Showing posts with label religious beliefs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label religious beliefs. Show all posts

It’s a common occurrence but one which, obviously, you don’t give much thought to until you become a parent: would you have your son circumcised? Circumcision, or the surgical removal of the foreskin that covers the head of the penis, has been known to protect men’s sexual health against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) but the procedure itself also poses certain risks. Although circumcision is relatively simple as surgical procedures go, it’s not one you want to see go badly if you or your son are the patient.


 


Some people make this decision based on a strong religious or cultural belief. For most (but not all) Jews and Muslims, the decision to have their male children circumcised is less out of concern for their sexual wellbeing, and more for religious reasons. There are tribes in Africa that uniformly circumcise, while there are others that uniformly do not. Three out of five children born in the United States in the last 30 years were circumcised, but this wasn’t due to medical recommendations. According to the American Association of Paediatrics, parents should make an informed decision for themselves, and the Association won’t make a recommendation either way. So, if you’re not Jewish or Muslim, how do you make this decision for your son?


 


The foreskin provides protection for the tip of your son’s penis, also known as the glans. Without the foreskin, the glans is exposed to from undergarments, cold winter weather and dry air, so it’s good to have a protection policy in place. The foreskin is also home to many nerve bundles and blood cells, providing additional stimulation during sexual activities, as well as a lubricating function to assist in sexual intercourse. Plus, as the foreskin keeps the glans moist and soft, it too is more sensitive to touch. With all that in mind, you might be wondering who’d be crazy enough to get their son circumcised, but the foreskin can also cause problems.


 


Since the foreskin works to keep the glans lubricated, it’s very easy for bacteria to build-up in this area unless it is kept extremely clean. If your son does not maintain regular hygiene, a white cheesy discharge called smegma may accumulate beneath his foreskin, and this may lead on to infections and urinary tract infections. Plus, if your son’s foreskin is too tight and doesn’t properly retract from the glans, it causes a condition called phimosis. If it slides down from the glans but won’t return properly, this is a condition that causes swelling, also known as paraphimosis.


 


Then you have Balanposthitis, a swelling of the mucous surfaces of the foreskin that requires circumcision if it becomes a frequent problem. Circumcision may also be required to prevent the pain and worsening phimosis of balanitis xerotica obliterans, a skin disease that affects the foreskin, glans and sometimes the urethra. While circumcisions aren’t usually medically necessary, many parents do make this decision based on medical and hygienic grounds. The good news is that most circumcisions are performed with no serious problems or complications, albeit with a slight chance that your son may experience pain, bleeding, infection or irritation. However, the most likely scenario is discomfort during the healing process. If all goes as planned, your child will feel better (although probably irritable) in three to four days, while it might take a week or so for the appearance of the area. You can take your baby can be taken home the same day as the procedure, just make sure you keep his newly circumcised penis very clean and follow your doctor’s instructions.

You may think that sexual health and wellness concerns start once you begin having sex, but actually the issues start a lot earlier than that. As soon as a few people in your class begin to go through puberty, suddenly it seems like everyone is talking about sex; about who’s a virgin, who isn’t, and who might be. This pressure can intensely effect your wellbeing, whether you’re a guy or a girl, but that’s no reason to rush into what is one of the most important decision you’ll ever make. So, the question is, then, how do you know if it’s the right time for you to have sex?


 


When deciding whether or not to have sex, you need to use your own judgement and decide if it’s the right time, and the right person. Only you can make that decision, which means there are some very important factors you need to consider. You need to think about the physical concerns involved in sex, such as the possibility of becoming pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted infection (STI). There are also emotional factors to consider, because even though your body may be ready for sex, losing your virginity also has very serious emotional consequences. Then, you have moral factors involved in having sex. Whether your religious beliefs, family values or personal attitude has impacted your opinion about sex, you may have an inner voice guiding you about getting sexually involved at the right time for you.


 


One key concern that revolves around sex is peer pressure. No one wants to be the odd one out, but that doesn’t mean you should lose your virginity just to keep up with your friends or be accepted. You may have friends who have already had sex, and play it down like it’s not a big deal – but sex is a big deal, both physically and emotionally. Everyone is different, which means you can’t rely on how your friends feel about sex as a means of testing if you’re ready. Sex might mean something different to you on an emotional level and you, your friends, and your potential partners, need to understand that. If they’re really you’re friends, they won’t care if you’re a virgin or not, and having sex to impress someone or to make your friends happy or feel like you have something in common with them won’t make you feel very good about yourself in the long run.


 


If your boyfriend or girlfriend is pressuring you to have sex, you’re not alone. Although some teens that are going out don’t pressure each other about sex, the truth is that in many relationships, one person wants to have sex although the other one doesn’t. Again, every couple is different, and so your partner may be putting pressure on you for different reasons. It may just be that he or she is more curious about sex, and has stronger sexual feelings than you. Or he or she might have differing religious beliefs, meaning that your attitudes to sex might be different.


 


Whatever the situation might be, when one of you wants to have sex and the other one doesn’t, this can put stress and strain on your relationship. In this circumstance, you have to do what is right for you and, if your partner is worth holding on to, they will respect your decision and not put pressure on you. Don’t give in to the pressure of “If you love me, you’ll do it,” as any person who says that clearly doesn’t love you, and is only looking to satisfy their own sexual urges. Sex should be an expression of love — not something that you feel like you must do.