesn’t require creativity or spontaneity and that is why you like it – you know what to expect. That said, it’s a popular position as well.
The Cowgirl
Men who like the Cowgirl enjoy it because it’s easy – for them. They like that they can lie back and enjoy the ride, quite literally. It’s the easy choice for men that prefer to have things handed to them on a plate and reap the rewards of someone else’s effort. There is a certain ‘exoticism’ with this position, which makes it a fun addition to relationships for men.
The Spoon
Men who like spooning really value a relationship; for them, being part of a couple is incredibly important. There’s something about the spoon position that evokes the concept of romance and coupledom – it’s synonymous with the ultimate level of comfort and security in a relationship. Men who crave this level of intimacy are craving security in their relationship, and the romance that goes with that. Considered something of a triumph amongst men, it’s rare for men to be openly in favour of this sexual position as it’s considered to be something women crave more than men.
The Cat
A tantric sex move, this is one for those who really take sex seriously. Craving not just a physical orgasm but a spiritual one as well, men who take sex to another level are looking to really connect with their partner. Tantric sex is considered to be the ultimate in sexual experience, giving a heightened orgasm but it’s a difficult skill to learn. So, by the very nature, men who understand and practice tantric sex take an in-depth interest in the very practice of sex. These type of men are likely to be super confident in bed and know their way around the body, so they’ll know what they’re doing in the bedroom.
