Showing posts with label crime. Show all posts
Showing posts with label crime. Show all posts

We all have the mental image of the deranged, straggly-haired stalker following a woman around, sitting outside their home trying to get a look in and causing general distress all of the time. Obviously, this type of stalking is very bad and would be extremely worrying for any victim of it. But one of the problems with it is that it is an egregious example of the extremes of stalking. In fact there are many different types of stalking – usually done by an ex-partner or former lover who has become obsessed. The fact that we have the mental idea of stalking be a certain prescribed way, as mentioned earlier, it can lead some people to not realise that this is exactly what they are victims of.


This can be a big problem because there is absolutely no doubt that stalking is a very bad thing. Firstly, it is clearly a very distressing thing to happen to victim. Try to imagine how it would feel to have someone following you around and harassing you wherever you go. Clearly we can see the potential for this to be something that is very upsetting and frightening for anyone who might have to experience it. But we can also see that the fact that the stalker is doing this, shows that they have a serious mental issue that needs to be cleared up before they do something that is much worse.


You would be hard pressed to find anyone who would suggest that stalking is a good thing, but perhaps there would be some people who would deny that this kind of thing would do lasting damage to the victim. If such people do exist, it is pleasing to learn that there has been some research into the subject and it has confirmed that stalking is a highly distressing and worrying thing to happen to someone.


According to this new research, women who have been the victims of stalking are up to three times more likely to experience psychological distress than women who have not been through this sort of thing. The researchers, who are from Washington and Lee University have argued that policy makers need to pay attention to this research and put more money into bringing down the number of incidents of this sort of crime, and also offer more support to victims after the crime has occurred.


“I think the major implication of our findings is that while not everyone takes stalking seriously because in most cases nothing physical happened, the detrimental impact is clear,” said Timothy Diette, who is the assistant professor of economics at Washington and Lee University “This study helps raise awareness that in many cases it’s a really scarring event that causes real-life psychological outcomes for victims’ mental health and their ability to function in society”.


The researchers found that it was older victims who were more likely than younger victims to feel the most distressed by being stalked. Women between the ages of 18 and 22, who were the victims of stalking but not sexual assault or rape, were found to be 113 per cent more likely to feel psychological distress than their peers. However, women between the ages of 23 and 29 were found to be 265 per cent more likely to experience mental problems from the crime.


Clearly regardless of the age, the focus needs to be on reducing the occurrences of this sort of crime and also finding better ways to help people who have been the victims of stalking to see if we can end this kind of distress altogether.

Talking to your teenager about anything can be difficult, especially when it is about a touchy subject like peer pressure and underage drinking. Teens are in such a difficult position in their lives. They are trying so hard to become adults that listening to their parents seems like the wrong thing to do, yet they know they need their parent’s guidance to grow.


 


Your teen will most likely sit and roll their eyes, shrug their shoulders and act like what you are saying doesn’t matter when you bring up underage drinking. The truth is, under all of that acting they are really listening to you. The fact that you are talking to them about this issue gives them the knowledge that you still love and care for them. Many teens feel that parents stop caring once they reach a certain age.


 


You might not be able to get an open discussion going with your teen, but you should voice your opinions nonetheless. Do not go into attack mode when discussing alcohol and peer pressure, they will tune you out. Instead, approach the subject matter-of-factly and drive home the points of your message.


 


Points To Bring Up About Drinking


 


• Drinking Makes You Irresponsible. Let your teen know that more bad decisions are made when you are drunk than are ever made when sober. Let them know that as a teen, parents are looking for them to make good decisions so that they can be trusted with more responsibilities and rewards. Let them know that these decisions can impact their entire future.
• DUI Is A Serious Crime. Tell your teen about how serious a charge DUI is and how it can change their whole future. Let them know that a DUI conviction can prevent them from attending a college of their choice, from being hired at a company they desire, and will cause them financial distress. Let them know that they will lose their right to drive and may face time in juvenile detention if convicted.
• Friends Who Drink Are Not Friends. Let them know that if their friends are drinking, they are not their true friends, especially if they are pressuring them to drink. Remind them that underage drinking is against the law, and if you decide to break one law how many more will you decide to break?
• No Questions Asked. Tell your teen if they find themselves in a position where everyone else is drinking and they need a way home, you will come get them with no questions asked. Make sure you tell your teen how important it is not to get into a car with someone that has been drinking, and that you love them more than anything and want them to come home alive. Tell them you will come get them regardless of time and place. Let them know that they can rely on you, without getting in trouble, for making the right choice and not drinking.


 


Talking to your teen can be difficult, but it will make a wonderful difference in their lives. Whether or not they show that they are listening, they are, and what you say really matters.



From talking herself to death to banging her head against the wall, Melanie Fleury knows that sometimes nothing you say will stop your kids from making a horrible mistake. Underage drinking and the laws surrounding it are so complex that it can be hard to navigate on your own. If your child is charged with a DUI or does something while underaged and drinking, hiring an experienced attorney like Steve E. Kellis at http://www.kellislaw.com/ can ensure that your child’s rights are fought for and that all possibilities of dismissing the charges are explored.