Get Back Into Dating

 

Written by Jenny Catton

 

Recent studies have shown that people in marriages or long-term relationships are happier and healthier than their single counterparts. But not everyone finds their life-long partner at a young age. And whether you’re recently divorced and looking to meet new people or are a single parent who’s ready for romance; looking for love later in life can be a daunting prospect. Luckily the Internet has made it easier than ever to meet likeminded people who are looking for a new relationship. And Internet dating no longer has the stigma it once had. In fact, in the USA, the leading dating website eHarmony claims to be responsible for nearly 5% of all marriages.

 

Getting to grips with Internet dating is pretty easy. There are hundreds of sites to choose from, so you can find one that is tailored to your age group, religion or interests. Once you’ve found a site you like the look of, you join and create a profile. You can then search for people you might like to make contact with and others can contact you.

 

When you start getting interest from people who have viewed your profile, it’s easy to feel excited but don’t rush in. Take the time to find people who you genuinely might get on with and then spend plenty time getting to know them online before you agree to meet them in the real world.

 

Once you’ve met a potential partner online and have spent time chatting, the next step is to arrange to meet. If you’re heading out on your first date for many years, it’s natural to feel a little nervous. Here are some of the things you might want to think about in advance:

 

Where to go

When it comes to a first date, location is very important. A drink in a busy town-centre bar or coffee shop is a good idea. This way if things don’t turn out well, you can make your excuses and leave much more quickly than if you’ve booked a meal in a restaurant.

 

What to talk about

If you’re worried about uncomfortable silences on the first date, think of some topics of conversation in advance that you can fall back on. Reliable topics include favourite films or holiday destinations.

 

Don’t expect to find love straightaway

It can take quite a few dates before you find the perfect match. So don’t embark on every date as though you are about to meet the love of your life. But keep an open mind, even if you don’t find love, you might make a good friend.

Be yourself

Of course, you want to present yourself in the best light possible on your date but it’s important to be yourself too. Don’t try too hard to be smart or funny, just relax and enjoy yourself. Wear clothes that you feel comfortable in, rather than trying to impress with a new outfit.

 

Be honest

If the first date goes well, it could lead to a second and a third so it’s best to be honest from the outset. Let the other person know whether you are looking for marriage or just a bit of fun. Equally, make sure you ask them any important questions that matter to you.

 

Stay safe

Even if you’ve been chatting online with a potential date for several weeks, remember that they are still a stranger. Choose a busy location and plan how you will get home in advance – particularly if you are meeting in an area that you’re not familiar with.Tell a friend where you are going and agree to ring them at a set time to let them know you are safe. Try not to drink too much on a first date – it may steady the nerves but it can also lead to lapses in judgement.

 

Have an escape route

Hopefully, your date will be a big success but if not, it’s good to have a plan so that you can leave quickly if you’re not enjoying yourself. You could arrange to ‘accidentally’ bump into a friend at a set time so that you can leave with them. Alternatively, set an alarm on your phone to ring at a certain time. Then if necessary you can pretend that it’s an urgent call from work or family, make your excuses and leave.

 

If your first date is a disaster – don’t feel disheartened. Treat it as an experience and take what you’ve learnt to improve your future dates. And if you’ve enjoyed the date, let them know and arrange to meet again soon.

 

 

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Get Back Into Dating

 

Written by Jenny Catton

 

Recent studies have shown that people in marriages or long-term relationships are happier and healthier than their single counterparts. But not everyone finds their life-long partner at a young age. And whether you’re recently divorced and looking to meet new people or are a single parent who’s ready for romance; looking for love later in life can be a daunting prospect. Luckily the Internet has made it easier than ever to meet likeminded people who are looking for a new relationship. And Internet dating no longer has the stigma it once had. In fact, in the USA, the leading dating website eHarmony claims to be responsible for nearly 5% of all marriages.

 

Getting to grips with Internet dating is pretty easy. There are hundreds of sites to choose from, so you can find one that is tailored to your age group, religion or interests. Once you’ve found a site you like the look of, you join and create a profile. You can then search for people you might like to make contact with and others can contact you.

 

When you start getting interest from people who have viewed your profile, it’s easy to feel excited but don’t rush in. Take the time to find people who you genuinely might get on with and then spend plenty time getting to know them online before you agree to meet them in the real world.

 

Once you’ve met a potential partner online and have spent time chatting, the next step is to arrange to meet. If you’re heading out on your first date for many years, it’s natural to feel a little nervous. Here are some of the things you might want to think about in advance:

 

Where to go

When it comes to a first date, location is very important. A drink in a busy town-centre bar or coffee shop is a good idea. This way if things don’t turn out well, you can make your excuses and leave much more quickly than if you’ve booked a meal in a restaurant.

 

What to talk about

If you’re worried about uncomfortable silences on the first date, think of some topics of conversation in advance that you can fall back on. Reliable topics include favourite films or holiday destinations.

 

Don’t expect to find love straightaway

It can take quite a few dates before you find the perfect match. So don’t embark on every date as though you are about to meet the love of your life. But keep an open mind, even if you don’t find love, you might make a good friend.

Be yourself

Of course, you want to present yourself in the best light possible on your date but it’s important to be yourself too. Don’t try too hard to be smart or funny, just relax and enjoy yourself. Wear clothes that you feel comfortable in, rather than trying to impress with a new outfit.

 

Be honest

If the first date goes well, it could lead to a second and a third so it’s best to be honest from the outset. Let the other person know whether you are looking for marriage or just a bit of fun. Equally, make sure you ask them any important questions that matter to you.

 

Stay safe

Even if you’ve been chatting online with a potential date for several weeks, remember that they are still a stranger. Choose a busy location and plan how you will get home in advance – particularly if you are meeting in an area that you’re not familiar with.Tell a friend where you are going and agree to ring them at a set time to let them know you are safe. Try not to drink too much on a first date – it may steady the nerves but it can also lead to lapses in judgement.

 

Have an escape route

Hopefully, your date will be a big success but if not, it’s good to have a plan so that you can leave quickly if you’re not enjoying yourself. You could arrange to ‘accidentally’ bump into a friend at a set time so that you can leave with them. Alternatively, set an alarm on your phone to ring at a certain time. Then if necessary you can pretend that it’s an urgent call from work or family, make your excuses and leave.

 

If your first date is a disaster – don’t feel disheartened. Treat it as an experience and take what you’ve learnt to improve your future dates. And if you’ve enjoyed the date, let them know and arrange to meet again soon.

 

 

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How to Make Sure You Get Lucky on the First Date

For most guys, sexual wellness and wellbeing is extremely important. That means that even although it is a first date, and not traditionally a time to hook up, you can guarantee that sex is going to be on a man’s mind. After all, if he was interested enough in a woman to pursue her and ask her out on a date, then he’s probably interested in taking things to a physical level. So, if you’re a man, the big question on your mind is probably how to make sure that the night ends in a fun, sexy experience rather than a hug and a quick peck on the doorstep?

 

Fortunately, there are some things you could try to make sure that things turn physical as quickly as possible. First of all, when you’re heading out on your date, invite her to come over to your place and say that you will both go out from there. She doesn’t even have to actually come into your house (although it’s great if she does). It simply means that at the end of the night she will have to come back to your place because that’s where her car is. From that point of view, it will be very easy to invite her inside for one last drink, as you will both be there anyway.

 

Another top tip is to swoop in early. During most first dates, women are weighing up the big question of ‘should I or shouldn’t I kiss him?’ If you swoop in early with a (good) kiss, then it takes the pressure off and lets the woman know that you are interested in her physically.

 

Another important factor is not to make sure that you end up sliding into the friend zone. If you have ever taken a great woman home and then sat on the couch not quite sure how to make your move, then this is aimed at you. Be decisive and confident – it should be a natural progression and not a shift in the mood of the date. Try playfully putting your arm around her shoulders and see how she reacts.

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