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Showing posts with label Teenagers. Show all posts

A study has found that teenagers who are not embarrassed about sending sexual texts are far more likely to protect their sexual wellness and wellbeing. Researchers said that using technology is a great way to get teenagers talking about potentially embarrassing topics, such as their sexual health. Teenagers who sent text messages about condoms were around four times more likely to have protected sex than those who did not, according to the study.


 


In addition, the study found that students who used technology to talk about sexual limits or pregnancy were doubly likely to use a condom when they had sex. This also applied when high school students talk about another form of birth control rather than condoms.


 


The study’s lead author uses the data to point out that not all use of technology is harmful. Most of the media attention points towards the risks and harms associated with technology use (for example, sexting) but in this case students who used their electronic tools to discuss sexual health were actually better prepared for real life scenarios.


 


Researchers think that it may be that technology allows teenagers to talk about subjects that would be embarrassing or awkward face to face.


 


The study was carried out on a group of 176 high school teenagers. Of the group 64 claimed to be sexually active, with more than half of them admitting that they consistently failed to use a condom.


 


These numbers, whilst shocking, are actually in line with statistics from the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which reports that 47 percent of U.S. high school students are having sex, and 40 percent are not using condoms.


 


Unsurprisingly, this leads to a very high teen pregnancy rate. If talking about condom use via text or IM on their mobile phones helps teens to take better precautions, then it is something to be celebrated.

You want your teenager to have a fun prom night, but this can be a time when their wellness is really at risk. After-prom parties pose such threats to your child’s wellbeing as underage drinking, drugs, sex, and the possibility of drinking and driving. This is why you need to communicate with your teenager before the prom, and create a few safety nets so that he or she does have fun and memories – but also has no regrets and comes home safely. With that in mind, we spoke to family wellness expert and educational psychologist Dr. Michele Borba, author of Parents Do Make a Difference: How to Raise Kids With Solid Character, Strong Minds, and Caring Hearts, to find out how to make prom night safer.


 


1. Reach Out: Dr. Borba advises, ‘Talk to other parents about post-event activities to ensure alcohol won’t be present. Identify alcohol-free activities and safe driving policies. Go to the school (usually there are parents meetings about the event) and listen so you know the plans. You can also discuss those with your teen so [he or she] knows you’re in the loop.’


 


2. Get on Board with Other Like-Minded Parents: ‘Talk to parents of your teen’s friends or his or her date,’ Dr. Borba instructs. ‘Set clear curfews that ideally match each others’. It’s a lot easier to say to a teen: “We all feel…” Many parents meet prior to a prom and grad night to agree on rules and the “plan.” Many parents also join together to have dinner parties in their own homes (the junior class can be the waiters) and after-prom parties that are safe and alcohol free.’


 


3. Set Clear Rules and Boundaries: Dr. Borba recommends, ‘“No drinking, co-ed sleepovers. Be where you say you will be – no leaving the prom.” Set a curfew, and clear consequences about breaking those rules. You also may want to review rules on photo taking – “Only pictures from a professional photographer” should be permitted. You don’t want inappropriate photos of teens plastered on their Facebook pages and seen by the rest of the world the following day (and every other day of their lives).’


 


4. Say NO to Hotel Room Rentals: ‘You know teens will not be ordering tea and crumpets with these hotel room rentals,’ says Dr. Borba. ‘Say NO! If you do agree, remember you are libel for the safety of those kids as well as the hotel property (which is usually on your credit card.)’


 


5. Don’t Underrate Your Influence: According to Dr. Borba, ‘Parents are the primary influence on their teens so you must talk about your expectations and your concerns. Research finds that parents who talk about the dangers of drinking with teens have teens who did much less drinking (compared with students who didn’t have that “talk” with their parents). You should be talking about alcohol many times anyway. These big nights are just more opportunities.’


 


6. Use the News to Connect the Dots: ‘Our “lectures” or talks about what happened in the “old days” don’t connect with teens, but often actual events do,’ Dr. Borba asserts. ‘So try combing the news to find a real story as your talk opener. “Did you hear sad story about what happened to the teens at their prom night?” (Unfortunately there are tragic stories every May and June about teens in car crashes so search the news). Talk about how drinking and drugs can cause you to lose your inhibitions, do things you might regret later, and even lead to accidents and death.’

Technology can boost your fitness in a number of ways. With online groups and apps to help you, you can be on your journey to a better overall wellbeing in a matter of mouse clicks. However, for 12-year experienced Certified Personal Trainer Yarixa Ferrao, NASM, CPR/AED, technology is actually hampering teenage wellness. She notes, ‘With all this technology, kids and teens are losing connection with their bodies and have become more sedentary because of it. And when they start seeing themselves gain weight they may attempt joining the gym or just continue to gain it because they have no idea what to do. Plus, in the gym, unless they have a personal trainer there’s no one there to instruct them and they end up doing what their friends do. In the end, they spend hours on the treadmill, which will amount to not a whole lot of progress.’


 


Therefore, Ferrao has created a workout routine especially for teenagers. Ferrao explains, ‘I know the importance of building a solid body foundation, especially as a developing teen. This is also a time to build self confidence, be mentally focused, reduce stress (teenage years can be stressful with all the expectations from parents and teachers while finding your own voice) and enjoy these years to the fullest, instead of worrying about appearance and lacking self esteem. I worked with three teens for a show on MTV called I Used to Be Fat in which the kids were desperate to lose weight, feel great, and lead a happier life. The result: They lost a lot of weight, got stronger, and gained self confidence! They also were able to experience a completely different life and a different perspective, from very down and negative, to up, open, and positive.’


 


Ferrao recommends focusing on the core, combining bodyweight movements (styles such as yoga, functional training, Pilates, animalistic movements, Karate), and locomotion (or running, hiking, biking, sprinting and walking). She provides the following workout routine (once you’ve got the OK from your doctor and have done five to 10 minutes warming up, of course):


 


1. Cardio: Ferrao instructs, ‘Instead of just doing hours on end on the treadmill, do short burst of sprints (run as fast as you can). Warm-up first for five minutes or until you feel the body get a bit sweaty. Then increase the speed to go as fast as you are able to for 20 seconds. Take a 20 second break and then repeat your 20 second sprint. Do this for six minutes and up to 12 minutes, allowing your rest periods to be longer if you need extra time to be able to perform the full 20 second sprint. Preferably do it outside. The treadmill is the next best choice.


 


2. Work on that core: ‘To increase your metabolism, gain muscular endurance and a stronger core, don’t just go out and run miles and miles and then do a ton of crunches,’ Ferrao urges. ‘This won’t help much unless cross country is your sport.’ Instead, once you finish your warm-up and sprinting, do the following routine:


 


  • 12-15 squats with a pair of dumbbells or just body weight if you are a beginner.

  • 15 push-ups or modified push-ups.

  • 20 reverse lunges, 10 with the right leg and 10 with the left one.

  • Plank – hold for 30 seconds.

  • 12-15 jumping pull-ups.

  • 12-15 squat to presses using dumbbells about six to eight pounds for girls and 12 to 15 pounds for boys.

  • Side plank – hold 30 seconds.

  • Five burpees.

 


Repeat for  3 or 4 rounds! Take 1.5 minute-rest between each set. Pause at any point if you feel dizzy or faint.

There is generally a negative undertone to the word “porn”. However, much of this negativity comes from a moral perspective, or even from people who are just grossed out by the idea. But what amount the impact porn has on your wellbeing. Does watching porn have a negative influence on your mental or sexual health? And does this influence change between teenagers and adults? Let’s take a closer look at the health impacts of watching porn.


 


According to award-winning wellness writer Hope Gillette, ‘Despite the rumours, pornography is not just for the sexually depraved as some would believe. Many healthy individuals and couples indulge in internet or video porn. To understand who is watching porn, it is important to first understand what it is, as everyone has a slightly different opinion on the topic. By definition, pornography is “the depiction of erotic behaviour (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement.” That being said, many things can be classified as pornography, especially certain genres of books, movies, cartoons, and photographs. And just as there are many different forms of porn, it can affect men, women and young adults all differently.’


 


The main group people often associate with watching porn is teenagers, especially as the internet has made it so easy to access pornographic images and videos. In Australia, a study recently found that teenagers who watched porn were more likely to engage in similar, real-life sexual behaviours. The researchers found that teens who watched pornography ‘were more likely to have higher numbers of sexual partners, engage in a wider diversity of sexual practices, and use alcohol or drugs in association with sexual encounters.’ As you might expect, these teenagers were also more likely to have a high occurrence of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).


 


However, Gillette comments, ‘Though the research indicated exposure to sexually explicit images may result in earlier sexual experiences, it did not prove that watching porn causes any harm to teens, but rather only exposes them to the risks associated with being sexually active.’ Moreover, Psychology Today points out that, contrary to some social conservative statements, watching porn does not result in higher rates of rape or sexual irresponsibility among teens. In fact, there are fewer instances of such behaviours, and teenage use of condoms is on the rise. Psychology Today adds that, in a Swedish study, the teenage participants were able to easily distinguish between fantasies online and real relationships.


 


So what about adults? ‘The first major issue when it comes to adults and pornography is that of addiction,’ says Gillette. ‘Like many feel-good activities and drugs, addiction to porn is entirely possible. The Sexual Recovery Institute states porn addicts behave in the same manner as people who have chemical addictions; they replace their meaningful relationships and activities with their addiction. Porn addicts are usually isolated and can spend hours or even days locked away from social contact while they feed their addiction. Just like alcoholics or drug abusers, porn addicts often need professional assistance to overcome their issue.’


 


As well as this, being addicted to porn can lead to problems in the bedroom, as men who watch too much porn seem to have a lower sex drive. Marnia Robinson, co-author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habits to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, explains, ‘There are young guys who have grown up wired to high-speed Internet porn. [A recent] survey matches up with what we have been seeing for years—that that these guys are having addiction symptoms. The experts were telling them, “Take a Viagra” and “You just have performance anxiety.” Well you obviously don’t have performance anxiety with your own hand.’

As a parent, it is definitely your responsibility to discuss the issue of drinking and driving with your teenager. However, anyone who has ever had a teen understands it can be very difficult to get through to them, especially about topics relating to alcohol and drugs. Therefore, it is essential to carefully consider the best way to approach this topic so that your teenager actually keeps an open mind and listens to you instead of shutting down immediately. The following are some ways that can help when discussing this topic with your teen.


 


1. Make them Aware of the Legalities of this Crime 


Many teenage drivers assume that getting a DUI is not actually a very big deal because many celebrities are able to walk away from these incidents with nothing more than a legal slap on the wrist. Due to this, you will need to have facts in front of you that illustrate the actual penalties for an underage DUI in your state. For example, teenage drivers in Minnesota are held responsible to adhering to the state’s zero-tolerance laws.


 


This means that even half of a drink can cause them to get arrested and have their license taken away. Additionally, they could be facing a large fine and even time in a juvenile correction facility. If your teen gets arrested for a DUI, it would be good to contact a juvenile crimes lawyer such as Kevin W. DeVore, an experienced Minnesota defense attorney, to help them get an acquittal or a reduced sentence so that they do not end up paying for it for the rest of their life.


 


 


2. Tell Them a Personal Story 


If anyone in your life has ever gotten into trouble because of a DUI, you should strongly consider using their story to help your teen learn that drinking and driving is a real issue that can have serious consequences. In fact, letting your teenager speak to someone they know who has been convicted of a DUI could have a big impact on whether or not they will ever get behind the wheel while they are intoxicated.


 


 


3. Utilize News Stories about Teenagers 


It is common for teens to view themselves as almost a separate species from adults. Therefore, you will get much further with them if you use news that stories about teenagers who have gotten in trouble for a DUI in lieu of simply pointing out the dangers of drinking and driving. If possible, you should discuss a situation with them that involved a teen driver their age that either lost their life or killed someone as a result of driving under the influence.


 


 


4. Provide them with a Safety Plan 


It is unrealistic to assume that simply speaking to your teen about DUIs will prevent them from drinking. Because of this, you should strongly consider offering them a safety plan that includes being able to call for a ride home without getting into serious trouble.


 


It is very important for you to take every possible step to protect your teenager, but you also need to enable them to live a normal life. Therefore, discussing the danger of a DUI with them is critical, and you should also immediately retain legal representation if your teen is ever arrested for drinking and driving.


 


 


As a mother to 3 teens, Lisa Coleman understands and shares the importance of successfully discussing DUI with them, including the legalities that can occur. She recently read about how Kevin W. DeVore, a Minnesota criminal defense attorney, can legally help when a minor is faced with this kind of charge.


 


 


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Regardless of the fact that teenagers are becoming sexually active earlier than ever, bringing the subject up and discussing it with them is still difficult for many adults. Sex is no longer a taboo issue and is splashed across the media in almost every form, but talking about it isn’t any easier than decades ago – we still get embarrassed when we talk about this natural act. And furthermore, there’s data to suggest that doctors are also guilty of failing to provide a useful sexual health discussion with teens. Research published in the JAMA Paediatrics states that one third of teenagers seen by a doctor didn’t talk about sexual health with their GP. Although the subject of sex was brought up in around 65 per cent of wellness visits, the conversations they had were extremely brief – in most cases, less than 36 seconds. These findings show that the majority of physicians aren’t making the most of these opportunities to educate teenage patients about sex and the risks involved, such as sexually transmitted diseases and how to prevent them. Although it is easier for parents to leave the subject of sex to medical professionals, it isn’t always the wisest decision – teenagers need to be able to feel comfortable discussing sex with people they trust and are close to. Sex education in schools isn’t usually in-depth enough to give adolescents the knowledge they need to make informed decisions, which is where parents come in to the situation.


Talking about sex is always going to be uncomfortable for parents and teenagers alike, but once you develop an open and trusting relationship around the topic, it gets easier. This is especially the case if what you’re worried about it is the answers you’re going to hear from your child. But there are steps you can take to make the process a little easier. For example, you can always ask for help – consult your GP who can offer you some advice about how to embark on this issue. Not only will it help you to form an unbiased discussion about sex but it will also help GPs to make sexual health conversations more engaging. You should also be as knowledgeable as possible on the subject – you’ll want to be prepared for any questions your teen may have. This means doing your research about the risks to teen sex these days, the various contraceptive methods available to adolescents and ensuring that your information is accurate. Giving your child inaccurate information could be extremely detrimental to their health and safety. If you’re not sure about the answer to a question, there’s no shame in explaining to your teen that you’ll need to find out and get back to them, rather than guessing.


But more importantly, you need to make sure those conversations happen – don’t let your teenager off the hook. If your teen says they don’t need ‘the talk’, make sure you still sit down and chat with them – even if it’s going over what they know, it will help to open up the channels of communication and build a trusting relationship between you both. Don’t discipline your teen when you talk to them – this isn’t the time to make your child feel ashamed or anxious about sex. Just because you’re talking about certain activities with them doesn’t mean they’re automatically engaging in them, so try not to be judgemental. Furthermore, remember that face to face conversations aren’t the only ways to communicate – why not write your child an email covering the topics, so that you both feel able to talk about things you might feel too embarrassed to say in person.

If your teen’s wellness is affected by depression, parenting and disciplining them can be a minefield. You don’t want to let your child get away with murder when they do something wrong, or strike the wrong balance between talking and giving them space. However, there are some effective parenting and communication techniques that can help you negotiate those treacherous waters of teen mental health and wellbeing:


 


1. Don’t Discipline in a Destructive Way: From the simple fact that your son or daughter is a teenager, you can rest assured that you will have to discipline them at some point. However, while your go-to parenting style may be to shame and punish them into thinking twice before making the same mistake ever again, this can often feed into feelings of depression. Despairing of your teenager and going straight for the punish-first-communicate-later approach can make your son or daughter feel worthless and inadequate, which can only add to their depressive state. Instead, discipline your teen using positive reinforcement for good behaviour, and openness and non-judgement when communicating about things they’ve done wrong.


 


2. Accept the Fact Your Teen will Make Mistakes: As we’ve already established, every teenager – and, for that matter, every person – will make a mistake at some point in their lives. As parents, your job isn’t to chart their career or future for them so that they get things right (as you’d only really be correcting your own past failures). Rather, you need to let them decide how to live their own lives – even if you know better. If you become overprotective or take their decisions into your own hands, your teenager will feel that you have no faith in them or their abilities, which can make them feel less confident.


 


3. Don’t Spend Every Second Breathing Down Their Neck: This goes hand-in-hand with what we’ve previously been saying about letting your teen make their own mistakes, but it also speaks to a general need to give teens breathing room. At some point in every teenager’s life, they stop thinking you’re the bees knees and start realising that they can (and want to) spend more time alone and think things through for themselves. While it’s important that your teen respects your authority and spends time with the family on occasion, that is not to say that they should be tied to your apron strings and hang on every word you say. Give your teenager space to breathe and don’t expect them to do exactly as you say all of the time – they are teenagers, after all.


 


4. Give Your Teen’s Depression the Time it Deserves: If you have any suspicion that your teenager might be depressed, don’t dismiss the thought or hope the depression goes away on its own. You need to take the time to talk to your teenager and listen to any concerns that she or he might have. Even if you think your teen’s problems are insignificant or petty compared to yours in the “real world,” typical teenage issues can feel very real when you’re growing up and living through them, so address them with the respect your child’s feelings deserve. Make sure your child knows that he or she can talk to you at any time and that the lines of communication are always open. Even if your teen seems to want to withdraw, make sure you regularly ask what’s going on in and listen, rather than telling your teen what to do. If you feel overwhelmed or unable to reach your teen, or if you continue to be concerned, seek help from a qualified health care professional.

As a parent, nothing wreaks havoc on your mental wellness more than the idea that your teenagers are having sex. Unfortunately, however, teen sexual health is a pressing issue, with research showing that many teenagers are sexually active by the time they reach high school. This means that your child’s wellbeing is at great risk to pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), as well as the emotional consequences of having sex. Therefore, you have to get proactive with your teen, and discuss the importance of contraception before sexual activity begins.


 


When having “The Talk” with your teenager, abstinence is still a valid subject to discuss. Whether you feel strongly against the idea of sex before marriage, or you just want to make sure your son or daughter is ready to have sex, explain how you feel to your teen. It’s easy to fall into the trap of telling your teen what to do, without letting them know your reasons for doing so. Share the reasons behind your beliefs, rather than just laying down the law, and you’ll give your teenager something to think about and, hopefully, believe themselves.


 


That is not to say you should ignore your teenager’s own values – far from it. You should ask your teenager to think about their values and hopes for the future, and how sex might affect these things. Adolescents are particularly prone to risky sexual behaviours, and the only way to absolutely prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections – such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, human papillomavirus (HPV), herpes and HIV – is to practice abstinence from all forms of sexual activity. Plus, having sex makes break-ups all the more emotionally damaging, so remind your teen that there are many nonsexual ways he or she can show feelings for someone.


 


That said, you can’t stop your teenager from doing what he or she wants to do. However, you can make sure they practise safe sex. It’s important for everyone to understand birth control, whether your teenager has decided to wait for sex or not. One day, he or she will need to know how to prevent pregnancy and protect himself or herself from sexually transmitted infections, and the only way to ensure they gain this knowledge is to give it to them. When talking about contraception, don’t be vague but go into all the methods available. This includes:


 


1. Condoms: While other contraceptives prevent pregnancy, your teenager needs a barrier method in order to guard their wellbeing against STIs. Make sure your teen understands the importance of always using condoms during sex, as well as the correct way of using them.


 


2. Prescription birth control: There are various contraceptive methods your teenager can get on prescription to prevent pregnancy. This includes combination birth control pills, the contraceptive patch (Ortho Evra), vaginal ring (NuvaRing) and contraceptive injection (Depo-Provera). Your daughter will need to visit a doctor, who will review her medical history, conduct a pelvic exam, and go over the risks and benefits of different types of birth control. While these methods can be extremely effective in preventing pregnancies, make sure your teen knows that prescription birth control doesn’t offer protection from STIs.


 


3. Emergency birth control: While it’s important for your teen to make a decision about birth control before having sex, emergency contraception — such as the morning-after pill (Ella, Plan B One-Step or Next Choice) — can help prevent pregnancy if your teen doesn’t plan ahead or contraception fails. You need to tell your teenager that emergency contraception must be started as soon as possible after unprotected intercourse, and within 120 hours to be effective.

As a parent, nothing wreaks havoc on your mental wellness more than the idea that your teenagers are having sex. Unfortunately, however, teen sexual health is a pressing issue, with research showing that many teenagers are sexually active by the time they reach high school. This means that your child’s wellbeing is at great risk to pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), as well as the emotional consequences of having sex. Therefore, you have to get proactive with your teen, and discuss the importance of contraception before sexual activity begins.


 


When having “The Talk” with your teenager, abstinence is still a valid subject to discuss. Whether you feel strongly against the idea of sex before marriage, or you just want to make sure your son or daughter is ready to have sex, explain how you feel to your teen. It’s easy to fall into the trap of telling your teen what to do, without letting them know your reasons for doing so. Share the reasons behind your beliefs, rather than just laying down the law, and you’ll give your teenager something to think about and, hopefully, believe themselves.


 


That is not to say you should ignore your teenager’s own values – far from it. You should ask your teenager to think about their values and hopes for the future, and how sex might affect these things. Adolescents are particularly prone to risky sexual behaviours, and the only way to absolutely prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections – such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, human papillomavirus (HPV), herpes and HIV – is to practice abstinence from all forms of sexual activity. Plus, having sex makes break-ups all the more emotionally damaging, so remind your teen that there are many nonsexual ways he or she can show feelings for someone.


 


That said, you can’t stop your teenager from doing what he or she wants to do. However, you can make sure they practise safe sex. It’s important for everyone to understand birth control, whether your teenager has decided to wait for sex or not. One day, he or she will need to know how to prevent pregnancy and protect himself or herself from sexually transmitted infections, and the only way to ensure they gain this knowledge is to give it to them. When talking about contraception, don’t be vague but go into all the methods available. This includes:


 


1. Condoms: While other contraceptives prevent pregnancy, your teenager needs a barrier method in order to guard their wellbeing against STIs. Make sure your teen understands the importance of always using condoms during sex, as well as the correct way of using them.


 


2. Prescription birth control: There are various contraceptive methods your teenager can get on prescription to prevent pregnancy. This includes combination birth control pills, the contraceptive patch (Ortho Evra), vaginal ring (NuvaRing) and contraceptive injection (Depo-Provera). Your daughter will need to visit a doctor, who will review her medical history, conduct a pelvic exam, and go over the risks and benefits of different types of birth control. While these methods can be extremely effective in preventing pregnancies, make sure your teen knows that prescription birth control doesn’t offer protection from STIs.


 


3. Emergency birth control: While it’s important for your teen to make a decision about birth control before having sex, emergency contraception — such as the morning-after pill (Ella, Plan B One-Step or Next Choice) — can help prevent pregnancy if your teen doesn’t plan ahead or contraception fails. You need to tell your teenager that emergency contraception must be started as soon as possible after unprotected intercourse, and within 120 hours to be effective.

While it was once seen as the domain of new-age practitioners and, let’s face it, hippies, yoga has now become synonymous with wellness even in the mainstream sphere. The range of benefits to your wellbeing range from the psychological to the biochemical, and everyone is talking about it. However, while we’ve now grasped the heath and fitness benefits of yoga, we’re still a little slow in applying them to our children – more fool us. According to Kristin Henningsen, MS, RYT, an adjunct professor with Kaplan University’s School of Health Sciences, ‘Numerous studies have touted the benefits of regular yoga practice for toddlers, children, teenagers, and even college students. In fact, in every stage of life yoga has been noted to increase the heath and wellness of individuals.’


 


1. Children: Stress is often seen as something that grownups have to deal with, but kids can also suffer from stress. Long school days, friendship dramas and busy parents can all pile on the pressure in your child’s life and Henningsen asserts, ‘This can lead to emotional outbursts, periods of withdrawal, and negative attention-seeking behaviour. Incorporating yoga in to a child’s life can help [your child] build self-esteem, body awareness, improve concentration, and encourage a sense of calmness. Not to mention the physical benefits of improved balance, strength, and flexibility.’


 


2. Tweens: The stage between childhood and adolescence is an especially poignant time to practice yoga. Yoga instructor Paula Walker points out, ‘Self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-respect are the three most important things for preteen girls to develop as their bodies are changing. Yoga teaches them to become very in touch with their bodies from the inside out.’ The awareness that yoga teaches can seep into every aspect of a tween’s life, leading to more meaningful relationships, mindful nutrition, and a strong template for physical fitness. Henningsen adds, ‘You can instil confidence and independence in your tween by giving him or her the freedom to attend class by themselves or with a friend.’


 


3. Teenagers: Once your kids are in the full throes of puberty, they are in a time of life that is often associated with disconnect, transitions and anxiety – but yoga can serve as a shelter from the storm. Colleen Morton Busch, senior editor at Yoga Journal, comments, ‘Adolescence, it seems, has become a kind of preterm adulthood, a time when kids face adult issues and concerns but with the emotional intelligence and coping skills of children—and with little societal support for making the transition.’ Nanette E. Tummers states that yoga ‘allows for self-study and self-care as well as development of vital intrapersonal and interpersonal skills, such as improved communications skills, which are critically needed at this developmental stage.’ While teens tend to gravitate towards the classes with the more challenging poses and vigorous asanas, often the most rewarding thing for teenagers is the final resting post or savasana.


 


4. Young Adults: Between leaving school and setting off into the big, wide world of adulthood, young adults have a heady experience of power and independence, learning to deal with adult relationships and juggle many new responsibilities. In 2007, researchers at the University of Southern Mississippi showed that yoga can increase physical and mental relaxation, decrease emotional reactivity, and improve concentration and academic performance in this age group. Henningsen adds, ‘The study also showed the improved self-awareness, more energy, and a new positive outlook on life. These skills will help carry the young adult into the more challenging roles of later life.’ For this age group, which often requires fitness on a budget, there are many books, podcasts, and videos which offer individuals a chance to deepen their practice of yoga without having to spend large amounts on weekly classes.

This weekend, a 16-year-old girl from Mumbai has claimed that she was raped at a party in Kandivali after her drink was spiked. This the second such incident in a fortnight that has involved a minor and sexual abuse occurring in the midst of friends, which makes it a family wellness wake-up call to parents and young people alike. This is according to child wellness experts, who have commented on the incidents and advised parents and teenagers that it is better to be safe than sorry.


According to Pooja Taparia, founder and CEO of NGO Arpan, which works towards freedom from child sexual abuse, ‘We encourage parents to talk about personal safety. Instead of focusing on dos and don’ts, create an environment where you have an open communication channel with your children.’ Taparia advises that you need to talk very openly with your children and discuss the risks that such incidents involve. It is also recommended that, for the sake of your teenager’s wellbeing, you know about their friends. However, avoid becoming too intrusive or judgmental because your teen will only want to rebel.


Psychiatrist Hemangi Dhavale commented, ‘It might seem old-fashioned, but it isn’t advisable to let young girls stay over with unknown friends,’ and so you need to take some responsibility and ensure your young children are supervised. She added that you should also be aware of any new friends your children might make, as well as the kind of entertainment they indulge in. ‘Parents could keep a set of number of friends so that if their child doesn’t return home they at least have a contact point,’ Dhavale said.


However, a worrying fact of abuse is that a lot of it occurs within your circle of loved ones and neighbours. Sandeep Shinde, of voluntary organisation Childline, noted, ‘Even when children report such abuse to adults, parents often try to suppress such complaints or fail to acknowledge them. It is essential that they take cognizance of such complaints and act on them.’ Counsellors encourage children to speak up against abuse, even if it is initiated by a loved one, and to confide in someone they trust.



How to Talk to Your Teenager about the Dangers of Abuse

Teen romances aren’t always light hearted and filled with love – some are subject to violence, so you should be aware of the signs so as to be able to help your teen through this time. Abuse in relationships can happen to both men and women, but it is more likely to happen to women and girls. It also happens in same sex relationships. Both physical and emotional abuse can leave a damaging scar on a person’s confidence and mental health, as well as leading to depression, drug and alcohol problems, and eating disorders in some cases.


 


Sexual abuse can also result in pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. There are many facets of physical abuse, from hitting and kicking to pressuring someone into something they don’t want to do, such as sexual activity. Emotional abuse can involve saying things to make your partner feel stupid or small, pressuring them into doing things they don’t want to, checking up on them all the time to find out what they’re doing, and threatening them. Mobile phones and the internet have made abusive partners worse in many ways, making it easier to control people and find out where they are all the time. If you suspect that your child is being abused in their relationship, you should speak to them about it and express your concerns. It’s important that they realise that such behaviour isn’t ok, and that they don’t need to put up with it. Some teens feel that such acts are just part of being in a relationship or that their partner is just messing around. It’s your role as their parent to advise them of the truth and to make them understand that they don’t need to be controlled, whether it is violently or through words.


 


There are signs that you can keep an eye out for, so as to spot the signals of an abusive relationship early on. These include your child’s boyfriend or girlfriend getting extremely jealous when they do anything or go out without them; they may monitor their calls or texts, or check their social network accounts for messages. If they have trouble controlling their emotions, particularly anger, then you may want to be watchful that they aren’t taking this anger out on your teen. Many abusers are verbally abusive and use force when arguing as well. They may also stop their boyfriend or girlfriend from seeing their friends or family as much. Some girls put up with this as they feel that it is a sign their partner loves them and is simply jealous, but this is not true. This form of control is about being manipulative, it is not about love or romance.


 


If you suspect that your child is being abused, you should express that you are there for them and that they can always come to you no matter what. Victims of abuse often feel ashamed so you need to tell them that it isn’t their fault. Finding the words can be difficult, as you will no doubt be worried and concerned, but try to be as emphatic as you can that you are there for them no matter what happens. If you or your teenager are unsure what to do, or how to react to the situation, you may benefit from speaking to a counsellor who can help you navigate the situation safely and effectively. Your GP may be able to help you seek out such services in your local area.

There are so many wellness issues facing teenagers today I don’t know where to start; you’ve got sexting, body image disorders, cyberbullying – no wonder teen mental health is so under threat! If you’re concerned about your teenager’s wellbeing, perhaps it’s time to consider therapy.


 


According to marriage and family therapist Esther Boykin, LMFT, co-owner of Group Therapy Associates, ‘Therapy is an excellent resource to help address [teen] issues, develop effective coping skills, and improve family relations. While I am an advocate for therapy as a way to prevent major crises as well as a solution for dealing with them, I know that often parents and teens struggle to decide if their problem is “big” enough for therapy. While nearly every issue can be helped by having the support and guidance that therapy can provide; it is not always a feasible option.’


 


So how do you determine whether or not your teen needs therapy? Boykin notes, ‘I find that most of us, whether we admit it or not, think of mental health either being crazy or not. The truth is that mental health, just like physical health, is a complex set of many factors. These factors can roughly be divided into three categories- psychological (or emotional) factors, social (or relational) factors, and biological (or physical) factors. You may even hear therapists and other mental health professionals refer to it as your bio-psycho-social functioning.’ Let’s take a look at what each set of factors looks like, so that you can assess whether or not your teen needs help.


 


1. Psychological/Emotional: This is probably the area of mental health that you think of first; your mood and ability to manage your emotions. Boykin explains, ‘Managing your feelings is not the same as stuffing or hiding them. In fact a healthy emotional state is one in which you feel a wide range of emotions, including so-called negative emotions such as anger, sadness and worry. Healthy individuals are able to identify their emotions and act in socially appropriate ways in response to them.’ Therapy and medications become appropriate avenues to pursue when your teenager has detrimental thought patterns, as occurs with anxiety, body image and self-esteem issues. If your teenager’s way of thinking has an overwhelming effect on their mood and behaviour, it needs to be addressed.


 


2. Social/Relational: There’s no denying we’re social creature, so it’s not hard to see how the way we relate to one another is vital in keeping us mentally healthy. When it comes to teenagers, developing and maintaining relationships is an important part of development. ‘Sometimes the social part of mental health is specific to one relationship in your life, such as getting along with your parents,’ Boykin comments. ‘But at other times, teenagers can struggle to make new friends or have difficulty maintaining a healthy relationship with peers…learning to establish healthy boundaries, resolve conflict, and maintain your identity within close relationships is all part of keeping yourself mentally healthy.’ The time to seek help is when your teenager’s relational problems become so overwhelming that it interferes with the management of day-to-day life.


 


3. Biological/Physical: We can overlook this component of mental health, but biology plays a role in many mental health disorders, hence medications can help with things like depression and anxiety. Plus, physical health problems can lead into mental health issues. Boykin explains, ‘Physical conditions such as obesity or severe asthma can change how you live your life possibly limiting your physical activity or your ability to engage with peers. These changes impact your social and emotional experiences.’ According to numerous studies, the most effective treatment for many physical disorders is a combination of talk therapy and pharmacology.

When your teenager experiments with drugs, it’s more than an issue of physical wellness; they’re also threatening their mental health. In fact, drug use can negatively influence all aspects of your teen’s wellbeing, and so it’s vital to get in on the ground floor and talk to your child about drugs before it becomes a problem. This is no easy task, but a few pointers can make the conversations go a little more smoothly:


 


1. Educate yourself. Before you can teach your child about drugs, you first need to do your homework so that you can talk to your child in an informed way. Make sure you understand enough about drugs, including why your child might experiment with them, so you can answer any questions and keep calm in a crisis – just make sure you use reliable resources.


 


2. Time it right. When your teen is rushing out the door to school or a friend’s house, they won’t want to stop for a good talk about drug use, so anything you say will go in one ear and out the other. Likewise, if your teenager is on drugs they’re not going to be in a place to listen if they’re high. Pick a time when your teen is in the right frame of mind to hear you. Mealtimes are a good forum for discussion, while TV programmes that deal with drug use, or when it comes up on the news, can help to spark the subject.


 


3. Make sure your stance is clear. The chances are that your child already knows your values and boundaries, but it’s important to clarify exactly where you stand on drug taking so that everyone is on the same page. If you start talking about the issue before they start experimenting with drugs, it may make them feel strong and independent enough to be able to say no.


 


4. Don’t try to scare them out of it. Again, this is where educating yourself is important, as adolescents tend to know a bit more about drugs than their parents do. This means there’s no point in warning that smoking cannabis will kill them, as they know this isn’t the case and so you’ll just discredit everything else you say on the subject. Talking about the facts, on the other hand, will help the situation to feel more realistic and tangible. For example, pointing out that cannabis can cause mental health problems and make you forgetful and unmotivated will be more of a deterrent.


 


5. Know who your teenager spends their time with. Adolescents don’t start taking drugs in a vacuum; they have friends who start doing it and pressure them to act likewise. In fact, peer pressure is the single most powerful factor in determining whether or not your child will take drugs, so it’s essential that you know their friends. You may be tempted to ban your teen from hanging out with any potentially shifty pals, but it’s far better to take an interest in your child’s friends and invite them to the house. That way, you can keep a closer eye on what’s going on.


 


6. Let your teen know you’re always there for them. Your teenager needs to be able to come to you no matter what, and be honest rather than telling you what they think you want to hear. This means fostering a relationship of openness and non-judgement, which requires you to talk to them in the right way. Instead of preaching or making assumptions about what your child is up to, ask about their experiences and really listen. One way to create an on-going relationship of communication – rather than a one-off discussion – is to have a conversation when you’re doing things side-by-side, such as driving in the car, washing up together or preparing food.

Mental health problems can be hard to diagnose in teenagers, as mood swings and hormonal behaviour are often seen as a regular part of the puberty process. So, as a parent, how can you tell if your child’s black days are part of regular teenage angst, or whether they’re an indication of more deeply troubled mental wellness.


 


One problem parents face is that teenagers can be just as frightened about seeking help for their mental well-being as they are over the problem itself. Your teenager will struggle to get help anywhere without your knowledge and consent if they are under the age of 16, which means that, if they don’t want to open up to you, they may not get any help at all. This is why it is essential that you foster a good relationship of openness about wellness with your child, without judging or belittling their problems.


 


One option your teenager has is to speak to someone at their school instead of coming to you first, but many schools do not have a full-time counsellor. Even if there is someone for your child to talk to within a certain degree of confidentiality, the counsellor has a certain responsibility to you as the parents if your child shares something you need to know about, and this, again, can put teenagers off opening up if they don’t want you to find out about their problems. There is also CAMHS, the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services, available to your teenager through the NHS, but again, a referral to their team usually requires parental consent – and can take an extremely long time regardless.


 


Still, before we even get to the point of parental confidences and getting help, your teenager still needs to know that he or she has the symptoms of mental illness, which can be problematic in itself considering the state of the national curriculum. Some people argue that discussing the issues of sex, drug and mental health education has no place in an academic setting, but the fact remains that around one in three children in every class will or do suffer from a diagnosable mental health disorder. Therefore, as parents, it’s your job to educate your child and yourself on potential mental health symptoms, and give your teenager the help he or she needs, as well the knowledge that you are here for them, and they are not alone.

All adolescents should have access to sexual health care, including family planning, in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle. But it seems as though more needs to be done in humanitarian settings to meet this need for refugee adolescents. The Women’s Refugee Commission and Save the Children have combined forces with the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees and the United Nations Population Fund to try to tackle this problem. The need for better reproductive health care for adolescents is extremely urgent and the statistics are worrying health professionals, who claim that two million girls under 15 years of age give birth every year – these girls have an increased risk of maternal mortality than other groups. The figures show that half of the sexual assaults are committed against girls under 15. The lack of community and family structures weakens the traditional forms of protection and leads to unusual behavioural patterns, which means that child-bearing risks are very high, as are the levels of exploitation and sexual violence. Forced early marriage amongst these young girls is not uncommon either.


 


A report conducted by WRC and Save the Children found that only 37 programmes were focused on the sexual health needs of 10 to 19 year olds since 2009. Only 21 of these offered more than two methods of contraception, and funding was equally low. In spite of the work that still needs to be done to improve these services, there were encouraging aspects of the report that provided some hope for the adolescents in need of them. There were various instances of notable practice in humanitarian settings which could serve as a guide for improving programming and increasing the access to reproductive health care for teens. There were common findings for the successful programmes, in that they built trust amongst the communities and built support by engaging parents, teachers and community leaders. They also worked to build the adolescents themselves by developing them as full participants in the assessment and design of the programmes.

Teen wellbeing is at risk to excessive alcohol consumption. This is according to Tony and Lori Bobbitt of Greencastle, Pennsylvania, who are spreading the message that drinking can kill in the hopes of sparing are parents from going through the nightmare they have. Their 19-year-old son William Kiel Bobbitt, died from alcohol poisoning in May 2008, so the Bobbitts know just how devastating teenage bingeing can be to family wellness.


The police reports show that Kiel was drinking dark rum with friends the night before he arrived home drunk at 1 am. His housemates found him the next morning at 8.30 am, and he was unresponsive. Tony Bobbitt explained, ‘We don’t really drink alcohol so it was not an environment that Kiel was accustomed to. Like all young men we knew he had probably tried beer with his friends in Greencastle, but nothing stronger.’


According to Lori Bobbitt, ‘Our message is not that we want everyone to stop drinking, but we want young people to understand the dangers of excessive drinking,’ and to be able to recognise the wellness signs of alcohol poisoning. ‘Allowing someone to “sleep it off’ is not the solution,’ she said. ‘In this case of Kiel, it caused the tragic end to which he came.’ The Bobbitts have been speaking to teens about the dangers of alcohol poisoning as they have found many young people aren’t aware of the symptoms.


The Bobbitts have now spoken at various schools and colleges across the Tri-State area, including Greencastle Antrim High School, Shippensburg University, Mount St. Mary’s University, California University of Pennsylvania and various youth groups. Lori noted, ‘When we are invited to speak to students across the region, I always start by telling them what a fun-loving young man Kiel was. He was the life and soul of the party without drinking alcohol. I don’t want people to remember him only because of the way he died.’ She added that the Bobbitts stress how choosing the right friends is crucial. ‘For Kiel, it could have even the difference between being here today to tell this story himself,’ Lori said.



Tragedy Leads Couple to Teach Teens about Alcohol Poisoning

You may be concerned that the time your teenager spends on the computer may damage their academic or social wellness, but what you should really be worried about your teen’s mental and emotional health. This is according to a new study, presented last month at the Paediatric Academic Societies’ annual meeting in Washington, DC, which found that approximately 16% of US high school students are victims of cyberbullying. However, as this study was presented at a medical meeting, the data and conclusions should be viewed as preliminary until published in a peer-reviewed journal.


Based on collected from more than 15,000 public and private high school students who took part in a yearly survey on risky youth behaviours in 2011, the researchers found that one in six of the students had been a target of cyberbullying within the past 12 months. Girls were the victims of cyberbullying more often than boys, with 22% and 11% reporting being targeted, respectively. The study also found that white teenagers were more than twice as likely to be victims as black teens.


In an American Academy of Paediatrics news release, study author Dr. Andrew Adesman, chief of developmental and behavioural paediatrics at Cohen Children’s Medical Centre of New York, said, ‘Electronic bullying of high school students threatens the self-esteem, emotional wellbeing and social standing of youth at a very vulnerable stage of their development. Although teenagers generally embrace being connected to the Web and each other 24/7, we must recognize that these new technologies carry with them the potential to traumatize youth in new and different ways.’ He added, ‘As technology continues to advance and computers become that much more accessible, cyberbullying will continue to grow as a hurtful weapon against kids and teens.’


In the news release, principal investigator Karen Ginsburg, also of Cohen Children’s Medical Centre, commented, ‘Electronic bullying is a very real yet silent danger that may be traumatizing children and teens without parental knowledge, and [it] has the potential to lead to devastating consequences. By identifying groups at higher risk for electronic bullying, it is hoped that targeted awareness and prevention strategies can be put in place.’ Another expert noted that parents may not have any idea what’s going on.

With exam season upon us once again, your teenager’s mental health is more vulnerable than at any other time of year. The stress and pressure of revision, and taking the test itself, can take its toll on your teen’s wellness, so what can you do to help your child combat the unwanted stress that exam season brings?


Firstly, encourage them to get a good night’s sleep. You’ve probably heard this tip before, but that’s because it really does work. Tiredness can distort your teenager’s perception of what’s really going on. They may feel like everything is getting on top of them, and they’re falling behind, but and relaxing and sleeping will help them to start afresh the next day with a clear mind set. Suggest an early night or a bath to help them calm them down.


Also, give your children the plenty of brain-boosting food. On the day of the exam, make sure your child eats a good breakfast like porridge, peanut butter on toast or a banana. The energy from the food will help wake them up, and will keep them energised and their brain engaged. Plus, certain foods, like peanut butter and tuna, have been known to boost brain power, so give them a tuna sandwich every now and then when they’re revising.


When your teen is feeling disinterested in revising, try reminding them that it’s only a few weeks, and although it may seem a little intense now, that there is life after the exam. You could show some support by offering to help them revise, or test them. Your teenager may prefer to revise alone, but at least they’ll know that you’re there. One thing you might be able to help with is devising a revision timetable, putting aside more time to focus on areas your child particularly struggles with.


Finally, when you’ve let them know that you’re there for them; it’s time to give your teenager space. You may want to check up on your child to make sure that they’re actually revising, but most kids know the score. If it’s a week before the exam and they haven’t even picked up a book, maybe then you can give them a gentle push in the right direction. However, until then, assume your child knows what they’re doing. If they’re having a short break, don’t question it, it might be just what they need.

eco recyclingWhen Cy Maramangalam strolled onstage at James Blake High School’s auditorium in Silver Spring, Maryland, sporting jeans and a shaved head, he looked more like he was about to introduce a hot new band than do a talk on environmental wellness.  However, Maramangalam is from the Alliance for Climate Education, or ACE, a non-profit which has put on multimedia climate change presentations for more than one million students across the country.


As cartoon characters and graphs danced on a giant screen behind him, Maramangalam explained that carbon dioxide levels are higher than they’ve ever been in 800,000 years, and that this is driving up the globe’s thermostat. He said, ‘Jacking up the temperature toward this point should be freaking people out, but it’s happening quietly.’ According to recent polls, students in the US learn little about climate change at school, and even many adults have a fuzzy notion of what causes it, and so ACE aims to fill a big gap.


The new K-12 science standards issued in April include, for the first time, climate change. However, even though the standards were written by a consortium of science and education groups in consultation with 26 states, they are only voluntary and could take years to roll out. Therefore, Maramangalam hopes to educate young people quickly about a topic that scientists say – for the sake of human wellness and the planet’s wellbeing – must be urgently addressed.


Maramangalam told the students, ‘You’ve inherited a country that’s all about living large,’ explaining that each person takes up not only the space occupied by their home and school, but also land in Iowa to grow their food, in Brazil and China to make all their “stuff,” and in the Middle East to get fuel to drive around. He asked, ‘Can you believe that the average American teenager uses about 21 football fields of Earth’s resources to live?’


According to Matt Lappe, ACE’s education director, today’s high school students are ‘going to be the generation to feel the impacts [of climate change] hardest and first, and so in some sense we target high-schoolers, and young people in general, because they really have a right to know climate science.’ The presentation itself seemed to make a big impact on students, with senior Danielle Snowden noting, ‘It was kind of scary. I didn’t realize that it was that big of an issue. I just thought, you know, we should do better. But it’s like, we have to do better.’



An ACE Approach: Non-Profit Tells Teens About Climate Change