How To Turn Your Man On With These Sexy Tips

Women are sexy to men in a number of ways, many of which they’re not even aware of. You could be turning your man on by doing everyday things and not realising! And if you’re looking to arouse your man a little more, you may be missing a trick by avoiding these lesser-known things which drive him wild. Here are a few of the favourites from men questioned on what they love about women. Think back to your art class and you’ll no doubt notice that many of the world-famous portraits in the world focus on the female subject’s back – it’s because it’s such an erotic part of the body. The slight curve of the spine is visually mind-blowing and can really turn a man on, so make the most of it – exaggerate your movements slightly, wear t-shirts or dresses with low scooping backs and shrug off your jacket so he can see your bare shoulder. The more aware of your movements you become, the more opportunities you’ll find to show a little skin. If you’ve got it flaunt it, so don’t hide your body away – if you’ve got larger breasts or a curvy shape, make the most of it!

Being comfortable in your body is such a turn on for men, and also makes you feel better in yourself as well which helps you be more confident in and out of the bedroom. But don’t be afraid to mix things up with your look either, from wearing different clothes to trying a new red lipstick or some vampy mascara. It can be fun to play the part of the vixen for a while, even if it’s not your usual style. It can be a confidence boost for you and your partner will love seeing you in a different light, so next time you’re having a romantic night in with your partner why not try out a new look and see what a difference it makes?

On that note, the shape of the female body is an incredible turn-on for men and something that we don’t often make the most of. Next time you’re going on a date with your partner, leave the jeans and jumper at home and opt for a little black dress instead – you’ll be surprised by how much he’ll love you in it, and how much more confident and sexy it will make you feel. Anything that accentuates your curves is going to be a safe bet to get him aroused, so try cinching in your waist with a belt to really make the most of your curves. That flattering hourglass shape is feminine and sexy at the same time. Being feminine doesn’t have to mean doing the stereotypical thing, even when you’re at the gym. Next time you’re working out, don’t go to the cardio machines and stay on them – head to the weights room with your male gym-goers and work out with something a little heavier.

You’ll be surprised at how many men find it a turn-on to see a woman going against the stereotype and playing to her strengths, quite literally. But this doesn’t have to be reserved for the gym – why not take yourself out of your comfort zones and give your man a sneak preview of the ‘new you’. It can be liberating for both of you and a turn on for your partner!

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The Three Sex Moves Men Can’t Get Enough Of

It’s assumed that men will enjoy any kind of sex, good or bad, and to a certain extent this is kind of true. Men are wired to be more easily gratified in the bedroom than women, but there are ways that men prefer to be turned on and when pressed, these are their favourites. There are specific moves that women perform that drive men wild – here are the top three techniques and positions they enjoy the most, and the good news is that they’re really easy to learn.

Let him watch you

Men are turned on by visuals, so letting him watch you move in a way that’s guaranteed to excite him is a sure fire way to get him aroused. Some men say that watching a woman climax is the ultimate form of arousal for them, and it’s such an easy thing for a woman to do! Few women realise that they can use the discrete masturbatory techniques they normally hide to turn their partner on, but you won’t be disappointed when you do. Next time that you’re in the mood and your partner isn’t feeling it, slip into some sexy lingerie and set yourself into a position he can clearly see, with your legs bent and begin touching yourself. As he sees you getting more aroused, the effect will wear off on him as well. You can guarantee that he’ll be interested in having sex in no time at all!

Stand up your man

Men loved to be stroked, fondled and handled by a woman who knows what she’s doing, so take control of the situation in the bedroom and turn each other on in the process. If he’s having trouble getting an erection, rub a small amount of lubricant or oil onto your hands and place one of your hands firmly around the base of his penis. Slowly and gently work the other hand up from the base to the head in a circular way. Caress the head of the penis with your palm, then begin from the base and start again. You can also pay attention to his testicles if he’s sensitive in this area, as well as the perineum which many men enjoy being stroked or having light pressure being applied to. You may find it arousing for him to gently rub this area with your thumb or forefinger as you stroke the shaft of his penis.

Take matters into your own hands

Hand jobs are one of the best things you can do for your partner, and if you do it right he won’t be disappointed by your efforts! Two hands are always better than one, so begin by lubricating your hands and clasping them around his penis, with your fingers interlaced. Move your hands firmly but gently in one long twisting motion, then repeat it on the way down. When he’s got an erection, you can clasp your hands at the top of the shaft and gently pulse your hands to increase and release the pressure around the head. Finally, when he’s ready to climax, you can help him along by continuing the pressure trick but with your hands around the penis entirely, not just the head, and stroking the underside of his penis as well. He won’t be able to replicate it in the same way himself and so it will be a mind-blowing trick that you can add to your sexual repertoire to really turn him on.

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What Makes Sex Sizzle, and What Makes It Fizzle?

Sexual health and wellness is a confusing thing, especially as you don’t tend to own up to your likes and dislikes in the bedroom department. But what makes sex sizzle, and what makes it fizzle? And, is sex better or worse once you tie the knot? We got some singletons and marriedtons to dish the dirt on what lifts and lessens their sexual wellbeing.

 

1. Gina, 34, Single: When it comes to sizzling sex, Gina recalls, ‘The best sexual experiences for me have always been with men I have established an emotional connection with. After that, spontaneity is a real turn-on – don’t pencil me into your Palm Pilot! Planned sex is a real turn-off for me. After that, there are a number of things that can point the sex-meter closer to fizzling than sizzling – it could be an argument, physical exhaustion, stress or just one of those days when I’m feeling not-so-sexy.’

 

2. Randy, 46, Single: ‘Passion – the burning desire to be with someone,’ is what does it for Randy. ‘Part of it is feeling really attracted to the person – the physical characteristics – and part is communication. Without the physical attraction, the chemistry isn’t there. Conflict and resentment are turn-offs, too.’

 

3. Jason, 33, Single: ‘The best is what I call “aerobic sex,” when you’re fully out of breath, completely spent and you know – or at least you believe! – that you’re making the other person feel amazing,’ Jason asserts. ‘That’s when I can relax and give in to it completely.’ When it comes to turn-offs, Jason dislikes ‘a person who can’t kiss past a pucker. And continued bashfulness – I don’t care how fit you are, you have to shake what you have and feel sexy, or it’s a total turn-off.’

 

4. Gisela, 43, Single: ‘A mutual understanding of what a partner wants, both in and out of bed, is so sexy,’ says Gisela. ‘An honest, sincere, straightforward person who has experience. And I like men and women – I want a man who will be okay with that. You’d think that would be easy to find, but it’s not!’ Gisela adds, ‘It fizzles if it’s just for sex and not for the pleasure of both people. Bragging, like kids, is a total turn-off.’

 

5. Bill, 83, Married: ‘A very attractive wife like my Win,’ does it for Bill. ‘We have similar interests – we love to dance and travel – and that kind of connection can translate into great lovemaking. We’re very close in all respects, physically and emotionally, even more so after 53 years of being together.’ He notes, ‘As a result of prostate cancer you can become impotent and can’t get an erection. But we’ve still got it – I’m a lover, a hugger, a kisser – though it’s not like before.’

 

6. Dori, 25, Married: For Dori, self-confidence leads to sizzling sex. ‘Confidence is sexy no matter what,’ she points out. ‘Lack of inhibitions, aggressiveness, taking initiative.’ And what dampens your confidence in the bedroom? ‘Roommates,’ says Dori. ‘My husband and I have them now – that’s why we’re buying a house!’

 

7. Sam, 53, Married: ‘It takes two to tango,’ Sam comments. ‘It takes two good companions, with a good relationship outside of the bed. At 53, you might like a 26-year-old hard-body who can do everything, but that’s a selfish point of view. It might sizzle for you, but it won’t for her. If there’s poor compatibility mentally, it might be good that one time, but that’s it. It’s bad if you’re doing it for the wrong reason, just to do it instead of to enhance your relationship.’

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What Do Women Want? Surprising Female Turn-Ons

Female desire may just be the most mysterious aspect of sexuality for some people, but it’s no surprise with some turn-ons being as complex as they are! There have been many studies into female sexuality and the ways in which it can be heightened, from sex toys to female viagra. Here are some of the more unusual turn-ons that women reveal really gets them going, why and how you can relate them to your own sex lives.

The Beach

For some women, memories evoke a really strong sexual feeling. Kori claims that hitting the beach is the best way to get her in the mood, with memories of hitting the short as a summer when she was younger. Now, as an adult, the salty smell of the air and the brisk air gets her excited by the concept of sex with her husband! Think back to occasions when you’ve been with your partner in locations other than your home and try to recreate some of those memories, from scent to touch or taste – perhaps it was a romantic meal or a particular scent that you remember. Senses are evocative and can help put you back in that frame of mind you were in all that time ago, increasing your arousal and the sensuality in your sex life.

Wild, wild west

Seeing your partner in a new light can be a massive turn-on, and for some women the idea of seeing a man in uniform is a great lead up to sex. Suzanne describes one such occasion when her and her husband visited a photographer in an Old West photography session. In true Old West-style, they dressed up in costumes harking back to the 19th century, including the cowboy hat. The smouldering look on his face and the sexy costume helped Suzanne see her husband in a whole new light, which she found a turn-on. It could be something that you may find helpful to add to your own relationship – costumes and role play can help you both find sex more interesting and can increase your confidence in playing a different role for the night.

Body Types

Never ignore the pleasure of touch and its importance in your sex life. For many women, touch is the very thing which gets them in the mood for sex, particularly when the shape and feel of their body is concerned. Feeling your partner’s body and the curves of his shape is a great precursor to sex and can get you both in the mood. Make some time to really get to know your partner’s body and the way it feels – don’t make it sexual immediately, but rather spend some time paying attention to what your partner’s skin and hair feels like. You’ll be surprised at what a difference it makes to the level of intimacy and passion in your relationship and sex life.

Playing hardball

Showing off your masculine side is a real turn-on for most women and something that’s often overlooked if you’re trying to get in the mood. Joy remembers a man she once dated that worked as a car salesman. When he got worked up negotiating, she found it really arousing that he was showing a more authoritative and masculine side to his personality.As stereotypical as it may be, sometimes falling into those classic personality traits can be great for your sex life – it creates an erotic ambience which feeds into increasing your libido and desire for sex.

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These Sexy Secrets Could Help Improve Your Love Life

At any one time, 4,000 people around the world are having sexual intercourse. Sex is not all about what you can do in bed, however. It is about a more rounded picture that includes your physical and emotional wellness and wellbeing. In order to have a good sexual relationship with a woman, you need to focus on the skills of caring, communication and confidence (otherwise known as the three cs).

 

The best news of this article is possibly the fact that sweatiness is a turn on. Men who sweat are actually oozing testosterone, and this is a biological turn on for many women. Therefore, if you find that you work up a bit of a sweat during a sex session, there is no need to worry.

 

When you are having sex, you should also consider the temperature of the room. A warm room is better than a cold one. If necessary, turn off the ear conditioner (or at least turn it down low) in the summer, or turn up the heating in the winter. Heat can cause the blood vessels to dilate and make the penis and vagina more likely to dilate and swell, leading enhanced arousal.

 

If you are having sex for reproductive purposes rather than purely for pleasure, try to ensure that the woman has an orgasm. If a woman has an orgasm she is more likely to become pregnant because the muscles in the pelvis contracting helps to draw the sperm up into the birth canal, where fertilsation can occur.

 

In order to make sure that an orgasm occurs make sure that you don’t rush into the main act. Foreplay such as stroking, sucking, licking and touching can help to start the process towards orgasm. You can then gradually build up the momentum until the grand finale.

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Talk Dirty to Me: Discussing Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs

As a nation, we may be more comfortable with seeing sex displayed in the media, but we still don’t like to talk about it. Communication is intrinsic to your sexual wellbeing, not to mention your relationship wellness! Not only is it important to cover sexual health issues like using contraception, you also need to talk to your partner about what you like and don’t like in the bedroom department. If you don’t discuss your turn-ons and turn-offs, things are never going to improve. Plus, believe it or not, talking about sex can, itself, be very sexy, and even enhance your relationship.

 

Talking about your turn-ons is a great way to get the sex conversation rolling. It can be tough to open up about the things you don’t like, or more boring-but-essential topics like protection and testing, so sharing sexy chat helps to get things started – and it could improve your experience of sex together. Many people seem to have the notion that everyone is the same when it comes to sex, but this simply isn’t true. Every individual has their own likes and dislikes in the bedroom, and it can take a long time – and a few mistakes – to figure out what works for you and your partner. If you’re committed to one another, no one is going to walk out when the other makes mistakes, and exploring and learning about each other is part of the fun. However, the problem comes when your partner continues to do something you don’t like, and you suffer in silence.

 

Your partner is not a mind-reader, and so may be going along for years thinking he’s getting you hot-and-heavy, when really you’re counting down the minutes until it’s over. In a similar vein, there may be something you’re dying to try, but your partner isn’t going to magically guess the things you want and start doing them. You can save a lot of time by just telling your partner what you want, and asking them if there’s anything they might like you to do. The best way to approach the conversation is to ask them about their turn-ons first, and then tell them something you’d be interested in trying. Just stick to one or two things during each conversation, as otherwise it could all get a bit much.

 

The good thing about opening up about your turn-ons in a conversation outside of the bedroom – rather than trying to get things going during sex – is that you can cover any worries you or your partner might have about the thing in question. Trying new things, although exciting, may be daunting, so talking about things beforehand will reassure you both about what will happen during sex and it’ll stay exciting. This may sound like a bit of a mood killer, but it’s actually quite the opposite! Instead of killing the romance of spontaneity, talking about sex can be quite a turn-on itself and a good way to get in the mood.

 

As well as talking about turn-ons outside of the bedroom, it’s better to talk about turn-offs before you start having sex than having to deal with them during sex. After all, would you like your partner to start criticising when you’re naked and vulnerable? Again, you may think this kills the romance, but even talking about your turn-offs can be quite saucy and a good laugh. Make sure you approach this subject from a place of love, non-judgement and good humour. Listing the things you both dislike may be hard to hear at first, but it will ultimately help you grow closer together – both in and out of the bedroom.

Categories: bedroom, Communication, nbsp, partner, talking, turn, turn-offs, turn-ons