Five Fantasies Your Partner Wants You to Make a Reality

If you think your partner doesn’t fantasise about sex as much as you do, think again; women have all kinds of saucy fantasies – some of which you’d never have even thought of. So if you want to give your partner’s sexual wellbeing a boost – as well as your own – why not suggest turning some of these top female fantasies into reality?

 

1. She Dominates You: According to Sexual Health and Wellness Writer Isabella Snow, ‘Women love a big strong man who can sweep them off their feet and carry them into the sunset – but you may be surprised to learn that one of the top female sex fantasies is to have that same big strong man begging for sexual release in the bedroom. The entire scenario revolves around you worshipping her body and begging for her attention. Why? She gets to be in control while enjoying total devotion from her man in the process.’

 

2. You Dominate Her: ‘The advent of the metrosexual is most commonly blamed for this top 10 female sex fantasy,’ says Snow. ‘It seems that, in many cases, modern, independent women actually prefer real men who aren’t afraid to embrace their testosterone. This woman fantasizes about you pinning her down and thrusting her thighs apart with your knee. She wants to feel your fingers snake through her hair and pull her head back; she wants to feel your teeth on her shoulder; she wants to be owned – if only while in the bedroom (after which, she’ll want a clear return to equality). This win-win female sex fantasy scenario allows her to fully indulge her femininity, while still espousing the merits of feminism.’

 

3. Teacher/Student: Snow comments, ‘You’ll be thrilled to know that the Britney Spears fantasy isn’t just for men: Women love the idea of dressing up like a schoolgirl and parading about for your viewing pleasure. Many would even like to take it a step further, playing the naughty tart who won’t stop teasing you until you pull her over your knee and give her the spanking she craves. That’s right: Loads and loads of grown women fantasise about getting a proper spanking from their man. A spanking from you is exciting for two reasons: Not only does this mild show of dominance hurt so good, but it also usually leads straight into hot, hot sex.’

 

4. Sex With A Stranger: ‘Most women wouldn’t have the chutzpah to act out this fantasy, but you’d better believe that most have thoroughly enjoyed thinking about it,’ Snow asserts. ‘No-strings-attached sex is something many women would love to experience, but most are dissuaded from it thanks to a lofty load of self-produced guilt. Nevertheless, her libido definitely gets fired up at the idea of a gorgeous male approaching her in a dark, smoky bar and taking her back to his room for a long, hot night of wild sex. This female sex fantasy appeals to her naughtiest side – the kinky one that rarely sees the light of day.’

 

5. Voyeurism: Snow notes, ‘If you think women don’t enjoy watching other people get it on, you’re completely mistaken. Your woman likes to watch for the same reasons as you do: It’s erotic, exhilarating and slightly taboo. She may fantasise about peeping through the neighbour’s bedroom window, spying on a kinky couple in the park or even catching a full-on orgy from the sidelines. Believe it when we tell you she enjoys “watching” just as much as you do; it allows to her be naughty without getting her hands dirty, so to speak.’

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Sexual Fantasies: What’s Going on in Your Imagination?

They say that, for a healthy sex life, there’s no harm in a bit of fantasising, and sharing those fantasies with you partner. But what exactly are sexual fantasies, how do they occur and how to they impact your sexual health and wellbeing? The Sinclair Intimacy Institute states, ‘Sexual fantasy refers to the mental image of a person, object, or situation, often but certainly not always involving a sexual component. Human sexuality is a dimension of social life that is often rich with many different sorts of fantasies. Sexual fantasies often entail mental scenarios involving persons other than one’s regular partner and include sexual activities considered culturally inappropriate or unacceptable.’

 

So why do some people have multiple, complicated sexual fantasies, while others don’t fantasise at all? According to the Sinclair Intimacy Institute, ‘People vary considerably in their ability to fantasise and in their enjoyment of this behaviour. Fantasies may supplant reality for some or may serve as a poor substitute of sexual reality for others. Fantasies are often triggered by external stimuli, such as an attractive stranger or an erotic picture, movie, or story.’ If looking at erotica, then, is a main trigger of sexual fantasies, does that mean that men are more likely to have outrageous sexual fantasies than women? Let’s take a look at the gender differences in sexual fantasies:

 

1. Male Sexual Fantasies: ‘In Western societies, males more often use sexually explicit material as a part of fantasy,’ the Sinclair Intimacy Institute explains. ‘The male fantasy world relies heavily upon novel experiences filled with culturally-defined beautiful women who are always sexually available and free. Pornographic magazines such as Playboy and Penthouse, as well as a wide array of so-called harder publications (because they depict explicit sex acts), attempt to capitalize upon such fantasies.’

 

2. Female Sexual Fantasies: ‘Females are more likely to prefer erotica with a “softer,” more imaginative side rather than the “harder,” more explicit forms preferred by many males,’ says the Sinclair Intimacy Institute. ‘Women often base their fantasies upon previous sexual experiences and tend to emphasize romance and intimacy. The onset of the women’s liberation movement has created a renaissance in erotic fiction aimed at women by women writers and film makers.’ In fact, in her book Women On Top, Nancy Friday maintains that women have started a sexual revolution for equality and should implement it with a rich fantasy life.

 

So when are you more likely to fantasise? The Sinclair Intimacy Institute notes, ‘People generally fantasise when engaging in autoerotic sex or masturbation. In his research findings, the prominent sexologist Alfred C. Kinsey reported that fantasy accompanied masturbation for the majority (64%) of females and virtually all males. About 2% of the women in his study sample reported achieving orgasm by fantasy alone. Older females were more prone to fantasise than younger females. Some people, particularly but not solely those from rural areas, have fantasies about sexual contact with animals.’

 

So if you have a fantasy about a particular sexual practice or activity, does that mean you want that fantasy to become reality? The Sinclair Intimacy Institute argues, ‘While fantasy may enhance actual sexual practices, it should not be assumed that a fantasised behaviour represents an unconscious desire. Thus, some women fantasise about being overpowered or even raped by a man, but this does not mean they actually want to be raped. Similarly, some men fantasise about multiple sexual partners, but would find it emotionally difficult to maintain several simultaneous relationships.’ Fantasies, then, are a way to explore your sexuality within the safety of your own imagination, so you don’t necessarily have to try them out in real life.

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