The Four Female Orgasms: Which One Will You Try Having Next?

You know that women can have orgasms, but did you know that you can have different ones? According to a recent study published in the journal NeuroQuantology, there are four distinct types of female orgasm; clitoral, vaginal, blended, or multiple – so which one will you try having tonight?

 

1. Clitoral Orgasm: Sari Cooper, a certified sex therapist in New York City and a columnist for Psychology Today, points out that if your partner touches, caresses, or massages other parts of your genitals before heading for the clitoris, you’ll have a more pleasurable orgasm than if he homes straight in on that hot spot. Copper advises, ‘Have him make big circles with his fingers that include the shaft, labia, and upper part of the clitoral hood.’ To increase your chances of having a clitoral orgasm, sexual health and wellness expert Faye Brennan recommends, ‘Try having him use a fingertip vibrator like the Hello Touch Wearable Fingertip Vibrator ($65, jimmyjane.com). The more vocal you are about the speed, intensity, and pressure you prefer, the better the end result will be.’

 

2. Vaginal Orgasm: Brennan notes, ‘Though there is still some debate as to whether the G-spot exists, 30% of women claim they can have a big O from having the famous erogenous zone stimulated through penetration alone. First, locate the hot zone. On a solo night, explore the front wall of your vagina with your finger until you feel an area that’s rippled and spongy in texture. Touching it directly should feel pretty darn good. Then, during intercourse, have your man target his thrusting there. Try lying on your sides while facing each other, with your legs intertwined comfortably—think of two pairs of crisscrossed scissors. Keep your parts aligned and make sure his rubs against the front wall of your vagina.’ Michael Alvear, author of Not Tonight Dear, I Feel Fat, adds that changing positions after 15 minutes or so ‘reduces the chance of your man “closing the deal” too soon and helps your body experience new and fresh sensations.’

 

3. Blended Orgasm: By combining the clitoral and vaginal orgasm, ‘You’re getting the best of both worlds,’ says Cynthia Lief Ruberg, a certified sex therapist in Columbus, Ohio. ‘A blended orgasm is easier if the woman becomes very aroused before she has intercourse.’ So make sure you go full-throttle with the foreplay. When it comes to intercourse, Brennan comments, ‘The girl-on-top position is popular for a reason—it’s perfect for the double-whammy finish. But you can also try sitting on your partner’s lap facing away from him (he can stimulate your clitoris while you control the thrusting). Or, for a twist on missionary, have your guy inch his body up so your hips are aligned, and tilt your pelvis upward so that the base of his penis is on your clitoris but the rest of him is inside you.’

 

4. Multiple Orgasms: ‘Multiple orgasms happen one right after the next, not at different times in one session (although those are great too),’ Brennan explains. ‘Starting in foreplay, have your guy get you to your first clitoral climax using his hands or mouth (or a vibrator). Immediately afterward, he should continue to stimulate your C-spot in a slower manner for about 30 seconds, and then resume a normal pace to get you to a repeat performance.’ Amy Levine, a sex coach in New York City and founder of IgniteYourPleasure.com, notes, ‘He’s playing with your level of arousal from a heightened orgasmic state by giving your erogenous area a rest, as it may be overly sensitive to stimulation, and then increasing arousal again.’

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Fuse Blower: How to Get the Orgasm You’re After

The problem with female sexual health and wellness is that even the smallest thing can set you off course. As Nicole Beland, author of Sex, The Whole Picture: The Ultimate How-To for Lovers, details, ‘When I’m this close to orgasm—eyes squeezed shut, lips twisted in a Billy Idol sneer, cheeks glowing—the most descriptive word wouldn’t be “passionate” or “erotic.” It would be “determined.” Because right then, at the edges of my fading consciousness, I’m worried that the phone will ring, my knees will lose their traction on the sheets, or my boyfriend will change position, and suddenly I’ll be sliding away from that elusive peak instead of moving toward it. For the 75% of women who don’t always reach orgasm during intercourse, this happens all the time.’

 

What you need is a fuse blower, or a last shot of stimulation to send you over the edge. According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First, ‘Calling it a fuse blower is pretty appropriate. Recent studies show that in order for a woman to achieve orgasm, the part of her brain associated with stress, emotion, and anxiety has to shut down.’ If your partner is able to do something that makes you feel so good that you relax and let go, it’s very likely that you will reach that all-important climax. So, take a look at Beland’s list of orgasm triggers, share them with your partner, and get him to try one out once you reach the point at which you’re sweaty and breathing fast.

 

1. The Double Grip: ‘Despite all the attention her booty may attract when she’s walking down the street in tight jeans or bending over a file cabinet, a woman’s butt is too often sidelined during sex,’ says Beland. ‘And that’s why grabbing both of her cheeks when she’s on top may be just the unexpected turn-on a girl needs to get off.’ New York sex therapist Gilda Carle, PhD, explains, ‘The buttocks are packed with nerve endings. To give her a surprising jolt of pleasure, spread your fingers wide and squeeze both buttocks firmly.’ However, before you give your partner a good spanking, just make sure you have a conversation about it first!

 

2. The Up Shift: Beland provides the following tip courtesy of her friend Rachel: ‘When a guy is on top of you in the missionary position, have him shift his body slightly forward so that, every time he thrusts, his penis rubs against your clitoris.’ However, you can make this tactic even more orgasmic if your legs are together and your man is straddling you. Ellen Friedrichs, MA, an adjunct professor of human sexuality at RutgersUniversity, notes that this variation ‘increases clitoral stimulation.’ Or, if he’s on top, get your partner to prop himself up on his elbows so that his abdomen is in closer contact with your sweet spot.

 

3. The Ultimate: If in doubt, try foreplay, recommends Kerner: ‘Going down on a woman allows [men] to get a real sense of the stimulation she likes at every stage of arousal, especially the final one.’ Getting off when he’s going down also eliminates any performance anxiety you might have during intercourse, so you can potentially get more bang for your buck (pun intended). To get the experience you need, have your partner take note of Beland’s instructions. ‘Learn what she likes,’ she asserts. ‘Get between her legs and give her a solid base of lips, tongue, gums, and even chin to rub against. At first, use your hands to guide her hips to let her know you want her to do the grinding. When she takes over, note how hard she’s pushing and in what direction. Use that information later when using your fingers or giving her a more aggressive tongue bath.’

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The Female Orgasm & its Importance to Human Race

The question regarding female orgasms and their necessity in the process of evolution is one which has been asked many times. And for many people, the concept of questioning it seemed mildly unnecessary in itself – they’re worthwhile to women so who cares about their necessity for the human race? But the topic is a tough one to explore from an evolutionary standpoint. Many biologists do suggest that male non-human primates experience something similar to intercourse, usually judging from a marked change in their body language during ejaculation. So the rationale behind the male orgasm is obvious. For men, orgasm and ejaculation go hand in hand, and with such pleasure preceding the ejaculation, a man is effectively encouraged to spread his seed. A man who experiences orgasm through ejaculation is far more likely to put extra effort into finding sexual partners, than men who ejaculate without any accompanying pleasure. But the physical process of the female orgasm is altogether different. In women, the orgasm isn’t connected to the release of an egg into the uterus, and women can only get pregnant once in any given period of time, so the number of partners is less of an issue in terms of the evolution of a species and its survival.

So why is the orgasm a part of the female sexual experience? It may well be a part of evolutionary adaptation, or it may just be a lucky break. But if it’s down to evolution, what is it offering in terms of survival of a species? Men and women experience very similar physiological changes during orgasm, which usually lasts around a minute. In both sexes, the rectum contracts at intervals of around 0.8 seconds, where lots of muscles in other areas of the body also spasm. There are a number of chemicals which are released at this time, from serotonin to oxytocin. In women, the muscles in the vagina and uterus contract too. These contractions are the basis for one of the evolutionary explanations of the female orgasm – known as the sperm retention theory. Many researchers hypothesise that when the vagina contracts, it is aiming to retain more sperm, to increase the likelihood of getting pregnant. Another theory in keeping with this idea is that orgasm tires a woman out, causing her to lie on her back after sex – it is during this time, researchers say, that more sperm can stay within the body and make its way towards the egg.

 

Currently, the big theory is that women have orgasms for no reason at all – there is no adaptation, it’s simply a wonderful accident which stems from the initial phase of foetal development. This was a popular theory in the ‘70s and has recently seen a revival. In the initial development hypothesis, women simply have orgasms because men do. In the early stages of development within the uterus, the foetus isn’t gendered, and the hormones which determine the gender haven’t yet kicked in. So when the gender is decided, it still has the nerve pathways that create the orgasm. But if this theory is correct, what does that mean for the state of the orgasm in women? If it’s not vital for survival of the species, will it be phased out? What we can determine is that there is still a long way to go before we know the real reason for the female orgasm – its cryptic purpose still baffles researchers to this day.

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Women Come Clean About Their Weird and Wonderful Orgasms

The female orgasm is a part of sexual health and wellness that some people struggle with. However, while some women find that the ole stand-bys—penises, vaginas, fingers, and vibrators— struggle to help them get off, others have found themselves orgasming in their sleep, on the loo or even just by sneezing! Thanks to internet hive mind Reddit, which asked the candid forum “Ladies, what was the source of your most unconventional orgasm?”, we have the weird and wonderful answers as to anything and everything that can bring the vagina-bearing masses to orgasm. So, which of these oddities might do it for your sexual wellbeing?

 

1. Sleeping: Reddit user lemon_SQUISH detailed, ‘I was sleeping, and had a dream about riding a bike. In the dream, I was going over a bumpy part on the road, and had an orgasm that woke me up! It was really confusing.’ GoodToSeaYou added that her pillow was the surprising source of her first orgasm. She recalled, ‘I used to sleep with a pillow between my legs and I shifted…it felt good. So I kept grinding and had my first real orgasm when I was 12-13.’

 

2. Ab Crunches: According to thekeyboardhero, her abs weren’t the only thing that got a bit of exercise when doing crunches at the gym. ‘I was doing my crunches as usual and then all of a sudden BOOM,’ she explained. ‘I was 15, it was amazing.’

 

3. Toilet Attachment: notmyusername85 commented, ‘In much of India, Southeast Asia, and the Middle East, they have this mini-shower head like attachment to the toilet to clean yourself after. (I believe it is called a shataf) It is a much smaller and more concentrated stream of water than a normal shower head. Well, I was on my period and thought this was a good way to clean things up if you know what I mean…I used it on my clit and had and extremely fast and powerful orgasm.’

 

4. Restless Foot: For Ishityounotman, a caffeine buzz while sitting with her foot underneath her was all it took: ‘I had just drunk some coffee so I had lots of energy and therefore, my other foot started shaking. The movement jostled my foot tucked under me and, a few minutes later, voila! I should note that this took place in my math class in high school.’

 

5. Sneezing: ‘I sneezed four times and I came,’ said take_three. ‘I’ve heard that a sneeze is like an eighth of an orgasm, but I guess for me it’s a quarter.’

 

6. Jeans: _squirts_ asserted, ‘I feel like every girl has a pair of jean shorts that just rubs them the right way. That one pair of jorts you wear when you know you’re going to have a really bumpy ride. I’ve lost it going over rail road tracks before. It’s a surprise every time.’

 

7. Peeing: ‘When I get a UTI I have one every time pee,’ noted Libida. ‘The good kind too. The doctor had no idea what to make of it. She just told me I should feel lucky. I am probably the only person who doesn’t hate UTIs. But it is very bizarre.’

 

8. Giving birth: MtIggy clarified, ‘I wasn’t expecting it, but it happened while giving birth to my first. I had a home birth with no meds. It was different than a regular orgasm (ie. during sex or masturbation), but was undeniably an orgasm.’

 

9. Wedgies: nonamesleft1 detailed, ‘I gave a friend a wedgie once (in front of a few other friends), I was pulling that underwear so hard, I was pretty determined to actually get it to go over her head…..anyway, I must have pulled at least 10 times before she said she couldn’t take it anymore…..a few years later, she told me that actually came with the last tug.’

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Do You Know Everything You Should About the Female Orgasm?

You may feel at your most sexual when slinking around in a pair of glamorous high heels, but did you know that this simple item of clothing could actually have a damaging effect on your wellness and wellbeing?

 

A recent study has revealed that many different little-known facts about female sexuality. For example, did you know that women can get pregnant a full eight days after they last have sex? Sperm live for a long time, so can hang around and be ready to pounce on the egg as soon as it is released.

 

Another factoid that was revealed was that sitting down for too long can actually dampen women’s ability to orgasm, and that orgasms can make women more creative. Being well hydrated can improve orgasms too, and birth control pills can dampen them. The research showed that birth control pills not only dampen libido but also reduce sensitivity in the nerve endings around the vagina.

 

Despite the wealth of information that is coming to light about female sexuality, the female orgasm is still something that many men and women struggle to achieve. The important thing to bear in mind is that what works with one woman may not work with another, as every woman is unique. The one thing that all women have in common is that they work on a very cerebral level, and that the best way to stimulate a woman is through her mind.

 

The female G Spot is also something that you could explore together, on the path to finding a better orgasm. This is an area located on the back vaginal wall, which may be part of the clitoris and can be quite erotic for some women.

 

For many women, the clitoris is the most important part of vaginal intercourse and stimulation of it is the best way to help a woman reach orgasm.

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Is the Gym the New Place for a Female Orgasm?

According to a new study, women no longer need to find a man, a vibratory or a new masturbation technique to find the elusive female orgasm – all they need to do is head to the gym! This new research has found that the new place for sexual pleasure may not be an expected one, but that the findings add to data that has been largely unstudied over the years. The phenomenon was first discovered in 1953, with research showing that around five per cent of women who were interviewed stated that they had had an orgasm linked to exercise. However, they couldn’t know the exact prevalence because because most of these women volunteered the information without being asked directly. Labelled ‘coregasms’, named as such because of the connection between orgasms and exercises for core abdominal muscles, these rumours have been circulating in the media for many years. However, despite this attention from the media, little is known about this connection in a scientific manner. Researchers used surveys to gather data surrounding this issue from 124 women who has experienced exercise-induced orgasms and 246 women who has reported exercise-induced sexual pleasure. Most of the women, who had an average age of 30, were in a relationship or married. Of the women, 69 per cent of the participants were heterosexual.

Researchers found that around 40 per cent of both groups of women has experienced this phenomenon on more than 11 occasions throughout their lives, and those in the orgasm group said that they felt some sort of embarrassment when exercising in public places in case it happened again. Most of the women spoken to said that they weren’t having a sexual fantasy or thinking about someone they’re attracted to. Around 45 per cent of the women in the study said that their experience was linked to abdominal exercises; 19 per cent said it was linked to biking or spinning; 9.3 per cent was linked to climbing poles or ropes; 7 per cent was connected to weight lifting; 7 per cent to running; the rest of the experiences included a variety of other exercises, such as yoga, swimming and elliptical machines. Exercise-induced orgasms were linked to more types of exercise than the orgasm phenomenon, according to the study.

This research offers up a variety of implications regarding female sexuality. Firstly, orgasm and sexual desire have topped the list of women’s sex concerns, with around one out of every four women not reaching orgasms during sex. But this research could suggest that physical exercise may have been overlooked in clinical approaches to the female orgasm.  Secondly, scientists have been debating the evolutionary context of the female orgasm and it’s connection to sexuality and reproduction. However, if women are experiencing orgasms in situations not connected to sex, then this study could well provide details of what the orgasm does and doesn’t have to do with sex and reproduction. Exercise-induced orgasms could be one way for scientists and women in general to learn about the process of orgasm. Researchers stated that this information could well help women to learn more about how their bodies work in that regard, which could help them develop more satisfying sex lives. Either way, this information is new and exciting to researchers who have now found more data to help them understand the female orgasm. For so many women, who find reaching orgasm difficult, this study could offer real hope into better understanding from a scientific perspective.

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The Female Orgasm: Four Myths Every Woman Should Know

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Study: Want More Orgasms? Get a More Attractive Partner!

You may feel a little bit shallow for picking good looks over other qualities in a prospective partner, but doing so may benefit your sexual health and wellbeing. This is according to a new study, published in the journal Evolution & Human Behaviour, which found that women have more orgasms when they’re in bed with attractive partners, or when they sleep with men they rate as more masculine and dominant. It is believe that climaxing at the same time or just after men is the best time to get pregnant, which women who thought their partners were most attractive were more likely to achieve.

Up until recently, the female orgasm was thought to be a bit useless – biologically speaking, of course – yet, more and more studies are supporting the theory that there is an evolutionary function to female orgasms; keeping sperm after sex and promoting conception. This new study, however, may have shown another evolutionary element to the female orgasm; selecting the best genes for reproduction. According to the researchers, ‘Men’s masculinity and attractiveness predict their female partners’ reported orgasm frequency and timing. Although our results require replication, they are consistent with the hypothesis that female orgasm is a copulatory mate choice mechanism, perhaps for selecting high-quality genes for offspring.’

For the study, the researchers interviewed 110 couples from an American university, asking them to detail their experiences with orgasms and whether they climaxed before, after or at the same time as their partner. The researchers asked the women in the study to rate their own attractiveness on a scale of 10 and how dominant or masculine their boyfriend or husband is, while the men were asked to rate their own attractiveness, dominance and masculinity and their partner’s femininity.

The researchers wrote, ‘We found that objective measures of the quality of women’s mates – men’s attractiveness and masculinity – significantly predicted the women’s orgasms. Earlier-timed orgasms suggest more intense sexual arousal and indeed are associated with greater sexual pleasure. Women reported more frequent orgasm during or after male ejaculation when mated to attractive men-those with high scores on a principal component characterised by high observer-rated and self-rated attractiveness. Putative measures of men’s genetic quality did not predict their mates’ orgasms from self-masturbation or from non-coital partnered sexual behaviour. Overall, these results appear to support a role for female orgasm in sire choice.’

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