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If you are thinking about getting married, you’re probably worried that your sex life is going to take a nose dive. We’ve all heard stories about married couples that stop having sex as soon as they take that trip down the aisle, and we worry that our own sex lives will go the same way. Worry no more – more and more studies are now proving that married sex is even better than single sex. There’s lots of amazing intimacy that can be had between a husband and wife. We’ve taken a look at the reasons why.


 


Morning sex is one of these reasons. Sharing a bed with the same person every night means you get to wake up with them every morning, too, and this can lead to a bit of special time first thing in the day. You may have to set your alarm for half an hour earlier but trust us, it will be worth it.


 


When you’re married, you can also be sure that your partner is attracted to you. No more worrying about whether you should make the move and when you should make the move. This confidence will remove your inhibitions and lead to some very sexy sex.


 


Whilst it’s nice to look good for your partner, the nice thing about being married is that you don’t have to look perfect all the time, the way that you would expect if you were just dating. Your husband will have seen you at your absolute worst – first thing in the morning, after a shower where you forgot to take your eye makeup off first – and if they still love you and fancy you then you really don[t have to worry about having the perfect hairstyle or the perfect matching lingerie.

Gynaecologist appointments can seem daunting if you don’t know what to expect. But there’s no need to worry about it – it spells those first precious steps from girlhood to womanhood, and means accepting that your body has changed. Before you go to your first appointment, there are some things to prepare for your visit and some things you should expect before you go. You should have your first appointment between 13 and 15 years old, although some women wait until they start having sexual intercourse before they visit the gynaecologist, or until they have a symptom that they are worried about such as abnormal discharge. But there’s no need to wait until you have something to worry about, like irregular periods or vaginal burning – you can book it at any time. And the sooner you start having exams, the better – they should be regular to keep on top of your health. It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous, but there isn’t anything to worry about. The first appointment in particular is very simple and is more about your GP getting to know you. They will likely ask you about your health up until this point, your family’s medical history, and your sexual health. Being honest with these questions is important, as it will enable the doctor to give you help if you need it.


There are four types of gynaecological exam that you may have during your visit. Each type depends on the length of your appointment, your age, sexual history and whether you have any symptoms that are of a concern. If you’re going to have any tests, your GP will explain them first of all so there’s no need to be anxious. You will most likely be instructed to go to the bathroom or a changing room to undress in private and put on a gown. It’s normal to feel anxious about being naked, but the gown will cover you and your doctor will only uncover the areas they need to examine. All women are tested in the same way and it’s perfectly normal. The four types of exam are as such: a general examination is the same as with any medical examination, such as checking your weight, height and blood pressure. A breast examination which involves the doctor checking your breasts with their fingers to detect whether there are any lumps or abnormal discharge. A pap smear is a scraping of cells from your cervix that involves the doctor using a special brush to gently wipe cells from the cervix which are sent away for testing; this will display any abnormal cells that may be present.


 


Lastly, you may have a pelvic examination which isn’t tested on women unless they’ve had sex or have experienced worrying symptoms. This involves the gynaecologist asking you to lie on a table with your feet in stirrups with your legs elevated so that they can check your vagina. Using gloves, they will check your vulva to rule out infection, and then open your vagina slightly with a speculum which is a metal or plastic instrument that gently opens the vaginal walls. They may take some cell samples to see if your have any STDs, and they may take the pap smear at the same time. They will also feel your cervix, ovaries and womb by pressing on your abdomen. This examination isn’t usually painful if you’re relaxed, as tensing up makes it more painful.These appointments are a great chance for you to discuss issues you’re worried about and to check the state of your health, and really aren’t anything to worry about.