Showing posts with label vibrators. Show all posts
Showing posts with label vibrators. Show all posts

There are almost too many sex toys on the market to count, so how do you choose the one that will best enhance your sexual wellbeing? The truth is, a lot of products do the same thing, with many couples choosing some sort of variation of the vibrator, dildo, lubricant, massage tool, lingerie, and/or restraint. Award-winning wellness writer and sexual health expert Eve Marx, MA, notes, ‘If you’re fortunate enough to live in or near an urban area where together you can cruise a sex shop, its a fun thing to do together as a pre-sex warm up. And unlike so many other shopping experiences, you’ll find the sales staff at most sex shops to be relaxed and knowledgeable. Failing that, the next best thing is shop online, where you’ll find a veritable virtual mall of retail enterprises devoted to enhancing human pleasure.’ Let’s look at what’s available in a little more detail:


 


1. The Rabbit Vibrator: According to Marx, ‘A Rabbit Vibrator is a vibrating and rotating sex toy moulded into the shape of a phallus with a clitoral stimulator attached to the shaft. The products name comes from the fact that it actually looks quite a bit like a pair of rabbit ears. But don’t be put off by the silly name. The Rabbit is one of the world’s most popular vibrators and it is very easy to find. It’s so accepted and mainstream in fact, you can order it from Amazon! How to use? Women can use it on themselves either to warm up or finish off, or, if she is feeling uninhibited, in front of her partner while he or she watches. Or he can use it on her. The options are endless.’


 


2. The Perfect Boyfriend: ‘The Perfect Boyfriend is a very pliable dildo made of medical grade silicone,’ Marx explains. ‘Measuring six tall and with a diameter of two, the proportions are nearly perfect for most women’s taste. There is a four base that is flat, which makes the Perfect Boyfriend easy to hold on to or attach to a strap. This toy is very lifelike and fleshy and even has a nice scent. A man can use it on his woman either during foreplay or after he has ejaculated to finish her off, or as a credible substitute to penetrate her if the man has issues with erectile dysfunction.’


 


3. Glass Dildoes: There are many reasons why glass dildoes are he latest thing in sex toys. Marx points out, ‘They are made of medical grade Pyrex, are easy to clean, last forever, are hygienic, absorb no lotions or oils, and avoid all the allergy issues many people have either with silicone or latex. Also with glass dildoes you can get creative. They can be heated or chilled, and best of all, when you’re not using them, you can leave them out. They’re beautiful. Ornamental. And because they come in such a variety of shapes and colours, no one else need know what they are!’


 


4. The Natural Contours Vibrator: This vibrator ‘was created by erotic film director Candida Royalle,’ Marx details. ‘And she promises after years of research that her product is shaped for the perfect fit to a woman’s body. Natural Contours is small, discreet, quiet and powerful. It looks like a ladies shaver, which means you can travel with it and no one knows. The Petite model is especially small, which means it can be packed in a purse.’


 


5. The Three Ls: Marx adds, ‘Even if battery operated devices and Perfect Boyfriends are not your thing, you cant go wrong with beautiful underwear, a good internal-use lubricant, and a collection of sexy books. Reading a racy passage aloud in bed from a classic erotic novel is a wonderful, lo-tech way to kindle passion.’

Rihanna hit the headlines recently when she visited Paris and went on a $1,500 spending spree – and she spent her money on sex toys. Of course maybe this isn’t a big surprise; you’d struggle to put the words ‘Rihanna’ and ‘sex toys’ in the same sentence and avoid making the headlines. However, it does actually speak to a larger point about the increased interest in this area of sex, and the limits people are willing to go to get the right kinds of toys. Rihanna’s spending only highlighted that some people are very much into sex toys and vibrators. And it seems that she is not alone.


 


According to a new national survey in the United States that took into account the thoughts and opinions of more than 3,000 Americans, the majority of people feel positively about women using vibrators. And going even further than that, the study was able to associate positive beliefs about vibrators, and having used them recently, with increased levels of sexual satisfaction and other measures of sexual enjoyment and function. This suggests that on the whole, vibrators are considered to be a very good thing for people.


 


The survey was conducted looking at men and women ages 18 to 60 is the first to examine beliefs about vibrators, said Debra Herbenick, who was the lead researcher in the study and is an associate director at Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion. The participants were found from an existing research panel and were then invited to take part in a study about sexual enhancement products throughout the year of 2008. There were 2,056 women and 1,047 men who took part in the survey online and consented to participate. They were mostly middle aged, white and educated.


 


The participants in the study were asked whether they agreed or not with positive beliefs (defined in the study with statements such as a vibrator “makes it easier for a woman to have an orgasm,” and “is a healthy part of many women’s sex lives”) and negative beliefs (defined in the study with statements such as, a vibrator “makes women too dependent on them for pleasure” and “is intimidating to women’s partners.”) Roughly half of the participants either agreed or strongly agreed with all positive statements about vibrators and sex toys, while fewer than 10 per cent of the participants chose the negative statements as those that they strongly agreed with.


 


Women that announced in the study that they had positive beliefs and who had used vibrators in the past 30 days also suggested that they had higher levels of arousal, lubrication, orgasm and sexual satisfaction, and lower levels of pain during sex, than those with positive beliefs but who hadn’t used the sex toys as recently. This suggests that not only are sex toys and vibrators becoming more popular but that they can actually improve your sexual experience if you use them.


 


So it is no longer appropriate for us to characterise people who use sex toys as being unable to find sex in normal ways. In fact many women in happy and sexually healthy relationships use sex toys. This survey shows that using sex toys can even help to make your sex in a relationship better. And it also seems that men don’t have a problem with women using sex toys. The majority of men don’t feel intimidated or consider sex toys to be wrong for women to use. This suggests that we could see an increasing promotion of the use of sexual toys for both single people and those who are in a relationship.