8 Cold Weather Kisses to Get You Through the Winter Months

Winter is fun – if, you know, it’s snowing, you’re a kid and/or you’re cuddled up on the sofa with a hot chocolate. While we may be in March, it doesn’t look like summer sun is arriving any time soon, so how do you survive this miserable winter weather? According to sexual health and wellness writer Scott Alden, the one saving grace of slogging it out through the sleet, rain and wind is the chance of a cute and cuddly wintery kiss. Alden notes, ‘If this season has one redeeming quality for urban adults, the winter kiss has got to be it. Maybe it’s only by contrast to my general misery, but cold-weather smooches always feel just a dash more romantic.’ But are wintery kisses really that romantic? Whether you do these already, or you fancy trying something new this winter, here are eight cold-weather kisses to help get you through the winter.

 

1. The Hands-in-Pockets Kiss: Alden describes, ‘You’re so cold. So cold. Your hands are still basically unusable in two layers of gloves. But you will not be stopped. You bump your bundled bodies together like awkward teenage walruses and somehow find each other’s face. There’s a quick peck, but you make it count and—for a split second—you’re warm all over.’

 

2. The You’re Cold/He’s Warm Kiss: ‘After fumbling the keys with your mittened hands and struggling with a frozen lock, you have finally arrived indoors,’ Alden outlines. ‘Your cardigan-wearing lover, who has been home tending the hearth, gasps at the windblown sight of you and rushes to your side. He presses his toasty lips against your frozen ones and it’s like drinking a cup of hot cocoa that loves you back.’

 

3. The Snowglobe Kiss: ‘You know how it gets real quiet on a snowy night?’ asks Alden. ‘It’s easy to feel like you’re the only two people in your very own miniature world, and since there’s no one else around…’

 

4. The Eskimo Kiss: Alden notes, ‘Leave it to the Eskimos, inventors of houses made of snow and shoes that keep you from falling in it, to find a practical yet adorable solution to kissing in extreme cold. The Eskimo kiss not only prevents wind-chapped lips from ever having to touch but also warms the oft-neglected tip of your nose.’

 

5. The Under-the-Blanket Kiss: ‘On nights like this, the two of you can allow no part of your body to be exposed,’ explains Alden. ‘Covers must go over your head. Toes must be pulled as far away from the foot of the bed as possible. There you are. Forehead to forehead, curled into little balls, just one goodnight kiss away officially being the cutest two people in the entire world.’

 

6. The Two-Flavour Kiss: Alden points out, ‘If you expect to be kissing anyone between late November and early April, you know you’d better have an effective lip lubricant on hand at all times. Yours is Honey Eucalyptus, your paramour’s is Pink Grapefruit and when they meet it’s a flavour explosion.’

 

7. The “Don’t Kiss Me, I’m Sick” Kiss: ‘You try to warn him; “Don’t! I think I’m getting that thing that’s been going around,”’ Alden details. ‘Inevitably, he ends up kissing you anyway because he just can’t stand not to. Now, that’s more romantic than Shakespeare’s complete sonnets spelled out in rose petals up the bedroom stairs.’

 

8. The Gingerbread Latte Kiss: Alden asserts, ‘The taste of a seasonally available Starbucks Gingerbread Latte is best experienced as a faint whisper on someone else’s lips.’

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Passion Lost? Communicate More With Your Partner

Miscommunication between men and women often stems from the fact that many people, particularly men, equate sex with romance. If their sex life is adequate, they believe everything else is fine, but this isn’t always the case. Furthermore, there’s the confusion about what is considered to be romantic or sexual activity. Many people think of kissing and hugging as a prelude to sex, but that’s not always the case. As a result, when people aren’t in the mood for sex, they don’t want to kiss or cuddle either as they think this is where it will lead. But these actions can help to retain the passion and intimacy in a relationship even when your sex life isn’t tip-top.

This kind of activity can be true of people in a relationship where a pattern has been established that kissing can lead to sex. This is where communication is so important, as the partner who wants the romantic touching needs to make it clear that their desire for physical contact has nothing to do with sexual feelings. Sometimes all we need it a kiss and a cuddle to feel loved and close to their partner, not necessarily as a precursor to sex. The onus isn’t always on the men though. Some women crave romance, but deliberately shut their libidos down once they get their fix because they find themselves busy or preoccupied. They don’t consider what it will take to satisfy their partners, as well as themselves. But this can lead to people feeling rejected and worthless in the relationship, which can create bigger problems than just the desire for sex being overlooked.

 

There’s also the level of confusion which occurs when couples try to communicate with each other about which signs of affection will lead to sex and which won’t. This confusion can create problems. There are two key factors to remember here – men get aroused easily and women can change their minds. But just because men can get aroused by kissing and hugging, it doesn’t mean that they’ll start kicking up a fuss when they don’t have sex. The answer is improved communication, where you need to be able to share your sensitivities and feelings with your partner without hurting his or her feelings.

 

For example, when a man gets an erection but the woman isn’t in the mood for sex, she needs to be able to tell her partner that she’s not in the mood without him getting upset or annoyed. And if she decides that she’s in the mood and they do have sex, he can’t assume that it’s going to happen every time the situation arises. The best way to do this is to avoid fixed patterns – each member of the relationship needs to be flexible and understand that people change their minds on the matter of sex, and that you can’t assume that one particular scenario will just be repeated each time. And it also means that you should compromise sometimes to please your partner. The man should understand that if a kiss drags on longer than usual, it doesn’t mean he should make her feel guilty when she turns down his advances. And she should be willing to hug and kiss without thinking about sex, but be accepting of her partners needs as well. Compromise and communication are the two pillars of a good relationship, and increasing the levels of them can do wonders for your closeness.

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Could a Passionate Kiss Help Revamp Things in the Bedroom?

Kissing may seem like something that only teenagers do at bus stops, but in actual fact a passionate kiss could be the key to safeguarding your sexual wellness and wellbeing.

 

Many couples who have been together for a period of time find that the ‘fireworks’ part of their relationship dies out. They may still be intimate and may still have sex, but most stop kissing passionately. This is not at all uncommon, but it is really important not to underestimate the power of a simple kiss.

 

Second only to the genitalia, the mouth has many nerve endings. It is extremely sensitive to the touch, and kissing can send pleasure signals all over the body.

 

There are many different types of kiss, of course, from the simple peck on the lips that you would give to your grandmother or similar family member, or the more romantic types of kisses. This is such an important subject that there are even whole books on the subject, detailing the different types of kisses that people can engage in. With so much incentive and variety, it is, therefore, rather sad that kisses seem to fade out of long-term relationships.

 

Couples also tend to find that sex can become a bit ‘mechanical’ in a long-term relationship. They describe it as like ‘scratching an itch’, which basically means that it is perfunctory and mutually satisfying, but that it is not mind-blowing or particularly thrilling. That doesn’t mean that mechanical sex is not pleasant, romantic and connecting – it could well be all these things – but it is probably not as passionate as the sex you enjoyed in the early days of the relationship.

 

The trick to reawakening the passion and getting past this mechanical sex could well be to bring kissing back into your relationship. Reintroduce kissing slowly – work at slowly touching one another more, being more affectionate and spending time together. Next time you have sex, move in to a passionate kiss. You will be surprised at where this could lead you!

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Love Detective: The Five First Date Signs of His Sex Style

On a first date, you weigh up the prospects of the guy sitting opposite you: Is he going to be good for your emotional wellbeing? Does he have long-term potential? However, while you may have a good eye for figuring out his relationship wellness over dinner, it’s harder to determine how he’ll fare in the bedroom just by the way he chews his pasta – or is it? According to sexpert Tracey Cox, author of Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True, a little attention to detail is all it takes to work out your prospective partner’s sexual health.

1. Talk – How he talks is a good indication of how he does…other things, says Tracey. ‘If they talk in a monotone and change facial expressions once an hour, they’re flat-lining. Low enthusiasm means they’ll be boring in bed as well,’ Tracey explains. ‘The person who throws their arms in the air at dinner, nearly knocking over the waiter, is full of life and passion. If they can get that worked up out of the bedroom, just think what they’ll be like in it!’

2. Sit – According to Tracey, ‘Where they choose to sit when you’re out for a drink or dinner is another giveaway. If they choose the seat facing you and the wall instead of the prime people-watching position, you’re onto a winner. The more their focus is entirely on you, the more they can remain in the moment when you’re alone.’

3. Eat – Firstly, what does he choose? Tracey notes, ‘if they’re not into experimenting or trying exotic fare, they’re hardly going to dish up the Kama Sutra behind closed doors.’ Also, make sure he tucks in! ‘Quite frankly, I’d put my money on the guy with love handles who tucks in with gusto, over the one with the six-pack who eats one steamed chicken breast every fortnight,’ Tracey asserts. ‘A good appetite usually means they’ve got a lusty libido to match.’

4. Touch – How does he hold your hand? Tracey comments, ‘Intertwined fingers mean they’re likely to be highly erotic: they’re touching every part of your hand which expresses a desire to be connected physically and emotionally.’ But watch out for the less exciting hand-cupping action! ‘The standard palm-to-palm clasp suggests affection and acceptance though it’s unlikely they’re going to surprise you sexually.’

5. Kiss – You may have worked this one out for yourself, but his kiss is a great indication of his style and skill in the bedroom. ‘Men who cup your face in their hands are romantic souls and usually intense, passionate lovers who want full, reciprocal focus,’ says Tracey. ‘Getting a little carried away during your first kiss is a good sign; if there’s a little groan or moan even better – who wants a lukewarm lover?’

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