Secret Turn-Ons: Real Women Dare to Bare All

 

Turn ons are quite an individual thing, and you may be worried that you have quite unique tastes. If you’re concerned about the state of your sexual and mental wellness, fear not; these readers have dared to bare all – figuratively speaking – and reveal their most secret turn-ons.

 

1. Randy and Sandy: Reader Kori R notes, ‘As a Jersey girl, hitting the shore every summer is a must. While we’re down the shore, I’m definitely in the mood, but it’s on the hour-plus ride back home that I really can’t control myself. I can still smell the salty air in the car and on our clothes. My husband looks forward to coming home from the
 shore almost as much as going there!’

 

2. Wild, Wild West: ‘Several years ago, my husband and I went to a photographer specializing in Old West photography,’ reader Suzanne B recalls. ‘We wore costumes that looked like they were from the 19th century, and my husband’s included a cowboy hat. In true 1800’s fashion, we didn’t smile in the photo. I can’t tell you how much it turned me on to see my husband in that cowboy hat with a smoldering look on his face! He looked so sexy that I went out and bought him a cowboy hat to wear sometimes when we’re getting crazy.’

 

3. The Secret Garden: Reader Eileen D admits, ‘I love how laundry smells when it’s in the dryer and the aroma of fabric softener infuses the air. In my imagination, I’m in a garden, and it’s the perfect romantic atmosphere. The flowers make me feel beautiful and clean.’

 

4. Fuzzy Wuzzy: ‘When I put my arms around my boyfriend’s waist, I like to caress a little hairy patch on his lower back,’ reader Jackie W reveals. ‘It feels so soft, and I love the amazing curves of his body. He’s threatened to shave it off, but he knows I how much I like it. He keeps it there just for my pleasure!’

 

5. In His Shoes: Reader Nancy I details, ‘I get turned on when I see his empty shoes in front of the closet door; specifically, his old, worn moccasins. I picture him putting them on to go off into the world, and then slipping out of them when he returns to tell me about his day. I also look at those moccasins and remember all the places we’ve been together.’

 

6. It’s the Little Things: Reader Jennifer D says, ‘I love walking in after work and seeing my husband unloading the dishwasher. I’m so happy I don’t have to do it that I think, “He is getting some tonight!”’

 

7. Playing Hardball: Reader Joy H notes, ‘I dated a car salesman, and sometimes when we were on the phone, he’d say, “Hang on,” then to someone in the background, “You tell him our bottom-dollar is $28,500.” Whew, did I get turned on hearing him negotiate!’

 

8. Whisked Away: ‘When I met my husband 18 years ago, all the guys I knew drank beer, and I thought it was so gross,’ says reader Carolyn C. ‘Mario was different; he drank whiskey. Now when he pulls out his bottle of Jack, I flash back to our first dates. I remember the times we shared before kids, bills, and all the other stuff that comes with being adults. It reminds me of being young and crazy.’

 

9. The Polyglot: ‘My man speaks several languages: English, Danish, Spanish, and Punjabi,’ reader Ebony S details. ‘Out of all those languages, it’s the Danish dialect that really turns me on. What really gets me going is hearing the way he greets his mom (weird, I know) when she calls. When he says, “Hi, Mor,” I really get hot under the collar!’

 

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What Do Women Want? Surprising Female Turn-Ons

Female desire may just be the most mysterious aspect of sexuality for some people, but it’s no surprise with some turn-ons being as complex as they are! There have been many studies into female sexuality and the ways in which it can be heightened, from sex toys to female viagra. Here are some of the more unusual turn-ons that women reveal really gets them going, why and how you can relate them to your own sex lives.

The Beach

For some women, memories evoke a really strong sexual feeling. Kori claims that hitting the beach is the best way to get her in the mood, with memories of hitting the short as a summer when she was younger. Now, as an adult, the salty smell of the air and the brisk air gets her excited by the concept of sex with her husband! Think back to occasions when you’ve been with your partner in locations other than your home and try to recreate some of those memories, from scent to touch or taste – perhaps it was a romantic meal or a particular scent that you remember. Senses are evocative and can help put you back in that frame of mind you were in all that time ago, increasing your arousal and the sensuality in your sex life.

Wild, wild west

Seeing your partner in a new light can be a massive turn-on, and for some women the idea of seeing a man in uniform is a great lead up to sex. Suzanne describes one such occasion when her and her husband visited a photographer in an Old West photography session. In true Old West-style, they dressed up in costumes harking back to the 19th century, including the cowboy hat. The smouldering look on his face and the sexy costume helped Suzanne see her husband in a whole new light, which she found a turn-on. It could be something that you may find helpful to add to your own relationship – costumes and role play can help you both find sex more interesting and can increase your confidence in playing a different role for the night.

Body Types

Never ignore the pleasure of touch and its importance in your sex life. For many women, touch is the very thing which gets them in the mood for sex, particularly when the shape and feel of their body is concerned. Feeling your partner’s body and the curves of his shape is a great precursor to sex and can get you both in the mood. Make some time to really get to know your partner’s body and the way it feels – don’t make it sexual immediately, but rather spend some time paying attention to what your partner’s skin and hair feels like. You’ll be surprised at what a difference it makes to the level of intimacy and passion in your relationship and sex life.

Playing hardball

Showing off your masculine side is a real turn-on for most women and something that’s often overlooked if you’re trying to get in the mood. Joy remembers a man she once dated that worked as a car salesman. When he got worked up negotiating, she found it really arousing that he was showing a more authoritative and masculine side to his personality.As stereotypical as it may be, sometimes falling into those classic personality traits can be great for your sex life – it creates an erotic ambience which feeds into increasing your libido and desire for sex.

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Talk Dirty to Me: Discussing Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs

As a nation, we may be more comfortable with seeing sex displayed in the media, but we still don’t like to talk about it. Communication is intrinsic to your sexual wellbeing, not to mention your relationship wellness! Not only is it important to cover sexual health issues like using contraception, you also need to talk to your partner about what you like and don’t like in the bedroom department. If you don’t discuss your turn-ons and turn-offs, things are never going to improve. Plus, believe it or not, talking about sex can, itself, be very sexy, and even enhance your relationship.

 

Talking about your turn-ons is a great way to get the sex conversation rolling. It can be tough to open up about the things you don’t like, or more boring-but-essential topics like protection and testing, so sharing sexy chat helps to get things started – and it could improve your experience of sex together. Many people seem to have the notion that everyone is the same when it comes to sex, but this simply isn’t true. Every individual has their own likes and dislikes in the bedroom, and it can take a long time – and a few mistakes – to figure out what works for you and your partner. If you’re committed to one another, no one is going to walk out when the other makes mistakes, and exploring and learning about each other is part of the fun. However, the problem comes when your partner continues to do something you don’t like, and you suffer in silence.

 

Your partner is not a mind-reader, and so may be going along for years thinking he’s getting you hot-and-heavy, when really you’re counting down the minutes until it’s over. In a similar vein, there may be something you’re dying to try, but your partner isn’t going to magically guess the things you want and start doing them. You can save a lot of time by just telling your partner what you want, and asking them if there’s anything they might like you to do. The best way to approach the conversation is to ask them about their turn-ons first, and then tell them something you’d be interested in trying. Just stick to one or two things during each conversation, as otherwise it could all get a bit much.

 

The good thing about opening up about your turn-ons in a conversation outside of the bedroom – rather than trying to get things going during sex – is that you can cover any worries you or your partner might have about the thing in question. Trying new things, although exciting, may be daunting, so talking about things beforehand will reassure you both about what will happen during sex and it’ll stay exciting. This may sound like a bit of a mood killer, but it’s actually quite the opposite! Instead of killing the romance of spontaneity, talking about sex can be quite a turn-on itself and a good way to get in the mood.

 

As well as talking about turn-ons outside of the bedroom, it’s better to talk about turn-offs before you start having sex than having to deal with them during sex. After all, would you like your partner to start criticising when you’re naked and vulnerable? Again, you may think this kills the romance, but even talking about your turn-offs can be quite saucy and a good laugh. Make sure you approach this subject from a place of love, non-judgement and good humour. Listing the things you both dislike may be hard to hear at first, but it will ultimately help you grow closer together – both in and out of the bedroom.

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