First-Time Sex: What’s He Hoping You’ll Do?

Sex may be something which is natural to you, but when you’re having sex with a new partner it can be difficult to know what to do and how to act – are they hoping you’ll be really confident in bed or would acting in such a way between the sheets scare them off? Sometimes it helps to know how to strike a balance and please your partner, even when you’re still getting to know their likes and dislikes in the bedroom. If you’re embarking on a new romance, these tips will help you to make a great first impression.

Firstly, oral sex is almost always a great way to start sex – men and women love it and it shows you’re interested in giving as well as receiving, so this is a fantastic start to what one hopes will be a fun and passionate evening. You should also be active – that doesn’t mean leaping all over the bed like a child, but also don’t lie there waiting for him to make all the moves. Men love a woman who makes an effort, so play your part in the same way you hope he will – it will be more fun for both of you. You also shouldn’t spend the whole time worrying about your body. Hiding under the covers is both unnecessary and unsexy, so don’t insist that the lights go out the moment anything begins to happen. Be confident and remember that you’re having sex with him! If he didn’t find you attractive, neither one of you would be in this situation, so stop worrying and just enjoy yourself. By the same token, don’t stress about his performance – first-time sex can be intense and erotic, but it can also be charged with high expectations that don’t always get met. Don’t assume that you’re both rubbish in bed together just because it didn’t match what you imagined; nerves are often to blame.

Two things are possibly to blame if your man isn’t performing in the right way – a lack of erection or premature ejaculation. Don’t make a big deal of either one if they occur, as your man is already likely to be embarrassed and stressed out about the situation. Make light of it and let him know that it’s normal and that you’re not worried by it. Setting the tone for honest and communicative sex is important for developing a close bond and a great sex life for the future. If you don’t, you’ll make him even more apprehensive the next time you have sex together. Furthermore, let him know that you’re enjoying having sex with him.

Don’t patronise him by pretending that you like everything he does in bed though, unless of course that you do! If he’s doing something particularly well, let him know, but don’t overdo it and make it clear you’re lying – he’ll see right through it and it will cause tension between you. Lastly, save the post-sex emotional fallout for a catch up session with your friends – if he doesn’t want to know you once you’ve done the deed, then trying to ascertain if you’re an item will only be more humiliating. If he really likes you, he’ll be in contact and you’ll arrange meeting up. The important thing is to be relaxed about the whole thing – keep it casual and try not to dwell on the finer details. Have fun with it and you’ll both have a better time.

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Blowjob Skills To Improve Your Oral Sex Technique

Oral sex is something of a regular addition to the majority of couples’ sex routines these days, but despite blowjobs being a regular feature in the sexual activities of modern-day couples, many women don’t actually know if what they’re doing ‘down there’ is right. And men often aren’t sure whether women like giving head or if it’s something they do to please their partner. So how do you give mind-blowing oral sex?

Previous surveys indicate that around 55 per cent of women find oral sex to be perfectly normal and were happy to include it into their sexual routine, and many women also do it as part of reciprocity too! Blowjobs have been around for centuries and certainly aren’t a new sex technique, despite them becoming increasingly popular since the 90s. Some women worry about getting a sore jaw from keeping their mouth locked in the same position for too long, but there isn’t a set position to put yourself in to limit this happening – you simply have to alternate between sucking and licking to give your jaw a break from staying in the same position too long, if you find that this becomes a problem. It’s natural for your hands, as a man, to land on a woman’s head while she’s giving you a blowjob, but most women don’t enjoy you pushing on their head – a little gentle hair stroking is fine, but don’t get too forceful. Another big no-no is pushing a woman’s head down if you’re kissing her or are in the mood – it’s off-putting and demeaning, and certainly doesn’t put your partner in the mood for oral sex! As with anything in the bedroom, asking or suggesting is the best way to go – you don’t want your partner to feel forced into something they don’t want to do.

 

Blowjobs are something that many people feel worried or anxious about, but there isn’t any need to be nervous about going down on your partner. As with hand jobs, it’s a personal thing as to how hard or fast you go while you’re down there. So communication is key; take some time out to talk to your partner and see what he likes. There may be a particular technique he enjoys that you can learn how to do. And don’t be afraid of mixing things up and keeping your blowjobs interesting. You can use flavoured lubes, use your hands as a chaser to your mouth and tongue, or trying experimenting with temperatures by sucking on an ice cube before going down on him, then drinking a hot drink and doing the same to keep him guessing what’s coming. Experimenting is all part of the fun though, so keep it fun and light-hearted to see what you both enjoy, both as the giver and the receiver. As with anything in sex though, you should practice your technique. Don’t suck too hard and be sure to mix things up with your tongue, such as licking and swirling your tongue around the tip of the penis.

 

If you’re nervous about blowjobs, you can always start off slow and build up to more experimentation when you feel a bit more confident. The most important things to remember are not to go too hard and to avoid using your teeth, as this isn’t usually well received! Blowjobs aren’t as scary as they first seem and with a little practice, you can become an oral sex pro in no time.

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How to Have the Hottest Make-Out Session Of Your Life!

We all love a good make out session, as it often leads to mind-blowing sex. However, you can sometimes forget how important kissing is to your sexual health. Once you’ve moved beyond kissing and onto, ahem, other things, you tend to focus on the more overtly sexual stuff as your goal. Yet kissing is a hotter form of foreplay than you realise, and can work wonders for your sexual wellbeing. Therefore, we’ve spoken to sex therapist Sonia Borg, PhD, author of Marathon Sex: Incredible Lovemaking Experiences Hotter and Longer Than You’ve Ever Done It Before and sexologist Jessica “Dr. Jess” O’Reilly, PhD, founder of sexwithdrjess.com, for their hottest tips for improving your kissing wellness.

 

1. Play with Your Positions: ‘How you angle your bodies affects the mood of your make-out sesh,’ say Borg and O’Reilly. ‘If you feel like being in charge, sit on his lap and wrap your legs around him so you’re kissing him from above. Want him to take the reins? Stand up so he towers over you (if he’s taller). A hot horizontal option is to kiss him while spooning—push your butt into his pelvis and grind against him.’

 

2. Sense His Breath: Though it sounds weird out of context, when you’re in the moment and you feel your partner’s breath on your mouth, there’s something very sensual about that. Borg and O’Reilly instruct, ‘Lightly brush your lips against his, letting the sensation of his exhales linger on your skin.’

 

3. Change Up Your Technique: Borg and O’Reilly note, ‘Changing up your technique builds excitement, so alternate between different mouth moves: Slide your tongue back and forth between his lips or against his gums. Swirl your tongue around his, then take his tongue into your mouth and suck on it the way you would his penis. Gently nibble his lower lip.’

 

4. Get in Sync: Borg and O’Reilly recommend, ‘For an incredibly soulful kiss, put your hand on your man’s heart and smooch in rhythm with his heartbeat.’

 

5. Get Your Hands in the Game: ‘Kissing isn’t just about the lips,’ Borg and O’Reilly point out. ‘Get creative with your hands, too. Seductively play with his fingers as though you were giving his digits a hand-job, passionately rub and grab at his inner thighs, or drag your fingers through his scalp and tug on his hair.’

 

6. Use Everything You’ve Got: Why stop at lips and hands, when you’ve got a whole body that can turn your partner on even more?  ‘Pulsate your groin against his,’ Borg and O’Reilly advise. ‘Try straddling him, undoing a couple of his shirt buttons, and then pressing your breasts against his chest. Or stroke yourself in tandem with your kisses, so he can see you getting aroused.’

 

7. Don’t Knock Dry-Humping: ‘There’s a reason every teenager in the book does it,’ Borg and O’Reilly argue. ‘Simulating sex (and watching each other get off in the process) makes actually doing it way steamier. While making out, thrust your hips into his, or grind your way up and down his leg.’

 

8. Pay Attention to His Ears and Eyes: Tell your partner just how badly you want him, and what you’re about to do to him. Even just a moan can make things feel naughtier, but if you’re feeling adventurous, something along the lines of, “I want you to plow inside of me,” is practically guaranteed to make him blow his load. With his eyes, Borg and O’Reilly point out, ‘Couples often neglect to make eye contact while getting it on. It’s the quickest, easiest way to instantly intensify things.’

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How To Perform Yoga Positions If You’re Not Flexible

Yoga is often associated with lithe, young women but they aren’t the only people who can enjoy this form of exercise. Just because you’re not as flexible as you’d like, that’s not to say that there isn’t a form of yoga to suit you. Age and gender play a role in flexibility, but if you’re clever about the type of yoga positions you choose, you may find that you can increase your flexibility with yoga and go on to practice more of this fantastic activity. There are a number of health benefits to yoga, from reducing your stress levels to helping you to sleep better, and increasing your flexibility as well. For each of these positions you should hold the pose for five to ten breaths; seated positions can be held for longer, so long as you feel comfortable. You need to remember to hold a smooth and even breath throughout the poses, and don’t try and hold the position if you don’t feel able to as you may risk injury. As you practice and your flexibility improves, you can begin to hold the poses for longer.

Mountain Pose

The mountain pose may seem simple, but it is the most basic template for all of the other positions. It’s a welcoming way to begin connecting with your breathing pattern and to begin your yoga practice. It is performed by standing tall with your feet together, perhaps with your big toes touching. Close your eyes and let your arms rest by your sides with your fingers together. If standing is too difficult or challenging, you can lay on your back with the soles of your feet pressed up against a wall. You’ll feel as though you’re standing on the floor, but your lower back will still be stretched slightly.

Child’s Pose

An incredibly basic move which you can stay in for a few minutes at a time, this is a resting pose. You begin with your knees and the tops of your feet on the floor, with your feet together and touching. With your knees apart, rest your belly and chest between the legs and place your head on the floor, with your arms stretched out in front of you. You can rest your head on a pillow if it doesn’t reach to the floor with ease.

Downward-Facing Dog

A challenging pose for beginners, this can be made easier by increasing the distance between your feet. With your feet hip-width apart, hinge forward at the waist and press your palms on the ground, with your hips in the air. Keep your hands shoulder-width apart and your arms, shoulders and back in a straight and diagonal line. Your hands should be at the front of your mat and your toes should be facing forward near the back of your mat; at any time, you may take a break in the child’s resting post and then come back into the downward dog position again. Beginners may find it easier to bend their knees to keep the spine long and to take off some of the body weight into the legs.

Chair Pose

A symmetrical pose, meaning both sides of your body will move in and out of the pose at the same time, this heats your body up and increases the strength in your legs. You begin with your feet together or hip-width apart in a standing position. Bend your knees as though you’re sitting in a chair and raise your arms up alongside your ears at the same time. This can be a difficult position to maintain if you’re new to yoga so feel free to move into the mountain pose on alternating breaths, which also makes the pose more dynamic.

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Top Tips For High Intensity Interval Hill Workouts

Running is a fantastic cardiovascular exercise that burns calories, improves your metabolism no end, and prevents heart problems. But if you really want to benefit from this particular exercise, you need to opt for a high-intensity form – in other words, high intensity interval training, or HIIT. Combining HIIT with hill repeats is a fantastic way to improve your fitness and your strength. Interval hill running is a particular form of high intensity interval training that is the ideal option if you want to shed the pounds, build on your endurance levels, and score high on the fitness and health scales. To boost your VO2 max, which measures your body’s ability to produce energy and use oxygen efficiently, all you need to do is sprint regularly at your absolute maximum three times a week. Furthermore, three 20 second sprints at maximum capacity three times a week could increase your aerobic capacity by as much as 15 per cent. Interval hill sprints are the ideal union between leg squats and sprints, as they engage fast-twitch muscles which increase your speed and pump your legs with lactic acid, which eventually develops fatigue resistance. If you’re looking to boost muscle, hill sprints are perfect as they are performed in opposition to gravity, as opposed to running on flat surfaces, so they build muscle mass.

When you begin a hill running workout, you need to bear four crucial things in mind. These are as follows: the gradient, the duration, the total number of sprints and the recovery period between each interval. The length and intensity of each sprint depends on your fitness level and what your goals are, so you need to find the right combination for you – there’s no ‘one size fits all’ workout here. The gradient should be fairly low if you’re a beginner, so aim for a hill with a gradient of four to eight per cent before you increase it. Sharp hills which have a gradient of 10 to 15 per cent have a better effect on your strength, but they are a lot harder on your calves and Achilles tendons, so they aren’t suitable for beginners. With regards to duration, this depends on how fit you are. If you’re new to exercise, you may find that your physically can’t exercise for too long without getting tired and out of breath. But if you want to boost power and speed, you should aim for sprints of 5 to 15 seconds.

 

If you’re hoping to improve fatigue resistance, sprints of 20 to 30 seconds are perfect. Finally, to improve your fitness overall and really boost your endurance, you should aim for sprints of longer than 30 seconds. Regular sprints are the way to go if you want to build lung power and muscle, so you need to do as many as you can, as long as you feel in control of it and are able to maintain good form. When your form begins to waver, or you can’t sustain the intensity of the sprint for any more time, you need to stop for the day and take a break. The next step is recovery – everyone needs to give their body time to relax. This is vital time as it gives your body chance to prepare for your next run, and to rejuvenate. Rest for 45 seconds to a minute for every 10 to 25 seconds of sprinting – this is a good rule of thumb to follow on every sprint workout.

Categories: exercise, fatigue resistance, high intensity, hill, hill running, hill sprints, intensity interval, interval hill, Interval Training, Running, sprints, technique

Have you Tried Improving Sex With the Valsalva Manoeuvre?

Have you ever heard of the Valsalva manoeuvre? This is a technique employed in emptying the bladder, and can enormously benefit your physical wellness and wellbeing. The Valsalva manoeuvre is often taught as part of sexual therapy, and it can help to treat the very common male problem of premature or rapid ejaculation during sex.

 

This is a fairly simple technique, and it involves holding the breath whilst bearing down, as if you are trying to have a bowel movement.

 

Flaccid bladder is a condition where sufferers find it hard to fully empty their bladder, and the manoeuvre is used in these cases at the end of urination, in order to squeeze the last little bit out. To do this, sufferers have to remain seated on the toilet, finish urinating, and then hold their breath, leaning forward slightly. They then bear down slightly as if having a bowel movement and should find that the last bit of urine is drained from the bladder. This helps to empty the bladder completely, and is commonly suggested for people who are suffering from Multiple Sclerosis, a disease that affects motor and sensory control and can lead to complications such as flaccid bladder.

 

When it comes to premature ejaculation, the manoeuvre is generally used differently. The aim of the manoeuvre in this case is to increase the intimacy between partners and help the male to regain his sense of ejaculatory control.

 

A man who is employing the valsalva manoeuvre during sex will normally do so alongside the start-stop technique. After the start-stop technique has been introduced (along with the important communication that is vital for sexual therapy) a man can try the valsalva manoeuvre to help him regain control. When he feels as if he is about to ejaculate, he holds his breath and then bears down as if he is trying to do a poo and this should delay ejaculation.

Categories: bladder, bowel movement, Ejaculation, flaccid bladder, manoeuvre, nbsp, sexual therapy, technique, valsalva, valsalva manoeuvre

Amazing Tricks to Help You Improve Your Push-ups

A push-up is one of the best exercises that you can do to drop weight and improve your fitness. It strengthens your upper body wellness and wellbeing, primarily through your arms and shoulders, but also uses total body strength. Anyone can do push ups, and you can do them at any place at any time, too. They are widely used as part of most physical fitness programmes and tests. There are a few ways that you can improve your push up performance in as little as a few weeks.

 

Using proper form when you do your push-ups is one of the best ways to make sure that they are effective. Whether you are a beginner doing their first laborious push-ups on their knees or a veteran showing off with one arm push-ups, it is vital that you use proper form for your push-ups. Ask a personal trainer or even your training partner to watch you doing a push-up, as from an outsider’s perspective they will be able to see exactly what you are doing and give you comments on your performance.

 

If you want to make sure you’re doing the best push-up possible, make sure you are moving as a unified unit, keeping your abs flat throughout the exercise. Bend your elbows to lower your chest down to the floor and then use your upper body strength to straighten your arms again. Keep your neck in a straight line with your spine and keep your hands around about shoulder-width apart.

 

You can also work on increasing your resistance to improve your push ups. If you normally do your push ups from your knees, try a set from your toes this time. If you normally do them on your toes, elevate your feet by putting your toes on a platform or a step.

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Walk Your Way to Weight Loss with the Toning Technique!

You may not expect an owner of a fitness studio to advocate something free, such as walking, to kick-start your weight loss and wellness regime, but this is exactly what Daniel Bartlett, Owner of Daniel Alexandra Holistic Health and Fitness, does. He explains, ‘For many, [walking] is the most realistic, affordable and effective method of staying healthy. That is not to say walking is the most time efficient way of stripping back the pounds, and if you are looking to achieve maximum results in the shortest possible time it will leave you disappointed, but if you are patient and approach your fitness and health as a long-term plan, walking is quite possibly the best mode of exercise available.’

According to Bartlett, ‘We all know that going for a hike gets you in the great outdoors and amongst the action rather than sat indoors watching the box, but walking for health is about more than taking a leisurely stroll. Walking is most effective when it is approached like any other carefully considered exercise regime, it must be monitored and measurable. Progress is key if you want to use walking to improve, and not just maintain your health.’

Bartlett recommends that you follow his walking technique, as well as a solid nutrition plan, to amp up your wellbeing, as well as your weight loss efforts. When walking, Bartlett says, your head should be erect and centred, with your eyes looking forward 15-20 feet ahead and your chin tucked in. Make sure your shoulders are square and relaxed, with your back straight, and bend your arms at 90 degrees – close to your torso – and keep your fingers in a loose fist form.

Moving lower down your body, keep your core engaged and your bum and stomach tucked in. This is a position known as a pelvic tilt, which helps you to avoid back pain and also strengthens your lower back muscles. Obviously, your feet are key in your walking technique, so make sure that you stride out, landing on your heel and rolling forward to the ball of your foot to push off for the next step. This will help to exercise the front of your legs and calves. Don’t forget to stride, says Bartlett, and pump your arms to transform your walk from lower body to a total body aerobic workout.

Categories: posture, technique, Walking

What Everyone Should Know About Emotional Freedom Technique

Those who practice complementary forms of wellness will be interested to learn about the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is believed to be of great benefit and to bring you wellbeing.

Sometimes shortened to EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique works by connecting the body, mind and spirit, and looks at healing the whole body with all of these things in mind. By becoming aware of our inner world rather than the external world in which we inhabit, we are better able to address emotional and physical challenges that occur within our own bodies. This does not exclude the use of traditional medicine and therapy, but instead gives us another weapon to use to help us strive towards complete wellness.

Derived from acupuncture, the Emotional Freedom Technique is a noninvasive procedure, based on the flow of energy through the body. It is practised in order to heal both emotional and physical problems.

It was first discovered in the mid 90s, and is a sort of type of psychological acupressure, using the traditional energy medians that are employed in acupuncture, but without any need for invasive needles. Instead, simply tapping with the fingertips is used to input kinetic energy into specific places on the head and chest, whilst you think about the particular problem in question (be that a traumatic event, a pain, and addiction or whatever) and say positive affirmations out loud.

It is believed that energy flows through these points, and that EFT acts as circuit breaker. Negative emotions block the pathways with energy blocks, and this can lead to phobias, stress and physical ailments. The gentle tapping process relives the pressure and removes the energy block.

What Everyone Should Know About Emotional Freedom Technique

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