When was the last time you had a night of raw, sexual intimacy with your partner? Your sex life may be going along quite nicely, but if you don’t allow for occasional nights of passion, your sexual wellness and wellbeing could fade over time.
One such couple were John and Susan. Like most couples, when they first got together they enjoyed a very fulfilling and frequent sex life. They said that they could spend the day together doing chores and exercising, and end it on the sofa planning to watch a DVD, but get sidetracked and end up having passionate sex on the settee instead of watching the film.
The couple’s early days were filled with frequent, heart-pounding and noisy sex. Both John and Susan had suffered in nearly sexless previous relationships so were more keen than most to explore their sexuality and enjoy their bodies. The passion extended to late night sexy texts, calls, online sex and many, many hours spent in bed.
After a while, however, the couple got more comfortable with one another and life become more busy. Susan got a new job and sex became less frequent and more of a forced occasion. John felt deeply threatened by this change in their relationship, and also felt that, mentally, the couple had become somewhat disconnected. He felt that if they had more sex, things would improve between them, but this led to Susan feeling pressurised to have sex, and actually made things worse.
John decided to seek help from a therapist, who invited him to try various things such as exercising together, using lubricant or a vibrator together. John also read a number of self-help books, which detailed various positions to try, and also emphasised the importance of taking the pressure off and making sure you have good sex rather than frequent sex.
