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You may feel that your child’s mental wellness and wellbeing is really nothing to do with their school or education, and is an issue for psychological professionals (if it’s an issue at all). In truth, a school often has to step into the role of amateur psychologists. Some schools in the United States even receive extra funding from the government for every child in their care who has special needs; this can be dangerous as it sometimes means that schools may try to diagnose children with mental disorders such as autism or ADHD simply to receive extra funding.


 


One couple, Michael and Emily Thompson, found themselves on the receiving end of this saga when they got a call from their son’s school, inviting them to come in to speak to his class teacher. When they got there, they were told that their first grader had high functioning autism, and should be placed into a special class in the school. They were asked to sign paper for this, which they refused to do. This was – understandably – an emotional experience for them and they then took their child to see an independent and licensed psychiatrist, who conducted his own tests and then informed them that their child did not have autism. They then went back to furiously confront the teacher, and later learned that the school had a monetary incentive for diagnosing children with special needs.


 


If you find yourself in this position, the most important thing to remember is not to panic. Somebody at your child’s school is most certainly not equipped to make this diagnosis for your child, and so you really don’t need to be concerned if such an idea is floated. You should certainly not sign any paperwork until you have had any diagnosis confirmed by an outside authority.

Everyone longs to retain the early stages of a relationship, where everything is exciting and passionate. It’s natural for some of that excitement to dissipate when you’ve been together for a long time, but you don’t have to wave goodbye to all of the passion – there are ways to ensure that the spark you once enjoyed so much stays put well into your relationship. Staying sexy is the first trick to keeping the spark alive in your relationship, as this is key to retaining the romance. It’s easy to fall into the trap of getting too comfortable with your partner and giving up on things you did when you were first together, but don’t forget these – these are things which will ensure you don’t lose the passion. Try leaving your partner a love note for them to find during the day or when they get home – it’s a quick and easy way to remind your lover that you are thinking of them. You could either write them a note for them to find in their coat pocket, or leave them a steamy message on the bathroom mirror.  You don’t have to become a poet overnight for this trick to work – a simple “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or “Thinking of you” can prove to be very effective. Along these lines, why not surprise your partner with a romantic dinner. Opt out of the ritual Friday night takeaway and make something a little more special – light some candles, put some wine on to chill and enjoy some time together.


Fancy making an effort with your underwear? You could offer your lover a sexy lingerie fashion show, either in one night or a sneaky preview of each outfit throughout the week. There’s nothing better than seeing your partner in a skimpy, sexy outfit and this can be a fun way to spark some passion into your love life. Don’t wait for a special occasion to do something special for your loved one, though – surprising them is the best way to make them feel special and thought of. Why not make them their special meal one evening when they’re least expecting it or surprise them with a small but thoughtful gift.  If you’d rather surprise them with something a little sexier, there are plenty of toys and sexual enhancers on the market which can really ignite the passion into your sex life.


Your attitude towards sex and your relationship may be what needs to shift though. You need to start thinking about your relationship as a third party – you, your partner and your relationship all need to participate in order for you to be healthy. This means taking time to slow down and spend time together, without your kids and without talk of bills or work. Spend time together without being sexual and just be. These moments ensure that your relationship stays a happy one, and that you don’t get bogged down with the mundane aspects of a life together. This may be in the form of a date night once a week to keep the romance alive, making time to say goodbye or greet each other when you get home from work. These things may seem small and insignificant, but they make all the difference when you’ve been with someone a long time. Making the effort will mean the difference between losing the passion early and keeping that spark alive for years to come.

If you have a child with special needs, you might find that people treat you differently. Many people admire parents of children with special needs, as though it takes an extra effort on their part to maintain family wellness. However, for Eliana Tardio, the proud mother of Emir and Ayelen, both with Down syndrome, having a child with special needs doesn’t make a parent any more special.


Eliana notes, ‘Usually people introduce me by saying things like: “she’s a very special mom,” or “this woman is outstanding for the work she’s doing with her kids and her community,” but honestly, I don’t deserve to be thought of as more special for loving my own kids, that’s what every good parent does!’ She explains that love doesn’t see differences; the challenge for parents with special needs children is to learn to see positive stuff where others would only see challenges.


‘Yes, we get challenged in many ways, and if you look at it from the outside, you may be deceived, seeing some sort of superhero fighting for the rights of their kids,’ she says. ‘In reality, the only thing happening, is a regular parent doing his best to learn and cope with a life that was never part of the plan.’ Eliana comments that parents of typical kids can be just as special, adding, ‘The diagnosis of a child doesn’t make anyone more special, but the individual determination to learn from any experience that we must face during our lives is what sets us apart.’


If you’re a parents of children with special needs, you have to spend more time specifically looking out for their wellbeing, as your kids will need extra care and services. When your children’s conditions are severe, you may even have to dedicate your life to them. Eliana notes, ‘It turns out though, it’s not so different when you have a typical child. You may decide on your own accord to give him more or less attention as he doesn’t need you as much as a child with special needs, but when you decide to give that child unconditional love and the best side of you every day, you are also a special parent.’


 





Rheumatoid arthritis comes with certain limitations, such as difficulty holding pens or doing up buttons, and so that nice stationary set or item of clothing you were going to buy for your friend may not be the best thing for their wellness. If you have a friend with rheumatoid arthritis – and a birthday coming up – there are many gifts you can give them that can help improve their wellbeing.


Firstly, get to know about the types of limitation that your friend has to deal with. Does he or she have a problem using regular utensils to prepare meals and to eat, or is that fine but reaching for items in their kitchen cupboards is a challenge? Once you have the low-down on their condition, there are several shops online that provide a wide range of items to help someone with rheumatoid arthritis cope with physical challenges.


Your friend might appreciate eating utensils with special grip handles that make them easier to hold and use or knives that work with a rocking motion – as these will greatly reduce stress on your friend’s hands and wrist. for gardening enthusiasts, tools with special grips or extra-long handles might be a good idea, or your friend might like a reacher or grabber which allows them to extend their reach and retrieve items. You can also buy door knob grippers, which make it easier to turn regular door knobs, special cushions that can be put on pens and pencils, and dressing aids, such as button hooks, zip pulls, and shoe horns.




If your friend struggles buttoning clothing, or has items that are difficult to put on, how about giving them a voucher to have the clothing altered by a professional tailor or seamstress? You could even do the alterations yourself if you are handy with a needle and thread – all you need is a few Velcro brand fasteners. Other vouchers your friend might appreciate include ones for lawn services, cleaning services, maintenance services, food shopping delivery or a catered or home-cooked meal once a month. You could also help them with a voucher for a massage, gym or fitness club membership, tai chi classes, hair salon services or even a spa day.


 







What Gifts are Good to Give Friends with Arthritis?





finance autismHow a nation pays for its health care is a problem that has been exercising – and continues to exercise – the best political and economic brains in the world. But even providing basic at-point-of-need care for everyone won’t solve how to care for disabled children in the US, many of them from families who have health insurance but not enough to provide for the 24-hour care their child needs.


A child with autism, for example, is likely also to have other special needs that require specialist care. A lifelong development disability, autism affects how a person communicates with and relates to the world and other people around them.


Autism is also a spectrum condition so while each person with autism may show similar problems, the condition will affect the individual in different ways and to a greater or lesser extent. Some of the more severe conditions associated with autism include cortical vision impairment and developmental cognitive disability.




The American charity, Autism Speaks, has calculated that the cost of caring for someone with autism over the course of their lifetime is $2.3million. With little or no state help available, that means the burden of providing that care falls squarely on the shoulders of families. And as estimates suggest that around 1 in 50 children will be born with autism, it is clear that this is a problem that is only going to grow.


John Nadworthy and Cynthia Haddad are the authors of The Special Needs Planning Guide. Each has a special needs child so the book is written with their own personal experience very firmly behind it.


The book aims to give parents the tools to providing the right care for their child and getting the family finances in shape to deal with the burden of taking care of a special needs child for all that child’s life. Theirs is a chronological guide, starting from birth through to adulthood, offering advice on finance, insurance, legal matters, state benefits and – importantly – dealing with the family and emotional issues around a disabled child.


Even a family with no financial worries can benefit from advice on dealing with the care of a special needs child.







Autism: How Can Families Finance Lifelong Care for a Child?