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Showing posts with label focus. Show all posts

Going along to a yoga class seems like a cool thing to do, but don’t you get disappointed by the lack of attention when you get there? Or, the pace is too fast and you almost get too much attention, as you stick out like a sore thumb. Unless your financial wellness is so strong that you can afford a private instructor, you need a way to experience yoga’s benefits to your wellbeing without the competition that comes with packed classes. Luckily, there is one: Mysore self-practice.


 


Fitness expert Geraldine Beirne explains, ‘Ashtanga vinyasa is one of the best-known styles of yoga and has been embraced by millions of westerners seeking a toned body and a calm mind. But the popular “led primary” classes – where teachers call out the postures of a dynamic set sequence – can be intimidating. And all too often, classes can be packed, with students having no chance of their poor alignment being corrected. But there is an alternative. Mysore self-practice is the traditional way of practising ashtanga yoga and offers a highly personalised approach without the price tag attached to one-to-ones, and with all of the group energy of a conventional class. Here, you will be addressed by name, the teacher will know your practice inside out, and best of all, for me at least, this “class” is quiet – there’s very little talking and no new age music.’


 


According to Beirne, ‘Most yoga studios carry mysore sessions on their timetables, but many people are put off either because they don’t know what it is or they don’t fancy the idea of a three-hour class that starts at 6.30am. In fact, you can drop into a mysore session at any time and stay for as long as you wish. For beginners, this could be half an hour, and for the more advanced up to an hour and 45 minutes. It is a wonderful way for beginners and advanced practitioners alike to develop a self-practice that you can then take anywhere…Teachers do not lead the students through the sequence with generalised instructions or demonstrations. Instead, experienced students turn up and get on with it. Complete beginners are taught the sun salutations and then the first few postures of the standing sequence. When they have learnt this, the teacher adds a new posture when he or she feels you have memorised the sequence so far and you are competent (in so far as you can ever be competent) in it. And if you forget, the teacher is there to help you.’


 


But why is that a better way to do ashtanga yoga? ‘Practising in this way gives you the space to focus,’ Beirne notes. ‘The cue to move on to the next posture comes from your own breath, instead of a teacher’s instructions. Students can therefore spend a little longer working at their own pace on something they find challenging. In effect, you become your own teacher. If there is something you are unable to do, the teacher will give you an easier version…Everyone is working at their own pace, so it might appear – to a novice – that everyone is doing something different. This, arguably, might cut down on the element of competition and comparing which can creep into any form of group exercise. Little verbal instruction is given, and when it is given, it is whispered, for the benefit of the one person it is intended for…Students are required to face distractions and the wandering mind in order to come back to a focused state, instead of passively listening to a teacher or watching others.’

As a man, your sexual health and wellness isn’t just about you getting yours; you also need to please your woman. Hitting her pleasure points boosts your sexual wellbeing as well as your partner’s, leading to better, all-over mind-blowing sex. Here are our tips and tricks to pleasing your woman – just make sure you don’t use them all up in one night!


 


1. The Pre-Coital Massage: Massage the length of your partner’s legs, starting at her upper thighs and working down to her ankles. Once you get down low, focus on your partner’s feet, kneading her heels and the soles. Stretch out each toe individually and, if hygiene allows, have a little suck – you’ll have her ready for the main event in no time.


 


2. Ask Her About it: You’re not a mind reader, so just ask your partner what she wants from you. According to Barbara Bartlik, MD, a professor of psychiatry at CornellUniversity, ‘Most women appreciate men who want to make sure they’re satisfied. If she notices you’re working hard to please her, she’ll be more likely to return the favour.’


 


3. Love Foreplay: It’s not about how often you give her foreplay; it’s about the quality. Michael Perry, PhD, a sex therapist in Encino, California, warns, ‘If you act as if you’re just going through the motions to get to the sex, she’s going to notice, and it will take longer for her to get excited. When a man is loving what he’s doing, it’s going to show through and turn her on, too.’


 


4. Go Gently on the G-Spot: While her clitoris is an obvious place that needs attention, you need to give it your focus in the right way. Cathy Winks, author of The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-spot, explains, ‘Direct stimulation of the clitoris can actually be painful. It’s much better to rub the clitoral hood [where the tops of the labia meet] or to rub along the side of the clitoris than it is to go straight for the head of it.’ Birch adds, ‘Focus on the clitoris, then don’t focus on the clitoris. The clitoris reacts best to being teased, so you want to lick it and suck on it a little, build a little tension, then back off on it a bit before going at it again.’


 


5. Kissing Keeps Her Going: When you get close, really close, to the end point, you can forget how you got here in the first place. Britton notes, ‘Women get their greatest erotic pleasure from frequent, passionate kissing. If you get the sense that she’s starting to lose interest, kissing is always the best way to bring her back into it.’ You don’t always need to frantically swab out her tonsils to show your passion; try to mix things up with an occasional closed-mouth kiss on her nose, eyes, and forehead.


 


6. The ‘Figure Eight’ Technique: When you’re giving full oral attention to her downstairs area, the super-sensitive area around her clitoris responds well to a figure-eight pattern. Start by gently sucking until the little button swells, and then carefully expose the area with your fingers. Circle the clitoris to the left with the slippery underside of your tongue, and then circle it to the right. Following on from this, use the rougher top side of your tongue to flick from right to left and then up and down. Finish by doing figure eights, alternating between your tongue’s smooth underside and firmer tip, and constantly varying the degrees of pressure you use.

Many people do not look forward to visiting the dentist, but having an excellent dental provider can make your visits more pleasant and productive. It can be challenging to find the right dentist for your family, and these tips can help lead you to the best person.


 


1. Check Your Insurance Coverage


If you have insurance, your cost for dental procedures should be greatly reduced. Therefore, it is important to find a dentist that accepts your dental insurance.


 


You can usually find this information quickly by going to your insurance company’s website and searching for dental providers in your area. Before you arrive at your appointment, it is also wise to confirm with the office staff that your insurance is still accepted.


 


2. Determine Your Needs


There are many different types of dentists, so determining your needs will help you narrow down your search. If you have young children, you might want to focus on locating a pediatric dentist. If you suspect that you need advanced dental procedures, locating an oral surgeon could be a good choice.


 


Make a list of the characteristics and qualifications that matter most to you when choosing a dentist. Focusing on the things that are important to you will help you make a wise choice.


 


3. Ask Friends and Neighbors for Recommendations


Traditional dental marketing techniques focus on telling you why a certain dentist is the right choice for you. These materials can be helpful, but it is easier to trust word of mouth recommendations from people you know well. Instead of just asking general questions, focus on specific questions to get the information that is important to you. For instance, you could ask your friends, “Does your dentist recommend unnecessary procedures?”, “Do you have to wait past your appointment time?” or “Are the hygienists good with children?”


 


4. Research Before Making an Appointment


It pays to complete your research before you ever make a dentist appointment. Take some time to read the dentist’s website, and carefully note the information about his services, policies and procedures. You may receive postcards from local dentists advertising their new practice. This is one example of traditional dental marketing, revolutionized for modern application. Do additional research into the dentists that send you advertising to make sure they are professionals.


 


Many websites also provide information regarding the dentist’s educational background and specialties. Understanding a dentist’s focus can help you make a more informed decision. If one dentist in your area has revolutionized the treatment for gingivitis and you have gum disease, that dentist would probably be an excellent choice for you. Spending some time researching does require a bit of extra effort, but it can save you the trouble of having to switch dentists later because you are not satisfied.

You may think that struggling with an alcohol problem is the most difficult thing that your mental/emotional health could possibly deal with, but actually the bit just after you manage to quit alcohol is arguably even worse. Alcohol withdrawal is such an unpleasant thing that it often puts people off straight away when they are trying to quit.


 


It’s not easy to deal with alcohol withdrawal, but it is important to remember that with the right support, withdrawal will not kill you, whereas drinking can do serious damage to your wellness and wellbeing (and that of those around you) and actually could end up killing you in the end.


 


One of the best ways to deal with alcohol withdrawal is distraction. Ideally you want to move your (or the person you know who is withdrawing) attention away from the feelings of craving a drink and onto something more neutral. One tip is that whenever you feel that you are about to lose control and have a drink, stop immediately and focus on your surroundings. Try to describe them to yourself in lots of detail. This helps to divert your mind away from the negative thoughts that may be plaguing it and focus on something else. It also breaks the loop in your head. Don’t be afraid to talk out loud as a form of distraction, especially to a friend, relative or counsellor, but you could also strike up a conversation with a stranger, for example at the bus stop.


 


Imagery is another effective way to stop yourself thinking about alcohol withdrawal. For example, you can imagine that you are telling the cravings to stop, and as you do so you can picture in your head a big red stop sign. Or instead, you can focus on the image of your favourite peaceful spot and imagine what it would be like if you were there.

One bedroom problems many couples face is getting the man to last long enough while making love. At least of half of guys experience premature ejaculation at least once, so it’s not only your partner. Many men doubt that this sexual health problem can be fixed, but not only is this a myth, your sexual wellbeing has a huge impact on your relationship wellness and so it’s important to talk about ways to boost his stamina in the bedroom. Here are three easily-learned tricks to get him in control of his body – and yours!


  1. Talk about technique. Your man may think it’s normal to select a position that consists of deep penetration and thrusting, but this approach is likely to bring him to a quicker orgasm, and leave you unsatisfied. When you and your partner are being intimate, try a few alternative positions which require less heavy penetration from him, but enable him to grind a bit more. This will allow him to last a lot longer during sexual intercourse.

  2. Slow it down. Getting him to give you more foreplay can be a great strategy, and this will help to get him used to things prior to love making. Then, when things do progress to intercourse, he will be more able and comfortable with managing your heightened excitement. It’s best to start sex with slow thrusting, until he starts to relax and become accustomed to the feeling. Once this first stage is over, you can start to speed things up.

  3. Don’t let him over think it. Your partner’s mental wellbeing – and yours for that matter – plays an important role in sexual performance. During sex, your body is filled with sensations, but unfortunately a lot of guys attempt to shut this out. It is significantly better for both of you is he is in tune with all of his sensations, rather than focusing on pelvic arousal and pessimistic thoughts about how he’s underperforming. It’s not about the destination; it’s about connecting and having fun on the journey. Remember that and the end goal will take care of itself.