How to Improve Your Partner’s Performance in the Bedroom

When your man underperforms in the bedroom, you can be left wondering what to do. According to sexual health and wellness writer Holly C. Corbett, Talking about his bedroom problems can be incredibly awkward, but for the sake of your relationship—and for maximum personal pleasure—it’s worth it…Working through these situations will help you turn a mortifying moment into a mind-blowing sex life.’ So which of his little issues are impacting your sexual wellbeing, and how do you fix them?

 

1. He Comes Too Soon: Sex therapist Bill Bercaw, co-author of the upcoming From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy, explains, ‘His fear of coming too soon causes him to clench his pelvic muscles, which accelerates him toward the point of no return. The key to getting more in sync is to help him learn how to relax…Try experimenting with different positions to find the ones that make him last longer. Female on top is great for women because there’s direct clitoral stimulation, which most women need to orgasm, and you get to control the thrusting.’ Corbett adds, ‘Press pause on the thrusting action when he’s nearing his peak to give him a break as he keeps stimulating you with his fingers or tongue. Then start up again and keep pausing intercourse until you both are ready to finish. Not only will this help sex last longer, it will also help him develop more control over his ejaculatory response.’

 

2. His Size Kind of Does Matter: Corbett points out, ‘The average erect penis is between 5.1 and 5.8 inches long. If your guy comes up a little short, try doing it doggie style: It will make you feel fuller because his penis will be hitting your G-spot, and he can also stimulate your clitoris with his hand to help you get there.’ Ginger Bercaw, wife of Bill and the other co-author of From the Living Room to the Bedroom, suggests, ‘On your end, the vagina is a muscle that can be tightened to help increase your arousal, so try strengthening your pelvic floor by doing kegels.’

 

3. He Can’t Get (or Keep) It Up: ‘Many women feel inadequate or rejected when their man can’t get it up, but his erection or lack thereof is not about you,’ says Bill. ‘Tell him what you want him to do with you that does not require an erection. This demonstrates that having a satisfying sex life is not solely dependent on his erection, which could help shift his focus away from what his penis is doing.’

 

4. He Suffers Low Libido: Ginger asserts, ‘The best kept sex secret in America is male low desire. Women are ashamed to talk about it because they feel inadequate, and men also feel ashamed out of fear that they’re not keeping up with their lover’s expectations. Many of us think we shouldn’t have to talk about sex because we want it to work naturally, but talking about it is the only way to improve your sex life. Tell him you love making love to him and want to find a number or a range that you both can agree upon. Flexibility is key, so say you’re shooting for two to three times a week, with the lower number being the minimum of what you’re okay with and the max number being an excellent week.’

 

5. You’re Uncomfortable with His Sex Fantasy: Corbett comments, ‘Few things are more awkward than when your guy makes like Adam from HBO’s Girls and asks you to do kinky things, like pretending to be an underage girl. If he springs an idea that feels degrading or makes you uncomfortable, wait a second…Talking about fantasies before playing them out is key. Because it’s a risk to share what’s going on inside your head, that shared vulnerability can bring you closer. Of course talking doesn’t mean you have to play out the fantasy, but you may consider meeting in the middle.’

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Top Foods to Boost the Male Libido

Men put a lot of emphasis on their ability in the bedroom, so when their libido drops they tend to seek out medications and creams which will help them gain erections more easily and improve their ability. Unfortunately, its not common knowledge that foods can have a similar effect without the worrying side effects on your health. There are many foods which are loaded with vitamins and minerals that could help improve your sexual health, from chilies and garlic, to pumpkin seeds and broccoli.

 

Watermelon

A refreshing fruit, watermelon is loaded with a number of health-boosting nutrients and can make for a great addition to your diet. It contains an amino acid known as citulline which can help improve the blood circulation, to the heart and to the genital region. It’s the latter that can help to attain longer erections and increase your libido. Citrulline can help to relax the blood vessels and can even have a similar effect to Viagra. Eating a piece of watermelon every day could help to improve this problem and offer great benefits.

 

Pumpkin Seeds

Pumpkin seeds are associated with good health thanks to their high concentrations of omega-3 fatty acids and vitamins. Pumpkin is rich in vitamins E, B, K, D and C, as well as being rich in zinc for increased sperm production and prevention of testosterone deficiency. You can add them to salads or eat them on their own as a snack, or for a really healthy way of eating them add them to grated carrots and milk to increase the libido significantly.

 

Nuts

All types of nuts are good for increasing your libido, so they’re a must for your diet in order to attain a better sexual performance. This is because they are high in L’arginine which is well known for improving your sexual performance. It increases blood circulation and can help to treat issues such as erectile dysfunction. The high levels of omega-3 fatty acids can regulate hormones and increase sexual performance, as well as boosting the production of sperm.

 

Avocados

Avocados are fantastic for your diet, boasting so many health benefits. However, in terms of sexual health, they are particularly important. They’re loaded with vitamin B6 which can balance the hormones in men, as well as potassium which can regulate the thyroid function. Folic acid in avocados can also help to keep your stamina high and improve your energy levels, which can do wonders for your sexual performance.

 

Chili peppers

We all know that chillies can boost the circulation, but how does this help men with sexual health problems? Chillies can increase your libido due to the compound capsaicin, as well as this compound working to release chemicals in the body to increase your heart rate which can release endorphins. These give you a natural high and can directly affect your stamina in this way. You can add these into your diet easily, from adding fresh chili to your pasta sauces or to salad dressings to reap the rewards.

 

Garlic

Garlic has antibacterial properties, so it can be a wonder in increasing your circulation, particularly to the heart and genital organs. It also thins the blood, so blood can flow more freely to the sexual region of the body. Allicin in garlic works to make your body hot and can heighten your sexual pleasure, making it great for people with issues with their libido. It does need to be consumed for around two months, though, before you’ll start to see results.

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How to Make Sure You Perform Well in the Bedroom

If you are a man, your sexual health and wellbeing is likely tied up in how you perceive your performance in the bedroom to be. For a man to experience good sexual and emotional wellness, he has to feel that he is doing all the right things to keep his partner happy. There are plenty of male enhancement supplements and pills on the market, but there are actually some far easier ways to keep an erection for longer, without having to pay a visit to the pharmacy.

 

Did you know, for example, that heart health is linked to sexual performance? It stands to reason, of course, because your penis functions on blood pressure. When your brain sends the signal to your penis to get an erection, the blood vessels in the genitals become engorged and of course it is the heart that pumps that blood. When there is a problem with heart function or blood pressure, this blood is not pumped as strongly and the penis can go limp too far ahead of time. It could even mean that you struggle to get a proper erection.

 

One of the best ways to achieve this is to stay active, as cardiovascular exercise will keep your heart strong and healthy and this will keep the blood pumping and flowing to every area of the body. Exercise that increases your heart rate and keeps it up (so to speak!) for a period of time is the best kind, and experts advise that you take 30 minutes per day of an exercise that makes your break into a sweat.

 

There are also some foods that are reputed to help with your sexual performance, by keeping the blood flow healthy. They include bananas, chillies and peppers, onions and garlic. In addition to these, any food that has omega-3 fatty acid is great for your heart, along with vitamin B1.

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Male Anxiety in Bed: The Real Story!

Anxiety is our natural response to stressful situations, but when we’re faced with anxiety over what should be a pleasurable situation it can be less than desirable. Many people, both men and women, get nervous and anxious about their performance in the bedroom, but men in particular are known for having issues with sexual anxiety. The result is the inability to reach an erection or orgasm in a normal way. There are a number of myths which surround this problem, which has manifested a larger problem than the reality for most men.

 

Sex is considered to be the most pleasurable experience humans can have, and although it is a physical experience this isn’t the whole story. If the individuals aren’t taking their emotions and thoughts into account, this can have disastrous effects on the sex itself. Arousal is closely linked to our emotions and feelings, so when we try to ignore this and focus only on the physical act it can ruin what should be an incredibly enjoyable experience. Performance anxiety is a disease condition, meaning that the individual is quite literally ‘dis’ at ‘ease’ with their situation. However, it isn’t always just a mental complaint – physical ailments can affect your ability in bed. The root of this problem is worry though, which may be caused by stress, body image woes or a fear that they won’t be good enough to satisfy their partner.

 

Possibly the greatest myth surrounding a person’s sexuality is that worry can’t physically affect anything. Because sex is largely a physical act, it’s easy to assume that there is no connection between the mind and a person’s sexual organs. This isn’t strictly true though. Worry can affect you though, as it causes the body to release the hormones epinephrine, noradrenaline, adrenaline and norepinephrine, which are designed to prepare the body against attack and threat. In moments of extreme intimacy, they aren’t the ideal hormones to be flooding the bloodstream.

 

There is a rule of thought which states that men are the only ones who get performance anxiety in the bedroom – this isn’t true. Because it isn’t diagnosed or publicised as much, people don’t associate it with the female participants, but it can affect women just as easily. Worry, in women, can manifest itself in a lack of lubrication which can make sex incredibly painful as opposed to desirable. Many people mistakenly think that performance anxiety is a one-off situation, which the individual will simply get over and move on from. Far from it, though, as it can cause a vicious cycle where the individual develops a fear surrounding sex, which lead to a problem in the bedroom, further exacerbating the worry. No-one should have to live with a sexual problem – sex is a personal aspect of a person’s lifestyle, and is there to be enjoyed.

 

Whether it is a psychological problem or a physical condition, you should seek help for it as soon as possible so that you can resume a normal sex life. Your GP will be able to advise ways to do this, whether it is minor surgical procedures or medication for physical problems, or counselling sessions for the emotional causes. If you think you may have a problem in the bedroom that is causing your performance anxiety, you should speak to your GP about it who can help. Communication is the best treatment for this issue – bottling it up only makes the issue worse and leads to unnecessary shame about your performance with your partner.

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How To Improve Your Sexual Performance

Sexual health is very important, especially to men. For many men, sex is at the centre of their self-confidence, and they are continually looking for ways to improve their sexual wellness and wellbeing.

 

There are a lot of male enhancement pills available on the market, but there are also lots of simple and natural ways to help you improve your male sexual performance without having to visit a drugstore.

 

Blood pressure controls the penis. When the brain sends the signal to the vital organ, the blood vessels become engorged and allows an erection to occur. Your heart pumps the blood that allows this occurrence, and thus problems with the heart can lead to problems with the blood pressure and the ability to sustain an erection. In order to keep your sexual health as good as it can be, you should work hard at keeping your heart healthy.

 

In order to keep your heart healthy and maintain the efficacy of your circulatory system, you should aim to carry out a lot of cardiovascular exercise. Sex can also get your heart rate up of course, but regular exercise can help even more, and that means sweat-breaking exercise such as swimming, running, exercise classes and so on. Just 30 minutes per day of exercise can help to boost both your libido and your sexual wellness.

 

Food can also play an important part in male sexual health, as there are certain foods that have been proved to increase blood flow to the penis. These include onions and garlic, bananas (the potassium in these can help to lower your blood pressure) and chilli peppers. Spicy foods reduce blood pressure and inflammation and thus help to improve your blood flow.

 

You can also try eating food that is high in omega-3 fatty acids, vitamin B1 and eggs, which all help to improve the chances so achieving an erection.

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