Are Men Always Going to Cheat? The Truth

Sexual infidelity is one of the hardest things to come to terms with. It can impact on your emotional wellness and wellbeing in all kinds of ways, and yet it is sadly all too common. To compound this, it’s just impossible to tell, before getting into a relationship, if a man is likely to cheat.

 

A new book, Why Men Really Cheat, by psychologist Martyn Stewart, looks to answer that big question with a mixture of analysis, case studies and theory. During the course of the book, we are introduced to different male types, the Swinger (no, not that type of swinger), the Enigma and the Opportunist, and we are guided through a series of case studies. We are also shown some pretty serious maths in the form of equations and algorithms to help us work out which personality types are more likely to be cheaters, and why that might be the case.

 

The conclusions to the very big question of why people chat are varied, ranging from a fear of missing out on an opportunity, having a compulsive sex drive, requiring immediate gratification and seeking some kind of recognition.

 

In addition to all this, modern technology is making cheating easier than ever. Society is built on ease and instancy, and this is helping to serve people with selfish needs.

 

The book also details the types of men to avoid, including the Lad’s Lad (a blokish man who is easily swayed by his friends, gets drunk easily and therefore cheats easily), the Manipulator (a cunning and secretive type of man), the Stupid Mistake man, who acts first and then thinks about the consequences later, the Disdainer – a misogynistic type who lacks empathy or patience and is not supportive of women as a gender. Then there’s the Opportunist, a carefree, hedonistic type who will not go out of his way to have an affair but will certainly grab one that arises.

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ADD All Grown Up: The Six Common Symptoms Adults Face

In adults, attention deficit disorder (ADD) often looks quite different than it does in children—and its symptoms are unique for each individual. This can make ADD and ADHD quite difficult to diagnose, so it can be years before your realise your wellness – or that of a loved one – is even affected by the health concerns. Identifying areas in which you experience difficulty can help you start to work on strategies for dealing with them. So which common ADD/ADHD symptoms should you look out for?

 

1. Trouble concentrating and staying focused: If your wellbeing is impacted by ADD or ADHD, you may find you have problems with staying focused and attending to daily, mundane tasks, albeit, to a certain degree, don’t we all? Those with ADD/ADHD are often easily distracted by irrelevant sights and sounds, quickly bounce from one activity to another, or become bored quickly. You can overlook these kinds of symptoms because they’re not that disruptive to daily life, but they can be every bit as troublesome.

 

2. Hyper-focus  This may seem a little bit strange considering the symptom we’ve just covered, but, on the other side of the coin, people with ADD/ADHD a tendency to become absorbed in tasks that are stimulating and rewarding. This paradoxical symptom is called hyper-focus and is actually a coping mechanism for distraction—a way of tuning out the chaos. You might get so engrossed in a book or TV programme, for example, that you completely lose track of time and what you’re supposed to be doing. When channelled into productive activities, hyper-focus can be a real asset, but it can also lead to work and relationship problems.

 

3. Dis-organisation and forgetfulness: Life seems chaotic and out of control to most people, but this is especially the case in ADD/ADHD. The challenge lies in staying organised, sorting out the relevant information for the task at hand, prioritising, keeping track of tasks and responsibilities, and managing your time. Common symptoms include chronic lateness, procrastination, trouble starting and finishing projects, losing or misplacing things often and frequent forgetting of appointments, commitments, and deadlines.

 

4. Impulsivity: The symptoms involved in this category boil down to the face that you struggle in inhibiting your behaviours, comments, and responses. You might blurt out comments or interrupt people often, rush through tasks without reading the instructions, say rude or inappropriate things, get addicted to things quite easily, struggle to sit still during a long meeting, and just generally have poor self-control. For better or for worse, you go headlong into situations and find yourself in potentially risky circumstances.

 

5. Emotional problems: When you have ADD/ADHD, managing your feelings – especially emotions like anger or frustration – can be difficult. It’s likely that you have a sense of underachievement, don’t deal well with frustration, are easily flustered and stressed out, exhibit irritability or mood swings, have trouble staying motivated, are hypersensitive to criticism, demonstrate a short, often explosive, temper and/or experience low self-esteem and sense of insecurity.

 

6. Hyperactivity or restlessness: This is the most well-known symptom of ADD/ADHD in kids and hyperactivity in adults with ADD/ADHD can often look the same. People might say you’re perpetually “on the go” as if driven by a motor, due to your high levels of energy. However, for most adults with ADD/ADHD, the symptoms of hyperactivity present themselves in more subtle and internal ways as they grow older. Still, you may have this problem if you show symptoms like feelings of inner restlessness and agitation, a tendency to take risks, getting bored easily, racing thoughts, trouble sitting still, constant fidgeting, a craving for excitement, excessive talking and doing a million things at once.

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Seniors: Get a Better Night"s Rest With These Tips

As we age it becomes increasingly difficult to get a good night’s sleep, as our sleep patterns change dramatically. The great restful sleep we used to enjoy in our younger days gradually dissipates until it’s difficult to even fall asleep, let alone be well rested. By the time we reach 70, our night time sleep has shrunk by almost half meaning we get just 6.6 hours, compared to 11.6 when we are infants. There are a number of problems which can interfere with our ability to sleep, from dietary complaints to bone problems, which should be examined by a GP, but these are some ways to improve your sleep pattern. From lifestyle changes to simply being more active, your lifestyle choices could be to blame for your lack of sleep. These are easily modified though, so that you can rest and sleep for longer – effective sleep is vital for our wellbeing.

 

Exercise is a great way to help your ability to sleep. Studies suggest that seniors who exercised slept an average of 50 minute more each night than those who led a sedentary lifestyle. In addition to that, women who were physically active rated their quality of sleep far higher than those who didn’t exercise. A brisk walk could be enough each day to improve your ability to sleep – if you’re new to exercise, build up to regular exercise to avoid injury and stress to the body. Changing your routine could actually help seniors to fall asleep more easily. Light meals in the evening are advised, such as fish and vegetables instead of spaghetti, as this will cut the risk of a disturbed nights sleep. The same can be said of liquids right before bedtime, which will only increase the need to wake up in the middle of the night needing the bathroom. It’s also helpful to avoid stressful activities right before bed, so save the tax forms or potentially stressful phone calls until the morning – they will only serve to upset a calmed mind. A nice warm bath and reading a book, or listening to music, to help you calm your mind before bed can be beneficial for many people.

If you live in a busy area, or are easily woken by noises outside, this will lead to a regularly disrupted sleep. Ear plugs can solve this problem fairly easily, helping to block out any unwanted noise to help you drift off peacefully and get a restful nights sleep. There are many varieties to choose from and they’re easily found – your local supermarket or pharmacy should stock them. Paradoxical thinking can also be effective – this works by tricking your body into trying to stay up as late as possible, instead of trying to fall asleep. This technique has proven effective for many people over the years. There are various variations on this concept, which may be worth looking into if your other changes haven’t work. Medication can be used, of course, but should be an absolute last resort. You should speak to your GP if you think you may need sleep medication to help you sleep more thoroughly, and this should be monitored closely as it is easy to form a habit with these pills. You may find that a combination of the above changes leads to a better nights sleep, but if there are health problems you have which are leading to a disrupted sleep these should be solved first – for example, people with arthritis often struggle to sleep because of the pain. Resolving these issues with the help of your GP could help you regain your sleep pattern again.

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Rhinitis And Arthritis: is There a Connection?

As asthma and rhinitis commonly co-exist, controlling the allergic reactions of rhinitis can help a child with asthma manage their symptoms more effectively and more easily.

Take a think about the possible symptoms. If your child been sneezing regularly and often or complaining about their nose running and feeling sore it could be a sign. The same is true if it is accompanied by itchy or watering eyes.

You need to watch out for these, because symptoms such as this could signal a condition rather than a common cold. It could be rhinitis, which is an inflammation of the mucous membranes in the nose, eyes, Eustachian tubes, middle ear, sinuses and pharynx.

Allergic rhinitis is known to be a very serious problem all across the world and it also has the potential to cause significant debility and other conditions. Over the last 50 years, it has been shown by several pieces of research that allergic rhinitis and allergic asthma are often directly linked. Many children who have the kind of asthma that is easily triggered by allergens are also prone to developing rhinitis alongside it.

When these two conditions develop in the same individual, he or she is likely to suffer a more severe reaction and have to deal with worsening asthma attacks. It is also true that they may need more powerful medications to control their asthma.

A study that was conducted among 366 patients at four major hospitals throughout the Asian country of Malaysia found that around 92 per cent of patients with nasal symptoms also had allergic rhinitis. This shows that allergic rhinitis is very common in people suffering from respiratory problems.

Rhinitis And Arthritis: is There a Connection?

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